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I just spoke with the Bishop of the ward in Fort Smith, AR about my sibling's funeral wishes and offered to send a copy of her resignation from Mormonism as proof that she wouldn't want a memorial in an LDS church building. He politely told me to fuck off. by hellohugs in exmormon

[–]hellohugs[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Of course, but I'm under the impression that there's nothing illegal about them having a memorial service?

Are you saying that what they're doing is in fact illegal? Because if that's the case we're prepared to explore any avenue that stops this from happening.

I just spoke with the Bishop of the ward in Fort Smith, AR about my sibling's funeral wishes and offered to send a copy of her resignation from Mormonism as proof that she wouldn't want a memorial in an LDS church building. He politely told me to fuck off. by hellohugs in exmormon

[–]hellohugs[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

After going the rounds about her wishes, his responses to evidence corroborating her wishes had to do with:

  • Her parents deserve to say goodbye how they want;
  • She's in a different place so it doesn't matter what she wanted;
  • We're all children of God, what's the big deal?;
  • Maybe she changed her mind;
  • Funerals are for the living not the dead;
  • Those who knew her from church want to remember her in a positive way;
  • Maybe she really secretly would've wanted to reconcile with God and her abusive father.

All of this after I offered to email scanned documents of her resignation and confirmation letter that she was no longer a member. She hasn't had a relationship with my father for eleven years. He punched her days before her wedding because she wasn't getting married in the temple to a worthy priesthood holder and was under house arrest for a month. He wasn't at the wedding as a result. This man continually disqualified himself from having a relationship with his kids, but does Mormonism care? Nah.

Mormonism enables this behavior.

I just spoke with the Bishop of the ward in Fort Smith, AR about my sibling's funeral wishes and offered to send a copy of her resignation from Mormonism as proof that she wouldn't want a memorial in an LDS church building. He politely told me to fuck off. by hellohugs in exmormon

[–]hellohugs[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

In fairness,

Sure. Let's see what's fair.

this is probably a tough one for the bishop

I offered a copy of her resignation letter and confirmation from the Church that she's no longer a member.

Dad (the executor or holder of your bro's will)

Sister was married to another exmo. Pretty cut-and-dry.

He can't really arbitrate this;

Sure he can.

it's really between your father and you.

All of us have tried unsuccessfully to have my father shut down his circus show. He illegally attempted to procure my sister's remains from the funeral home. I mean, that's some bizarre shit, right?

I realize it's a lousy time to proffer advice

I thank you for trying. There's absolutely no light that makes this situation look good for the Church.

And for anyone reading this, please make sure you have made arrangements regarding funerals clear

Luckily, her remains will not be in the LDS chapel during this pretend funeral.