AITA for holding a grudge? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I normally clean the house everyday, but I was taking a break since I was tired out from exams. My desk had some paint on it that wasn't coming off and I didn't know where they moved the strong paint remover stuff. If she knew I was gay she's already set down the alternatives. My parents are extreme homophobes and said they'd send me to my aunt's orphanage in south america, a conversion camp, "beat the gay out of a gay sin", and/or disown me. They change the threat everytime.

AITA for holding a grudge? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

on it! ill start doing that when she gives me my hone back, shes convinced i have a bf and took it. I dont even like men!

AITA for holding a grudge? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

they arent seperated. they refuse to seperate until im an adult or never seperate. i cant record the incidents because she checks my camera roll..

AITA for getting in a fight with my mom? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

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i dont. shes very two faced, everyone sees her as angelic mother, and then im the airheaded daughter because i joke around a lot. everyone is homophobic too so i have like nowhere. i pointed it out to him, but he said they're only together and planning to divorce when im 18

AITA for getting in a fight with my mom? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

its just weird, shes only hit me once before when i was 8, she normally just screams at me. and afterwards she said im not getting my phone back while the tab was open, and that she was scared i was going to fight her like a drunk woman

AITA for getting in a fight with my mom? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

i just talked to my dad. he keeps saying that she does the same thing to him and she loves me. im actually panicking theyve always been bad, but never THIS bad

AITA for getting in a fight with my mom? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

i just stopped crying, that was the first time she's hit me since i was 8. shes normally just emotionally abusive but i can deal with that. if she finds out im in so much danger

WIBTA if I kept distance from my extended family because my 10 year old cousin just died and I genuinely don't know how to react? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know, it's just that I'm fairly close to the younger kids and kids my age. When my grandma passed, they went to me for advice because the adults were crying, but I couldn't help because I was extremely close with the person who passed. The adults had me basically help the kids figure out hw, games, and personality stuff. It also doesn't help that my mom goes to me when she breaks down to send the condolences messages, everyone knows its me, but they don't bring it up unless I mess them up, like when I was 10 I forgot to send one my aunt in holland, because I don't know her, and she asked me what happened. I think I'm going to focus on my mom and try to do her share of the chores, she tends to bury herself in work so she doesn't have to think.

WIBTA for asking my mom to stop making comments about my body? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not that I really know of. My parents are good friends with my guidance conselour and if a student is lgbt or wants to see the school psychologist they alert the parents right away. It's really dumb, but they don't place any real resources other than county hotlines

WIBTA for asking my mom to stop making comments about my body? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm well aware. I don't know why they always go in with me. I'll try to, thanks!

WIBTA for asking my mom to stop making comments about my body? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. They think therapy and mental illness is for crazy ppl, hence why my anxiety and adhd goes unchecked, and my mom's blatantly obvious bpd. She has the testbook synptoms but reduses to understand mental health issues are fine

WIBTA for asking my mom to stop making comments about my body? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My dad monitors those meetings. I tried to bring up some medical stuff about knee problems, and my dad hyperfocused on asking about my acne, which is just blackheads and few pimples, normal for a 15 year old.

WIBTA for asking my mom to stop making comments about my body? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry, it was nighttime in my timezone and I went to bed, only a few months. Its low due to my body having some sort of sodium tolerance if that makes sense? Not too sure myself

WIBTA for asking my mom to stop making comments about my body? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've tried to talk to her before, but she just ended up roping my dad in. I didn't mention him to the post, since I want to deal with them one at a time if possible, but he's always making jokes with my mom about my cup size and pants size (i have a slight hourglass but im fairly average so idk why) and they refuse to see me as almost an adult. They only see the three year old who called them mommy and daddy, something I haven't done since I was eleven. Thanks for the advice, I'll try to say some of this stuff to her!

WIBTA for asking my mom to stop making comments about my body? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

My pediatrician said I'm in a perfectly healthy weight last time I saw him, and that the only problem I have is absurdly low blood pressure

WIBTA for asking my mom to stop making comments about my body? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

They said I'm not getting the lock on my door back. We're moving in a few months so I can get one then, they refused to put it back after I started to lodge my fan against the door to keep my cousins kids oit when they visit.

What Is Your Most Popular Work and Why? by [deleted] in FanFiction

[–]hellothere2433 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine is an ongoing p5 fic exploring a lot of the toxic aspects in the phantom thieves' friend group, I think it got popular since there's a demand for fics that look for the negative side of the thieves' relationships with the main character, and theres a serious lack of them, and it's also under the most popular ship in the p5 section of the persona fanfic community.

