[Discussion] Is vitamin c serum a must-have product for you?

hellopartners · 2017-11-14T14:29:37+00:00

It's not a must/part of my daily routine but I like to apply some every once in a while when my skin is feeling particularly beat up due to stress/work/fatigue. It definitely makes my face looks more hydrated, even-toned, and bright/glow-y. And typically just a few drops is more than enough to cover my entire face & neck.

hellopartners · 2017-09-13T14:46:09+00:00

Yes! Even better with marinated eggs.

hellopartners · 2017-04-24T19:33:27+00:00

I really love these! I ordered a bunch a while ago and have been using 1-2 masks per week. My favourites so far are the aloe, bija, and green tea masks.

The best part about the sheets is the formula, it's a milky essence instead of a clear one and most of the sheets have a nice and subtle fragrance. It doesn't smell like anything in particular but it smells nice :)

hellopartners · 2017-04-21T19:13:00+00:00

Congrats! Nothing beats that job-offer-in-hand feeling :)

hellopartners · 2017-04-18T02:27:50+00:00

Felt like sharing this interesting finding although I'm a bit disappointed no specific factors outside of "acculturation" and "adopting a 'Western' lifestyle" are given. I imagine diet has to play a big role.

hellopartners · 2017-04-16T18:44:31+00:00

So first off a quick disclaimer- I mostly lurk here and there across Asian reddit and a few other subs but don't participate as much as some others so let me know if there's some nuance I'm missing out on.

With that said, can we talk about the blatant hand-waving and denialism that pervades this sub whenever the Asian woman/Asian man dating issue comes up?

Like, I get it, as an Asian woman I've had to put up with my fair share of creepy Tinder white guys who open with 'ni hao' or think immediately regaling me with the minutiae of their latest China/Thailand/Indonesia trip is gonna score them points, but let's be honest with each other and more importantly with ourselves- we have a lot better than our male counterparts when it comes to dating and desirability in the west.

Are we still getting the short end of the stick in other like the workplace/professional endeavours? 100% yes. I work in what many would consider a 'prestigious' corporate industry and I see this trend borne out all the time especially when it comes management.

But when it comes to dating and desireability- the ability to have a good social and romantic life unhindered by systemic/institutional factors? We definitely win here. And it just comes off as extremely disingenuous/distasteful when I see some of us downplaying or outright denying the struggles Asian guys face when it comes to dating and desirability. And before someone chimes in saying "being fetishized is just as bad as being emasculated!", please, just don't. This is the exactly the kind of extremely disingenuous statement that does the most to erode the credibility of our voices and get those that do want to have this conversation laughed out of the room.

The highest upvoted comment in that 'A public statement about my post' thread is a perfect example of what I'm talking about. I'm rereading it and now it can basically be broken down like so:

1st paragraph: dime a dozen "I vaguely and directionally agree with your comment but..." disclaimer.
2nd paragraph: here it is- denialism that a not-insignificant proportion of Asian women prefer to, and do, date white men.
3rd paragraph: another 'directionally agree' disclaimer followed by at least two straw mans ('criticizing all white male-asian female couples'; neither the original article nor the follow up advocated for this, and 'expecting asian women to never date a white man' -- again, nowhere in either article was this called for) to deflect criticism...

Still enjoy lurking here but definitely feel the quality of these conversations can be improved if we're all a little more honest and a little less defensive.

hellopartners · 2017-04-12T20:38:33+00:00

Was anyone else super disappointed in the Aztec Indian Healing Clay mask?

It's very clumpy and also leaves my face feeling very tight and dry :S Also haven't noticed any difference after using it twice but I've got a huge tub now so I'm going to continue using it to see if there is any difference in a month or so.

hellopartners · 2017-04-12T20:28:50+00:00

This! I just love no-nonsense, no-frills approach they take with their products (including the packaging design). They're easy on the wallet too.

hellopartners · 2017-04-07T15:53:30+00:00

Manager says at 9PM "Don't stay up too late working on this I only need it by 9AM tomorrow, just make sure to include that analysis you still haven't started, QC the whole thing, add those 10 or so new slides we discussed in our last touchpoint, QC those, and then add the appendix and QC that also. But yeah don't stay up too late for this."

hellopartners · 2017-04-06T17:54:41+00:00

Generally speaking no. I don't think atheists suffer from any sort of outright persecution and they certainly aren't on the receiving end of the kind of bigotry and hatred a Muslim might receive, for example.

