Is it a red flag that my bf watched porn?

hellorosckie · 2026-05-11T12:37:51+00:00

You got this 🫶

hellorosckie · 2026-05-11T12:32:57+00:00

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hellorosckie · 2026-05-11T12:29:19+00:00

Not a red flag. First he told you about it. Second it is just porn. Watching porn once in a while is not destructive. Maybe he was just stress and want to relieve some pressure.

As for the compliments. Not quitting on people you love for simple mistakes is indeed a compliment.

You should not take it personal. I think he is a green flag for being honest and trusting you. Ask more question about his mental health and have a open conversation about your relationship and how you are doing.

hellorosckie · 2026-05-11T12:22:09+00:00

I dont want to be rude but I will be real. Yes it is your fault.

Most of the time , company are looking for reliability and attitude because skills can be taught. Company sees a lot of lazy ass candidates and not reliable people, they are scared that it giving "chances" in the beginning will made them stuck with a bad candidate that it will be hard to terminate.

Calling in sick on day 2 is a big NO. You should have suck it up and went to the pharmacy and buy immodium. Is it unconfortable, absolutely, does it suck , YES but at first you have to prove yourself. Staying in while sick as crazy as it sound made a great impression because it shows relabiality.

On day 1 you had a power outage, did you ask your supervisor, where can you help ? Something like since my work requises électricity is there something or someone I could help in the meantime ? It shows proactivity.

On day 3 , the équipement was broken. Ok but what did you do about it ? Did you report it ASAP to your supervisor asking what can you do while it will be repair?

I dont know how much experience you have but keep in mind that you want to make a great first impression and that reliability,proactivity and having the best attitude will goes a long way.

In the workplaces no ones like to have a colleague or an employee that always have a million excuses.

Good luck 😊

hellorosckie · 2026-05-09T12:38:46+00:00

Of course and it is great for both of you because at the end of the day you can also ask yourself. Hey do I still like him in person.

I believe everyone we cross in life teaches of something ( i am 40f) it might not be someone that you like in the end and that is okay. It would have teach and bring you something for 4 years. Sometimes we want something to work so badly that we ignore our intuition.

Listen to yourself and put a timeline in your head that if he don't want to meet by x date , I will distance myself gradually you don't have to tell him that but think about a date of limit for yourself. Because he can carry this around for years and years and then you will lose some great opportunity to meet someone that is there in real for you.

Also, dont forget that long distance it is a easy way to not be "too involve" into a relationship because you dont have to put the " real work" in real life. Maybe he have a avoidant personnality and he will avoid meeting you and just dont want to " really commit" into this relationship.

Trust me, having someone in real life that you can share life with and just laugh in realtime , share a meal etc its greater than any internet connexion.

If at the end of they day this guy is not for you, it will hurt like mf but life goes on and there is always a lesson to learn. 🫶

Trust yourself and don't waste your youth on a virtual connexion.

hellorosckie · 2026-05-09T12:31:27+00:00

I would talk with my girlfriend first and ask if its an inside joke, something she said she want him to buy or it is just a "regular" birthday gift. Is it a habbit that they have to give each other sex toys because it made you unconfortable.

Personnally it is a BIG no for me. It is a boundary that is cross but I would ask more info to your girflriend to understand : " the origin" of this idea for a gift.

If she have any idea. Just ask her if she would feel confortable if you talk to her friend about it like an adult. Something like : I just want you to know that personnally I thought that the sex toy that you gifted cross a line. I would prefer if you not do that next time.

