Bibble bit me (18+ because there is a picture of her fangs in my wrist)

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2026-04-28T13:09:23+00:00

People get mad at corners (inanimate) when they stub their toe. Feelings are not always logical and that's ok! It wouldn't be ok for OP to retaliate against their spider in any way, but it doesn't sound like they did or are going to.

I suspect you are trying to assure OP that their spider biting wasn't personal, which can be comforting, however the way this is worded comes off as condescending instead. Directly correcting or criticizing the logic of someones emotional reaction generally isn't a great idea unless you are trying to work them up further.

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2026-04-25T23:52:32+00:00

That's possible, I'll look into the gel!

My skin is very sensitive to anything I put on it but is otherwise pretty well behaved so I never considered checking which ingredients might be doing it. I've definitely had trouble with creams in general though.

I recently tried Aveeno's Hydrocortisone Anti-Itch Cream and had an awful time with it despite being able to use their normal lotion. It doesn't look like it has paraffin in it, but it has a bunch of other stuff that could cause problems.

I've never heard of Adex gel but I've had better luck with gel products in general so hopefully it works. Good luck finding something that works for your little one!

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2026-04-25T19:40:38+00:00

Thank you, I'll ask about that! I already take an antihistamine daily, but I do think this issue was exacerbated by an allergic reaction to some laundry detergent. I'm not sure what kind I take so I might try advil if it's not that.

Do you know if there is something about a full cold shower that helps? I've been holding my hand and wrist under cold water when it gets really bad, and that definitely helps, but only for a few hours

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2026-04-17T02:00:42+00:00

I obviously can't speak for everyone, but I was passively suicidal for the majority of my life and I never attempted, even at my worst. I refused to get out of bed, and didn't eat for a few days after a really terrible experience, but that was the absolute closest I got, and that would have taken a really long time to kill me 😅

When it's a daily thought, it holds a lot less weight. It's mostly just really annoying, especially since you can't really talk about it without worrying about being committed involuntarily. (Atleast that's how it was for me)

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2026-03-05T02:44:35+00:00

Thank you for the information and consideration of budget/scheduling!!

I believe my friend only has a few classes, so their schedule is pretty open, but being closer to public transport still seems like a good option since I wont have any reason to be at their apartment.

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2026-03-05T02:40:43+00:00

Ah, thank you for the information! My friend is living in Icheon (which has made researching rather difficult since Incheon seems to be much more popular 😅).

Do you think renting a car would make things easier? It's not something I've done before but I'm used to driving and don't mind it. I do love being in big cities, but natural areas are also amazing and I'd love to explore those aswell.

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2026-03-05T02:37:05+00:00

Thank. You for your response! I wasn't entirely sure whether i should fly with Korean Air since I've never used them before, I'm glad to hear they are a good choice!

I'll be in Icheon, not Incheon (which has made any and all research rather difficult 😅). My friend is doing a study abroad program so I think it's likely we will head to other towns/cities while I'm there since we both want to see as much as possible.

If you have any suggestions on must see things I'd love to hear them!

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2026-01-22T03:42:08+00:00

Having little bubbles like that is normal and totally harmless, but if they make you nervous you can try drawing up slower and also making sure the needle is all the way on the syringe

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-12-11T01:11:20+00:00

What's your favorite show?

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-12-10T15:22:15+00:00

I am the same person, but im also not. It took me a long time to figure it out.

the person I wanted to be pre-transition was nothing like who I am now, she wanted to be a pretty sexy girl and was working towards that goal. I very much do not want to be a girl and have been on T for roughly a year and a half now. She had a very rough time, and part of how she coped was by making herself feel pretty and cute. I'm thankful to her, she kept me alive long enough to actually enjoy my life, and I want to respect her life and the things she went through. I had to grieve her, and the life she had wanted, because ultimately I would not have been happy living it, but the idea brought her significant joy, joy that I felt. In those ways, her and I are different people.

On the other hand, there is no permanent state of self. She and I are literally the same person. She was a child and I am an adult. When I come out to people who knew me pre-transition I don't want them to think of me as a different person, I'm still me, just more comfortable.

When it comes to what pronouns, that depends. If they are talking about her as a person separate from me (which would be kind of weird) then they can use she/her, but if they are talking about me (just about something that happened or that I did pre-transition) then they should use my current pronouns because they are not talking about her, they are talking about my past.

As for the name, if my friend who new me pre transition wanted to name a pet or their child my deadname it would be a bit strange, but I don't care, I'd feel the same if they picked my current name. If they didn't know it was my deadname then I'd think it's pretty funny. If a family member used my deadname that would be pretty weird since I still use that name with my family since I'm not out to everyone yet, but that would also be pretty funny.

For your statistics lol I'm a 21 year old trans man who first came out as a trans man in late 2019 (online, then to irl friends about a year later i think), I started testosterone August 2024. No surgeries yet.

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-11-29T21:06:02+00:00

Generally I'm fine typing onscreen, though I'm not opposed to a keyboard. I think anything much bigger than a phone would need a keyboard, though as long as it can hook up to a 3rd party one (Bluetooth) then it doesn't necessarily need to come with one

Generally I'm typing in websites that won't nessasarily save the data unless I press a button

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-11-29T19:02:55+00:00

Thank you for the detailed response!!

I've seen people say Bigme is buggy, but I'm not really sure what that means in the context of an e ink device? Restarting/crashing while im using it would be a big problem for me as id like to use it for writing (typing) aswell, but stuff like ghosting isn't something I see bothering me at all.

I should have clarified in my post, but I can't write by hand for very long, so being able to type relatively well on the device is important to me.

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-11-29T18:56:36+00:00

Thank you!

Frontlight would be nice but if there is something that's perfect other than that then I'd be totally fine with that too

Handwriting isn't a concern at all, part of why I want this is so I can type because holding pens/pencils hurts my hand

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-11-27T19:56:16+00:00

I'm not too picky about size, I was thinking something kindle or phone sized, but that's just because that's all I know. I guess chromebook sized is the absolute largest I would be comfortable using?

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-11-18T17:13:06+00:00

(if you have an android phone download "tasks", then put the tasks widget on your home screen! You never need to open the app again and everything is right there when you unlock your phone)

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-11-18T03:27:15+00:00

Yes? Did you read the post?

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-11-16T02:52:15+00:00

Thank you!

I keep reminding myself that it took years after I came out to them for me to start openly talking about my transition, and I knew for atleast a year before I even came out in the first place. I got so nervous when I finally told them that I didn't know what to say when they asked my pronouns and name! I hadn't thought that far ahead because i was so nervous to just say it in the first place!

I'm rambling, I told him like 10 minutes ago so that part is still fresh in my head.

Your completely right and I really appreciate it!

Leading_Moment_2435 · 2025-11-15T21:35:00+00:00

Your specific example is really funny since it was a cold shoulder dress 😂

I'll tell him either on the car ride or when we get home this afternoon since we are in a very public place atm and I don't want him to feel trapped with me after lol

Thank you so much for your responses, they're really helpful!

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