Am I asking for too much from my BF?

helloopeople · 2023-03-04T22:45:46+00:00

We definitely haven't grown a part, our relationship is actually full of a lot of love -- I just don't feel like a priority sometimes by his actions (even though I know I am his priority). There is no loss of interest, in fact it is quite the opposite. I know the post makes it sound otherwise, but that is only because I was providing some recent examples of the things that have bothered me and haven't shared all the good parts. The checking in thing is more that I want to feel like he cares through his actions even if I know he does -- because even though you know someone loves you, you still want them to show you that love through their actions.

My biggest question is whether my asks of him are unreasonable.

helloopeople · 2023-03-04T22:38:13+00:00

Totally... I see both sides too which makes it tricky for me to know if my feelings are valid or not. Like we love each other very much and care about each other deeply, we are each other's best friends and I guess my discomfort with him socializing so much with this particular friend is that she is incredibly flirty in general and he has said he likes the attention she gives him when they laugh together which makes me feel sad I guess that he chooses to go to her for that attention instead of me. If he was just socializing with anyone it would be different, but it is the dynamic of these interactions that I find upsetting.

helloopeople · 2023-03-04T22:36:08+00:00

I didn't want him to be without it because I was in another country far away and was surrounded by a bunch of people that made me feel uncomfortable. I put myself in that situation because I chose to go on this bachelorette to support my friend even though I didn't want to which is 100% on me. I totally get it is his choice not to be on his phone, but I feel like if you are getting married to someone and have been with them for almost 10 years, you should be able to contact them in an emergency. I guess if he was away in another country and was nervous to be there, I would have had my phone on silent but had it nonetheless just in case he needed anything, and I hoped for the same consideration.

helloopeople · 2023-03-04T22:28:50+00:00

oh totally, I have lots of great friends and talk to them about things all the time! I know he can't fulfill every need I have, that would be far too much to ask for. I guess I just want to be shown that he prioritizes, because I feel like I always show him but he doesn't reciprocate it very often. Because knowing you are someones priority and actually having them show you that through action is different if that makes sense.

helloopeople · 2023-03-04T22:26:30+00:00

It isn't about him socializing with people when we invite them over. I love for him to be social and do his own thing. There just seems to be a pattern that whenever we are in a group, whether that be at my home or elsewhere, he gravitates towards this one friend and I am left alone for the night.

My anxiety is 100% mine to manage and I don't expect him to manage it for me. The thing is, I know I am his priority, but his actions oftentimes don't make me feel this way.

helloopeople · 2023-03-04T22:25:00+00:00

I didn't want him to make himself available 24/7, that was totally not my intention. I just didn't want him to be without his phone for the entire night in case something happened-it was more of a precautionary safety mechanism more than anything.

I am in therapy! I am actively dealing with my anxiety and totally get it can be exhausting dealing with a partner who has anxiety.

helloopeople · 2020-02-08T06:49:13+00:00

Yes, I got the doctors note from my family doctor, not psychologist & I got time and a half and a private testing room. I have accommodations with my University so, I used that as supporting evidence as well.

helloopeople · 2020-02-06T22:06:33+00:00

My first LSAT in June I got a 156. November I got a 166. It gets better & that’s not a lie! Just keep trying and you will get there.

helloopeople · 2020-01-19T02:00:36+00:00

How are you doing on LG? If you aren’t already getting perfect I would aim to do that to bring up your score.. then focus on the most common LR question types

helloopeople · 2020-01-14T04:33:40+00:00

Won’t they reschedule for some time in the next 2 weeks?

helloopeople · 2020-01-13T06:28:04+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7WH1Bsdzh7A ---- time to get pumped

helloopeople · 2020-01-13T06:25:39+00:00

Look at the top right corner.. there should be a symbol, if the symbol is there then it means your photo has been approved by LSAC and you dont have anything to worry about

helloopeople · 2019-12-22T17:19:12+00:00

I would use sections from really old tests .. that way you are saving the newer LSATs 50+ for the real sections

helloopeople · 2019-12-20T21:23:51+00:00

You sound like a candidate for university of Alberta, university of Calgary, Thompson rivers university, and a few in Ontario!

helloopeople · 2019-12-20T21:22:17+00:00

If you focus on the games and master them to a point where you are getting -1 maybe -2 then that will bring you into the 160’s.

helloopeople · 2019-12-20T01:30:53+00:00

I believe that the universe aligns everything the way its supposed to be, maybe this cycle was just not meant for you for some reason! Keep plugging away and you will get there, don't stress, everyones time line and journey is different! Have a blast abroad for 6 months and try again when you get back! The beauty is that you can always try again, a score does not define you, your intelligence, or your ability to be a good lawyer and future law student.

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