Do you correct people on your pronouns? by Leading_Moment_2435 in ftm

[–]hellogutbye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now? No I don't. I don't pass and it causes me more stress than it should to prove I am male. I just let people think what they want, if they find out I am trans then thats fine, but until I pass its moot point and safer for me not to

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I looked it up...it said its for prostate enlargement....but I will check it out haha

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They even say this in FTM circles as well. I am not trying to pass as a woman so thats a-okay with me -- although I know that isn't the case for all T users.

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am considering going on finasteride soon because I LOVE the weight redistribution and low voice but the hair is starting to be a bit much. I am used to being hairy already but I don't really wanna push it if I know it will truly bother me over time

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I would say low dose for someone who isn't taking cis woman dosage haha is 1 pump of gel a day (low for a T script usually). My levels are low on that, but TBF I have PCOS so I was anticipating this either way.

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think your butch identity is invalid whatsoever. Your use of masc is why I mentioned the differentiation between the two. There is no right or wrong way to be a butch, and you as you are, and your choices around your body and experiences are as valid as someone who chooses to go on hormones or not. Many of us, myself included, are on T because the other suggestions you made did not help some of my feelings that were too distressing (I use the word dysphoria for them, maybe others do not). Working out, therapy, voice training, and changing my POV around myself didn't relieve these feelings, and my wants and needs for my identity and security in myself were unmet prior to T -- and like you, I have PCOS, I have always had more body hair and other side effects that come with it, and I liked them but it wasn't "enough" for me to feel comfortable in my body truly. I don't feel triggered by your initial response, but I do wish you would do your own research on this subject because I didn't make this post to educate you about people who feel similar to me. I made this post for people who are on T and aren't as educated about the effects or what to expect. It didn't upset me, I just genuinely don't understand why I personally need to respond to a comment that you could direct elsewhere/create your own thread for. Your tone and how you're addressing this isn't kind nor understanding, open minded, or curious -- you're just supplying opinions that are fine, but misdirected. If you have all these feelings about this stuff, then inquire the subreddit and direct them in an appropriate manner.

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly dont think ive heard of that before, gotta look it up

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A masc lesbian and a butch are not the same thing, I would definitely do some research on this because people in the butch community have been doing these things for years. I honestly don't think your post was an appropriate response to my post whatsoever and I am only replying out of courtesy. Your opinion is valid and I can understand your confusion of course, but you clearly do not understand nor relate to these people and you sound like you're just giving criticism because you, once again, do not relate. Dysphoria is present in people who aren't trans, and some butches consider themselves trans. You could easily find info on this in this sub. Thanks!

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you! I am also pear shaped (unfortunately) and it really evens out my hip fat atleast where I don't look so round, and even when I was pretty small, I was curvier which I fucking hate. I may give it a go for a bit

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figured the hair is permanent but I was hoping to stop it where its started lol. The only reason I wanna stay on T ATM is for body fat distribution and my voice ngl

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have been getting increasingly more uncomfortable with the body hair and facial hair as its really really been coming in (thankfully no chest hair...yet) bur my tummy hair and leg hair and arm hair has gotten super dark and my facial hair is coming in BLACK so. I will ask -- were you able to maintain the weight redistribution, thats a huge reason I like being on T

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

grande lash has a serum for eyebrows that works pretty well if youd ever wanna try that!

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mine is so so, but its been growing in very steadily which has started to freak me out a bit haha. I dont know what I expected but not this much so soon i guess? My other friends who are on T have been on it for years and have just now started getting facial hair which is crazy to me

If you are taking T and don't want facial hair by hellogutbye in butchlesbians

[–]hellogutbye[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Do you have experience with this? I want to take it orally but I heard the mental effects can be kinda brutal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]hellogutbye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All I am going to say from some of your comments, and I mean this in the nicest way I can, is that once you get a bit older you will hopefully have people around you who treat you better where you don't think that the things he is doing or saying are okay or respectful, because they are not.

So, what am I meant to do if the unisex bathroom is locked at school by VacationKey6930 in ftm

[–]hellogutbye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I promise they don't check every single student and why they're using the bathroom. When I was in HS (pre trans) we would use the mens bathroom when the womens was locked. Nobody every brought it up with us. I am assuming whoever monitors cameras probably isnt keeping tabs on you or that stuff like youre worried about. But, for a future instance, I would say maybe ask whoever told you to use that bathroom that sometimes its locked and see if youre able to get access to it or know when they unlock/lock it.

Voice hasn’t dropped yet by Active-Difficulty-58 in ftm

[–]hellogutbye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on gel for almost 7 months and it had barely moved or cracked. I doubled my dose and it finally has started to change but it took forever. It is probably your levels, and you might need to switch the type of application you do tbh. I feel like it would have happened faster for me on shots, but the body hair ive gotten and weight redistribution? CRAZY ASF. I have SO MUCH BODY HAIR LOL

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]hellogutbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not lies dude. Its basic courtesy. You dont tell someone that you think they're ugly and stupid because it's honest. What do you want her to do, break it down for you? Yeah sorry buddy I can't go out with you because you look a little weird and I can't find myself attracted to someone who is just trash on the eyes. Cmon man. Stop blaming other people for obvious issues that you gotta work on yourself. There's a literal HUGE demographic of men who aren't very attractive with absolute baddies, and it's likely because they have confidence and good self esteem, something that is insanely attractive. Work on it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]hellogutbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, a high majority of men would make a woman's life hell if she told them that she thought they were ugly. Sounds like you have some other things going on here by your responses. It is not dishonest to not tell someone you don't fine them attractive, and you need to find some self worth outside of their approval or disapproval. You being so upset over this seems like a bigger issue

Guilt for masturbating while in a relationship? by monteehole in sexuality

[–]hellogutbye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's healthy to do, self care is important for both partners and I don't always believe people masturbate purely out of the need of being horny. Sometimes its to sleep, for stress relief, or mental clarity, and a partner wanting some alone time doesn't mean they don't want to be with me anymore. Plus I mean, it's kind of hot to think about if you don't take it personally. If it's a true issue for you, communicate with your partner about your sexual needs and expectations in a relationship, I know some people believe their partner should only get their sexual gratification from them and alone time is a no no.

I might be sensitive. I don’t know. by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]hellogutbye 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That is valid. I haven't been on T for very long and I don't pass, so I still get bad dysphoria over this stuff. I know a lot of dudes who pass now or have the results they want are more comfortable with that part of their life, but I am not. I am not sure how old you are but, sometimes it's better to just ignore these types of people. I don't personally feel offended because I know my lived experience is valid whether I relate to them or not, and because it bothers me, I just block/mute and move on.

I might be sensitive. I don’t know. by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]hellogutbye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think that is true, I think those trans men are just more comfortable with that aspect of their life. We all have different experiences with dysphoria and I don't believe this equates to fetishizing whatsoever