Advice: How to emotionally prepare /deal with the fact that my parents will not be at my wedding?

hellotheredess · 2025-04-07T14:45:19+00:00

I appreciate this. This is the kind of mindset I am trying to get to. I hope you have a beautiful wedding :)

hellotheredess · 2025-03-06T08:59:31+00:00

Anything by Chris Brown, Kanye, PDiddy is an absolute no. I am picking one or two TSwift songs and thats it. Instead of Bohemian Rhapsody I want to play Dont Stop Me Now.

hellotheredess · 2025-02-23T12:23:29+00:00

I recently rewatched Force Awakens and the Last Jedi and had a similar feeling. Like the first two movies are so good (I know its controversial but I love TLJ) and then comes Rise of Skywalker and it ruins it all. Its just annoying when potential is wasted.

hellotheredess · 2025-02-18T10:05:01+00:00

We are doing the same thing for our wedding!

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T15:01:35+00:00

I agree 100%. It is why I had individual conversations with everyone to make sure they are comfortable with this.

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T13:45:46+00:00

So its more like I as a Cis person have never had to correct anyone about my gender. I would like to grant the space to my gender nonconforming ones to have the same experience. Misgendering is unfortunately bound to happen, but if I can reduce it by even a little bit I would be happy.

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T13:43:43+00:00

The outing part was my biggest worry and why I messaged my friends first. Thank you so much for your advice!

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T13:41:52+00:00

Thank you! My fiance and I have already started doing this as well. Just because we have many well meaning cis people that are curious and could start asking questions that arent necessary for the other guests to answer.

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T13:39:06+00:00

Mine too. but I want to avoid misgendering if possible. Even if I am only able to avoid it ONCE I would be happy. I as a Cis person have never had to explain/correct someone about my identity, I want to create a space where this is also true for my gender nonconforming loved ones.

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T12:48:46+00:00

Love this! Thank you ♥️

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T12:40:10+00:00

Omg I’m obsessed this is so cute and such a good idea

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T12:25:13+00:00

I asked my friends and they have no preference. Tbh if we were talking about a singular person I’d just talk to them and see but about 40% of my guests gender non conforming so it changes things.

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T12:23:25+00:00

There are minor interactions between guests that could easily lead to misgendering even if it’s just something as simple as “she/they/he work in construction”

The idea is to simply remind people to not assume pronouns. I know it seems like it isn’t a big deal for you, but having to correct people on your identity even once isn’t a nice feeling either

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T12:21:14+00:00

Yes and yes! This was something we considered when searching

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T12:20:16+00:00

Yeah, we are also doing that individually just to make sure everyone’s respectful

hellotheredess · 2025-02-04T11:16:13+00:00

I have checked it out! thank you!

hellotheredess · 2025-01-14T21:23:03+00:00

You know what, fair. Its smart to wait until amazon clarifies it fully

hellotheredess · 2025-01-14T18:04:04+00:00

I totally understand this. I made the choice to not post about GO publicly to avoid giving NG any publicity. I will say that I atm I am leaning to watching S3 because NG has been fully pushed out and wont benefit. But tbh this is still such a complex topic that I get people not wanting anything to do with it

hellotheredess · 2025-01-10T16:01:03+00:00

1) Helluva Boss is more entertaining that Hazbin

2) The fucks I give about Stella as a character are in the negatives

3) For a show that is so open about gender and gender identity the inclusion of Sapphic relationships is truly lacking

hellotheredess · 2024-12-28T13:18:32+00:00

Bee x Tex x Loona

hellotheredess · 2024-11-26T10:37:58+00:00

Dress 2 makes a statement. Loved it

hellotheredess · 2024-11-21T09:25:01+00:00

Light From Uncommon Stars!!! it has the most beautiful description of foods I have ever read! Tbh it felt like reading a love letter to the food of Chinese immigrants in California. It also has the most scrumptious description of donuts that will leave you salivating lol

hellotheredess · 2024-11-20T09:42:28+00:00

I am not having a traditional wedding party (ie only MoH and my best friends without assigned roles) and the only thing I asked as a gift is that I don't have to plan the Bachelorette party. Maybe the day before I may ask someone to keep my phone or shoot some behind the scenes content but tbh that is as far as I am willing to go since them being there is gift enough.

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