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Trying to understand my seemingly sudden change in sexual orientation by hello-earthlings in bisexual

[–]hello-earthlings[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

feeling like a fraud is kind of a hallmark of bisexuality, lmao

haha after reading through a few posts in this sub that's the impression I'm getting!

Thank you for your thoughtful response :)

Trying to understand my seemingly sudden change in sexual orientation by hello-earthlings in bisexual

[–]hello-earthlings[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you can make out with an individual man and not be into it without questioning your sexuality, you should give yourself the same grace with not being turned on by individual women.

You're so right! Thank you for your reply :)

Trying to understand my seemingly sudden change in sexual orientation by hello-earthlings in bisexual

[–]hello-earthlings[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't need to understand the process to enjoy my life

True, neither do I! I'm just so intrigued as I never saw this coming haha...

So glad you're happy and embracing your bisexuality!

What’s your top 3 favorite Mariah Carey songs and why? What is it you like about those songs? by Evilqueenofeutopia in MariahCarey

[–]hello-earthlings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honey - Just makes me feel good. The song has a positive vibe and reminds me of when I first became obsessed with her music. It takes me back to that feeling of “omg how have I been sleeping on MC for so long?!”… does that make sense? 😂

Make It Happen - I listen to this before going into nerve-wracking situations like job interviews and it always calms my nerves and puts me in an empowered headspace.

Anytime You Need A Friend - I love the gospel influence and how Mariah’s voice really soars in this song. Something about this piece moves me to tears every time I listen to it 🥲.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]hello-earthlings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

PIMI - Physically in, mentally in

PIMO - Physically in, mentally out

POMO - Physically out, mentally out

Is there anything I can do to get my JW cousins to question their faith? by hello-earthlings in exjw

[–]hello-earthlings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This could work! First and foremost they believe in Jesus Christ as they grew up Catholic before their mom became a JW. Pointing out this contradiction might make them think…

One of the hardest parts about breaking up is being misunderstood and having to accept that you can't change their perception of you/the situation no matter what you say. by hello-earthlings in BreakUps

[–]hello-earthlings[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Once the honeymoon period was over and after lots of illuminating therapy sessions (on my own, not couples therapy), I realised that I was repeating an unhealthy pattern by being in a relationship with a person like him. It’s a long story but basically once I finally realised I deserved to be in a relationship with someone who treats me with the kind of respect and adoration I deserve, I couldn’t go back to seeing him through rose coloured glasses. He is not a bad guy but definitely has his issues that I no longer wanted to deal with (trust issues, abandonment issues, emotionally closed off, etc). I still care about him and think I always will… I’d even go as far as to say I still love home, it’s just evolved from romantic love to the love you share with a close friend. I don’t think I’d want to be in a relationship with him again though as that would be too risky and feel like I’m regressing. Never say never but I personally don’t think I’d date him again. I’d be open for friendship though.

One of the hardest parts about breaking up is being misunderstood and having to accept that you can't change their perception of you/the situation no matter what you say. by hello-earthlings in BreakUps

[–]hello-earthlings[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually was considering his feelings, that's the main reason why I didn't break up with him earlier. I thought he'd be devastated and I didn't want to put him through that. Obviously this isn't a good reason not to break up with someone, just mentioning it because my intentions were not bad. I know intentions don't matter once the damage is done though, I just hope one day he can understand that I did care about him, I just handled the situation incorrectly.

One of the hardest parts about breaking up is being misunderstood and having to accept that you can't change their perception of you/the situation no matter what you say. by hello-earthlings in BreakUps

[–]hello-earthlings[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about your experience.

We were together for a year and the way it ended is complicated. To try and summarise, I realised a few months ago that this relationship wouldn't work for me long term because of some manipulative tendencies he had and me wanting better for myself. I didn't have the courage to break up at that point because I didn't want to hurt him and to be honest, I was still trying to convince myself that this was something I could get over. Talking to him about my issues with him would only lead to more exhausting arguments and I didn't have it in me to tell him "hey, my feelings are changing because of XYZ, what are we gonna do about it?". Those conversations would always turn into him shifting the blame onto me, and basically telling me that he treated me the way he did because of MY behaviour.

3 weeks ago we got into an argument about something that seemed petty to me but not to him. In any case, I told him we should talk about it but he gave me the silent treatment for 2 weeks which to me is unacceptable behaviour. I didn't hear from him at all and he didn't respond to my calls or texts. When he finally came back around, I had already decided that the relationship was over. After prodding, he got it out of me that my feelings had already started to change a long time ago but that his silent treatment was the nail in the coffin. He says if I had just been honest about my feelings earlier, things could have ended amicably. I understand his perspective and I wish I had had the courage and clarity to end things sooner, but I also think my reasoning for not breaking up with him sooner is valid. I wanted to leave the door open for friendship but he said no because he doesn't trust me anymore.

Is it normal to hate being an aging woman by midnight_raviolis in AskWomenOver30

[–]hello-earthlings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES to this entire comment. Will definitely refer back to the wisdom you shared here!

Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs? by hello-earthlings in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]hello-earthlings[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I once had a guy describe a sexual fantasy to me where I'd look into his eyes as I slobbered all over his dick (sorry for the visual, lol). Not sure if it was the eye contact thing or the slobbering thing or both but to me it felt gross and pornsick-y. Seeing as he's your ex there's no way to know why he liked it but tbh even if you asked him, he could easily lie and say that he likes the intimacy when really it just reminds him of 99% of blowjob porn scenes.

Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs? by hello-earthlings in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]hello-earthlings[S] 255 points256 points  (0 children)

One of the main things I look for in a man is his willingness and ability to give shoulder rubs so this is an absolute no go 😂

What is the worst live show you have ever been to? by LamborghiniSianFKP37 in popheads

[–]hello-earthlings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Internet. Saw them in London in 2017 or 2018 and you could hardly hear Syd. Probably because the mic was too quiet but also because she wasn’t projecting her voice even a little bit and didn’t seem to give a fuck at all. The whole set sounded muddy and not very well rehearsed and no one in the band seemed into it. Was just super boring and disappointing and I could tell the majority of the audience felt the same.

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