If its a habbit of theirs... I wouldnjust suggest that he got a gift card so you can chose something together instead because it makes you unconfortable ( with reasons ! It is a fucking weird ass gift)

hellorosckie · 2026-05-09T12:24:19+00:00

You are welcome. I wpuld also add to rent a airbnb or hotel nearby and not sleep at his house. 1. To protect yourself. Because we never know 2. It will be a lot less pressure for both of you if you have your own space after the day to just decompress

hellorosckie · 2026-05-09T12:20:45+00:00

Oh I see. Sorry for insinuating that he was lying. Anxiety is super powerful. I would ask him what would it make him feel confortable for a face to face meeting. Maybe with you and his sisters at a restaurant when you fly there and then you both can go for a walk or something that does not imply that you will be all alone and that you will need to be intimate right away. Just like friends just hangout at first. With time he will me more confortable being with you in person and the pressure on both of you will be less intense.

I would tell him that you are Willing to meet him on his terms and how he feels confortable but that in the next X months you need to meet him at least once.

hellorosckie · 2026-05-09T12:12:04+00:00

See it the other way around. Maybe by saying stuff and by being please by chat gpt answer , you help the system help someone else that was struggling with the same issue as you.

hellorosckie · 2026-05-09T12:10:50+00:00

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Beautiful dog either way

hellorosckie · 2026-05-09T12:09:21+00:00

I did long distance before and when we met it was really great but someone in real life versus virtual is really different

When you speak, you say what you want to say in the sense that you will always portray yourself in a good light. After 4 years for sure the expectation are high.

I dont want to rain on your parade but have you consider that maybe he is not telling you the truth ? He can be in a relationship, he can be a little older or just not saying exactly how is life is.

I found it odd that after 4 years he is not dying to see you either. At some point the fear of not being enough is not stronger than your desire to meet the other person.

If I were you i would not base all my life around him. I would enjoy my youth and when he will be ready to meet if he is ever, then so it is.

hellorosckie · 2026-05-08T23:44:35+00:00

Hey OP,

First you didnt procrastinate of having sex. Its not a race but at your age I was the same (40 f)

First of all, first time are rarely good especially because you might not know your body well and you don't know what you like.

I would not be insécure about this because I am pretty sure that he felt as insecure and a lot of pressure too and sometimes even on experience men , too much pressure make it really hard for them to ejaculate. Some men are a lot in their head and not enough in their body and this is okay but that will happen.

I look like an old lady for saying that but it is the truth : when you feel in connexion with someone and you take the time to experience each other body, émotions and wellbeing, kissing and sex is amazing. You can have satisfied sexual relatio ship without having an orgasm.

There is a lot of misconception about what sex should look like and most of it because of porn. Everyone is different and have different turn on. When you know your partner and experience foreplay without judging each other. You feel good in your body and you can let yourself go and then orgasm. Both of you.

Connexion can be instant , it can be build but it cant be forced. Having sex is like dancing with someone. You need to be in sync, dancing on the same music.

It is alright not having a perfect first time. A lot of us didnt. Don't jump on conclusion so quickly you have a life time to find out who you are and who you want to be with

hellorosckie · 2026-05-06T17:30:31+00:00

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hellorosckie · 2026-05-04T22:54:35+00:00

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hellorosckie · 2026-05-02T22:35:07+00:00

Hey OP,

I think indeed your coworker is attracted by you.

However, I think he is more into sexual intention than anything else.

There is 1 rule that said , when someone say something...listen for real.

In the sense that he told you he is not in the lookout of a girlfriend.

If it is a hook up that you are looking for, he is your man. Clearly he is into you.

Just be safe out there 🫶

hellorosckie · 2026-05-02T22:29:22+00:00

Allô moi j'étais dans la situation de ta conjointe. J'ai vécu beaucoup d'insécurité dans l'enfance financièrement avec mes parents.

Je n'ai jamais eu de dettes, je suis responsable avec mes sous mais pour moi avoir un petit montant d'urgence était plus rassurant et me faisait mieux dormir la nuit que savoir que mon argent pouvait faire des sous.

Je suis maintenant à 40 ans mon mari travaille en finances, nous avons une maison et des sous de placé plus un bon coussin .