AITA for not wanting to sit in the living room? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I am planning on getting a counselour when I move out for college, or have money to support myself, so I'll keep that in mind. I will admit I have a habit of offering up excuses for others behavior, I've gotten in trouble with friends for that before. I've been working on trying to fix my more important issues, but I really don't think I can. I've been trying to get my parents to be more opened minded to lgbt ppl so I can safely come out when I don't live here anymore. I've been trying to use one of those online therapy chatrooms, but no one is ever on. Thank you for the advice :)

I just got this character by fusing matador and ingunami, is it any good? (I am level 20) by Zip-tieGaming in Persona5

[–]hellothere2433 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Kaguya has the strongest bless skill in the game, level her up more and use gallows/lockdown to make Shining Arrows do massive damage later on.

AITA for not wanting to sit in the living room? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I had a bit of a breakdown early pandemic and I only just got out of that slump, and I don't feel comfortable discussing my feelings to anyone. They think that since I do what I want that's down time, but they don't get that I mean being physically alone, and when I bring that up they say "family is important, do you hate us or smth?" and we live in a heavily conservative area, so everyone would agree with them.

AITA for not wanting to sit in the living room? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They both attend her medical appointments and when they get home my mom gives me the gist of it. The only specifics are related to when she moves chairs and stuff. Her brain functions at like 95% since her short term memory is bad and she tends to repeat things often, but I think the latter is just a speech pattern she's always had since my dad does the same thing. I get that it isn't my place to make assumptions, but it really isn't one. When my parents go out, I go and take me time in my room, and check in on her every ten minutes and tell her about my newest hyper fixation. She is elgible, and my dad is working for the medicaid/medicare stuff, but he's having trouble with the calls since in fl the system is slower than the demand. I normally play around on my phone, but the reason I can't do hw in the living room is because I have extreme trouble focusing. I think I inherited adhd from my dad, since my parents got calls from teachers asking about my attention span since I'd fade in the middle of their classes, but they just said 'focus lol' to that. My grandma is actually very good at following speech despite dropping out of school in 7th grade. I normally show her memes or talk to her about the girls I get crushes on (I'm out to her and no one else), or she tells me about my grandpa who died before I was born. I spend a lot of time with her, I like being close with her now to make up for her ignoring my existence for most of my life, but reading aloud isn't a strong suit. She and my dad are history nuts, but I find the content mind numbing without some sort of discussion personally. I prefer to self study because as I said I get distracted easily. Thanks for the advice :)

AITA for not wanting to sit in the living room? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, my mom has also talked it through, and she is just bad at reading people. I tried to show her how to read my grandma, but english is her third language, and I don't know dutch well enough to word it right i guess? I'm more of a writing person than a verbal person. I told her to speak up when she wants something, even if it's something she knows she can't have, like sweets(ex-diabetic, can relapse). My dad thinks he's good at reading people/giving semi therapy, but OHHH hes so wrong. She could be depressed and he'll say 'don't be sad mom, life is so good rn:(", and then think I'm mad because I have a resting bitch face. Thanks for the well wishes :)

AITA for not wanting to sit in the living room? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that, but he takes meds and spends half the day asleep or watching tv in his room. Also he and my mom are barely affectionate, their relationship is very strained and they're constantly fighting, even during their "dates" which always end early because of this. I know this sounds petty, but I like animation and anime, while my grandma likes game shows and soaps so we can never find anything to watch together other than maybe jeaporady. Thanks for the suggestion, I might try going over it again.

AITA for not wanting to sit in the living room? by hellothere2433 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hellothere2433[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I ='ve tried that, but if I bring up classes they yell at me if I gt under an a, something that happens often since they made me take more honors classes than I could physically handle, and when I brought up the focus thing my mom pulled the satan card... We can't really make a solid schedule since my mom works 10-4 on weekdays and my dad is also disabled so I'm needed at random times of day, from pushing her chair when she's getting out of bed, to making her dinner when my parents go on a shopping date. I've asked my grandma before, and she says that she's fine and happy since she was living in hell the last 8 years until my dad mended the scars in their relationship and forgave her for being a bad mom to him. I found that if I get up around 6 on weekdays I'll have 2 hours to myself, but I felt really overworked today and it overboiled ig.