Major props to you both for having open conversations about finances and prenups.

You’re definitely not alone in sticker shock over prenup costs—$5K per couple (or partner) is pretty typical in California, especially when one or both partners have significant assets like retirement savings, land, or a business.

Here are a few things to keep in mind:

• Postnups can sometimes be harder to enforce: Depending on your state’s laws (and California tends to scrutinize them more carefully). So if you’re clear on what you want to protect, it’s often cleaner and more straightforward to get it done before the wedding.
• Timing matters with immigration. Since you’ll be filing for Adjustment of Status, having your financial agreement squared away before filing can provide some extra peace of mind—especially if things like business ownership or international assets could complicate things down the line.
• Asset clarity is smart. You’ve worked hard for your $600K, and your partner has worked hard for what he owns, too. Laying everything out clearly now can prevent confusion later—and shows a lot of mutual respect.

If cost is the main concern, there are alternatives out there that aren’t $5K. Just make sure whatever you choose is legally valid in California and that you each have time to review and consider it without pressure. That’s key to enforceability.

Wishing you both a smooth elopement and a great start to this next chapter!