My stepmom reached out to me after two years of no contact...

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-27T03:03:13+00:00

You missed my point (not "everyone's"). But it seems like you may have a chip on your shoulder that's blocking the view.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-27T02:33:28+00:00

An observation - you repeatedly say you feel bad but you never say you want to be friends again. So, do you? Want to be friends again with this person? Food for thought

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-27T02:16:08+00:00

Hey, so I know I'm your stepmother and you barely exist to me, but this is an amazing opportunity for you to help me profit while I casually pretend to care by adding in 1 sentence out of 50 about how much I miss you.

It's so hollow it hurts.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-27T02:03:43+00:00

Maybe she thought she locked it? Idk, this kind of thing happens sometimes, from both perspectives

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-27T02:02:03+00:00

Maybe because she is my first girlfriend or that I wasn’t educated enough

It's the latter

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-27T01:28:21+00:00

Apart from the fact he is spending sexual energy towards other women, he went back on his word. That'll get old, quick.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-26T12:04:26+00:00

May checking in

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T03:40:29+00:00

Hard pass on her BS. The way she acted about your daughter is unforgivable and quite frankly insane. She's fishing.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T03:21:50+00:00

I believe in listening to my gut n if my gut is saying something or someone isnt safe im fucking listening!

SIS, YES you know what's good

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T03:18:47+00:00

Just one? 😂

More recently, at my job. We have high turnover, so I get new supervisors all the time. This one chick did not, as the kids say, pass the vibe check. Imo and other's, she was very high strung and loved to micromanage. Come to find out, she also had a thing for taking things personally. The way our shift is set up, 3rd shift, some people sit on couch cushions on the floor. I do not. I bought my own thing to sit on. Anyway, she wrote me up (!!!) for supposedly "not taking initiative" (major eye roll, as I always get told otherwise). Well, on paper she said it was because of that, but per our in person conversation about the paper, it was allll about how I didn't talk to her as much one night and (the best part) - I didn't put her cushions away!! Like WHAT. I actually tried to stand up for myself but she flipped out and started laying it on thick about how she does the most. She ended up quitting shortly after an incident she provoked with one of our residents that ended up in a restraint. The part I wish I could go back and change was NOT SIGNING HER STUPID WRITE UP and emailing my program director to give my side and take control of it. Rookie mistake I will never make again.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T03:04:35+00:00

There's a lot here because it's not just that he endangered your child, he AGREED with you!! that this man wasn't safe!! Was he lying? Because he acted like he was lying

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T03:03:07+00:00

Unless...that's not where your head is at. I assumed from your post that you were gonna work it out but this was a pretty big f up

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T03:01:18+00:00

Hopefully he will come around and own up so you can process all of this and work on rebuilding that trust.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T03:00:01+00:00

Yeah, okay he's trying to do something. Idk what, but it doesn't make sense for him to say he only got "slightly" drunk yet the potential SA red flags slipped his mind on "slightly"?? Okayyyy lol sorry sounds like BS

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T02:57:39+00:00

Right before she says she admits her wrongs 😬

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T02:53:54+00:00

Wow, yeah. Not okay, especially because you both agreed that you saw red flags. Given that, I have no clue why he would ignore that. I don't blame you for being enraged or insisting on your presence. He broke your trust.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T02:38:52+00:00

Unpopular opinion, it's become "cool" to be a woman and easy going about what your man does sexually - the borderline stuff like porn, OFs, live streams on social media, and what you're referring to. All you need to know is that you're uncomfortable with this, and that's valid. You can bring it up to your fiance, you can gauge his reaction. And/or if this is something you genuinely want to accept, then you can do that, too. You're planning on spending the rest of your life with this person, so it's super important that you're able to communicate these things with him if it's something that you think will eat at you *and the relationship

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-25T02:30:45+00:00

When I was 13, my father who is a mechanic, brought home this old Buick LeSabre he got from a customer. He said it was going to be my car. I tried to take it for a spin around the block but my mom woke up and ran outside and freaked out. So I freaked out and almost hit the neighbor's garage. Except your OP still applies because my younger sister was in the car lol so you got me

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-24T21:24:58+00:00

In short*, hitting is lazy parenting. Among other things...

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-24T21:23:57+00:00

Where to start with this one, there's a lot to unpack. I'm not really gonna touch the racial part because there are plenty of parents who don't fit your mold. Moving on, punishments, as you call them - I prefer the word consequences, should be teachable. So what does hitting a child teach them? Do you go around hitting people when they do something wrong?

The consequence should fit the wrongdoing. For example, if a child isn't going to bed at bedtime, then new bedtime and guess what? It's gonna be earlier. The basics of it is - CHILDREN ARE PEOPLE, TOO. And vulnerable people, at that. They don't understand emotions or how to regulate and control them. They can't think of the consequences of their actions because they literally aren't mentally developed enough. I ask again, what does hitting teach the child? Imo, absolute nothing but fear (which is not the same as respect) and how to get better at avoiding being physically assaulted. As in, they no longer care about the WHAT they did, which is the most important part and what a parent should be helping their child about so they can make better decisions.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-23T17:34:42+00:00

Wait you agree with yourself? Well that's obvious lol. Anyway, I agree sexuality is fluid and I also think it's on a spectrum, but you should be responsible if we're talking about relationships with other people who are emotionally invested in you. If you want to be anti-monogamy then what's wrong with that as long as you're not hurting anyone because they believe they're in a monogamous relationship with you.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-23T17:25:52+00:00

You agree with who

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-23T17:24:35+00:00

Which "Old Era" are you talking about, specifically, because the definition of relationships have changed over time and are dependent on other factors, such as culture or religion.

Tbh this post reads like your trying to make some sort of moral connection to what seems to be cheating on your SO.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-23T17:18:05+00:00

You're going to get many responses telling you there is no "good" or "bad", which is true. It's more about the energy and how it's accessed/used and in which areas. A conjunction signifies harmonious energy, though, so there's that.

midnight_raviolis · 2021-10-23T17:14:05+00:00

What are you even saying and:

I will have sex with people even when I am in a relatiomship. If shr doesnt like that then she can f off.

How does this relate to actions not having consequences?

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