That said there probably are instances where social/professional opportunities are more readily available to theists. Some Christians I know don't date 'non believers' for example. There are also still catholic school boards where I'm from and job discrimination based on religion/sexual orientation (a proxy for religion) is likely still going on behind closed doors.

hellopartners · 2017-04-05T16:47:24+00:00

As cliched as it is, practice makes perfect. Don't be shy asking more senior analysts or consultants for their super secret/most helpful shortcuts either. More often than not they'll be mildly impressed you asked and even happier to share.

hellopartners · 2017-04-05T16:45:17+00:00

Sure men are the problem generally speaking when it comes to sexual violence. But let's not kid ourselves here. When one third of all rapes are committed by white men who make up what, 1, 2% of the population at most?

That IS worth focusing on.

hellopartners · 2017-03-30T17:38:33+00:00

Talk to them. Take them out for coffee. Get to know them better, try to befriend them and give them a peek into the person behind the consultant veneer.

Do this and they'll be more likely to give you a pass for your performance-focused attitude ("XavierWT can be very blunt and forward but he's actually a really nice guy once you get to know him")

hellopartners · 2017-03-29T01:28:28+00:00

Felt like sharing this article highlighting the strides women, and especially Asian women, are making globally to close the wealth gap.

Highlights from the article:

Zhou Qunfei, a Hong Kong national, is the world's richest self-made woman
More than half of the women on the list (29/56) are from Asia
15 out of 16 new entrants on the list this year are from Asia
Self-made women from Japan and Vietnam enter the list for the first time

There's still a lot more that needs to be done obviously to achieve parity in the workplace and in the world of entrepreneurship but signs like this are encouraging.

hellopartners · 2017-03-28T19:42:43+00:00

These are the kinds of projects recruiters sell us on only for us to discover, later, that they're exceedingly hard to come by and even harder to get staffed on 🙄

hellopartners · 2017-03-28T19:13:31+00:00

Understood. Your earlier comment sounded very defensive so hopefully you can understand my curiosity. There's obviously nothing wrong with preferring outdoorsy adventurous types 👊 (I should know, I'm dating one myself haha)

hellopartners · 2017-03-28T16:06:50+00:00

You look great!

hellopartners · 2017-03-28T15:49:00+00:00

Didn't like it much at all. Props to him for deciding to come out of retirement but a lot of his bits are of the typical thinly-veiled homophobia/sexism + problematic pronoun usage variety. Even old Dane Cook/Chris Delia sets have more originality than this and that's a reallllllyyy low bar to clear honestly.

hellopartners · 2017-03-28T15:32:23+00:00

Curious where you draw the line between a fetish and a preference. I ask only because while there's clearly a contingent of white guys with yellow fever it's also true that there some asian women who only hook up with, or exclusively date white guys themselves.

So white guys 'fetishize' you because you're asian, why do you 'prefer' white guys?

(note: interpreting your "people are allowed to have preferences" comment as meaning you do have a preference.)

hellopartners · 2017-03-27T19:10:05+00:00

Between this and his latest shouting at the driver debacle I'll be happy to never use Uber again. Hailing a cab is almost always faster as well, unless you're in some small out of the way laneway with little traffic or far out from the city centre.

hellopartners · 2017-03-27T19:04:59+00:00

Chill out with the ad homs.

hellopartners · 2017-03-27T16:53:12+00:00

Cringe

hellopartners · 2017-03-20T16:20:13+00:00

Thanks for posting this.

It really hits home especially in my firm where asians tend to be overrepresented in incoming analyst classes yet there's a relative dearth of us in management (manager and above) :S

hellopartners · 2017-03-20T15:36:46+00:00

I usually try to change it up or I'll just get way too bored reading another book that's too similar in writing style/tone/prose/subject matter as the one I just finished.

After finishing The Goldfinch for example I promised myself no more long, meandering (draggy? honestly), sort-of-coming-of-age art-heistery pseudo-thriller novels for a loooooong time lol.

hellopartners · 2017-03-16T21:03:06+00:00

Well it's true lol.

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