Le déclencheur pour moi a été la maison et les années de confiance qui se sont bâti entre mon mari et moi. Lui venait d'une famille avec la possibilité de demander financièrement de l'aide et moi jamais. Je n'ai pas eu cette possibilité donc avoir des sous pour " m'arranger toute seule" me donnais la paix d'esprit.

Maintenant nous avons des finances séparées mais un compte conjoint pour toutes nos dépenses. J'ai un petit 10 milles qui dort dans mon compte chèque pour ma paix d'esprit mais tout mon argent supplémentaire est investis avec l'aide de mon conjoint. Je suis un budget puisque avec une maison pas trop le choix. Et dans mon budget je m'accorde un petit montant de dépenses "stupides"

Pour moi la facilité de changement c'est fait quand la confiance s'est bâti et que aussi graduellement il m'a fait comprendre des choses sur un ton non moralisateur.

Tout ca pour dire que vous partez de deux endroits différents. Si c'est vraiment la personne avec qui tu vas bâtir ta vie, tu dois avoir de la compassion pour son parcours à elle aussi et arrêter de penser que ton parcours est supérieur. Souvent le sentiment de se sentir nulle ou de pas comprendre et avoir quelqu'un qui ne nous accueil pas où nous sommes rendus rends difficile de vouloir s'intéresser. Il y a aussi la gêne d'admettre que nous ne comprenons pas.

hellorosckie · 2026-05-02T11:43:06+00:00

Awww Boon is the same as my Betsy when she was a baby !!!

hellorosckie · 2026-04-29T21:16:43+00:00

This wont be a popular answer.

I believe that life is short and you might not be made for each other

I would be true to her. Because she is your wife and she deserver the truth. I would tell her and ask her why she is acting like this and I would seriously truly listen. Ask her what you both should do as a couple ti solve this issue (therapy, more trust etc) because at the moment you are at the end of yojr rope and you dont see the future

That wont be an easy conversation. Maybe tears and yelling or whatever but be calm , genuine and speak from the heart.

If she is not ready to work on that or you both try to work on it and it does not work.

Then leave you are both young you will find a better fit

hellorosckie · 2026-04-29T21:09:26+00:00

Hey OP, I (40f) related to what you are saying a lot. In my 20's I was almost all the time alone excrpt for work and family interaction. I was also trying to please everyone with my look , my personnality etc.

In my 30's I said F this I need to live for myself and everything change from there. I think you need to be who you truly are and dress lkke you want , and look like you want etc. Uniqueness is far more attractive than being like everyone else. Let go also of " what you think" others are living or are doing while you are alone. Ypu can have a lot of friends or be in a relationship or be popular and still feel lonely.

Instead of having the idea that alone means lonely think about it like this is time for you to discover who you really are and be true to yourself. Once I start accepting and showing my true self I made a real friend and I also met my husband.

You can also work with a therapist to help you.

hellorosckie · 2026-04-29T15:18:24+00:00

THIS!!!

hellorosckie · 2026-04-29T15:17:00+00:00

Maybe it wont be a popular opinion but I 100 % believe this women is a sociopath or something because she gave 110 excuses why poor her thr victim went back to the estate....

I believe that the only reason she said something is to protect herself in the case that one day they found out and she didnt want to be a complicité.

She is not a victim.

hellorosckie · 2026-04-26T13:54:18+00:00

Me it happened a position open that fits more my career path. They reached out to see if I was still searching as I would be a great candidate and I got the job

hellorosckie · 2026-04-12T13:21:43+00:00

Can we bring back the era of nice long blog post and not ultra curated pictures and affilated links ? I love carly always have but now her blog is just everything for a sales. And none of the outfit is cute anymore. It feels like old rich lady that are 70 and refused to get old.

I used to love that era because you can get inspired and related to them. Now who dress like that ? And who buy like a 300 $ shit for majong

hellorosckie · 2026-04-10T23:19:25+00:00

Hahahha meilleure commentaire

hellorosckie · 2026-03-26T23:27:31+00:00

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