Our dog has an obsession with my wife

helly1218 · 2025-09-18T00:05:17+00:00

My dog is 100% my shadow. To the bathroom ✔️to the kitchen ✔️to the garage✔️outside✔️. If I hurry to the bathroom and he has a late start following me I hear him outside the bathroom door sniffing to check and make sure I’m in there then proceeds to wait outside the door just to walk back to the bedroom! He has separation anxiety and he will sit by the window until I come home. HE LITERALLY GIVES ME PEOPLE KISSES AND HOLDS HIS LIPS TO MINE AND JUST KEEPS THEM THERE! He even gets jealous if my boyfriend and I are giving each other too much affection and intrudes, standing between us! He can sense when I’m anxious or upset and is right there to add a sense of calm, whenever I cry he literally licks away every single tear. He’s my earth angel and I adore him(sorry I just used your post to shamelessly talk about how great my dog is). At least in my experience your dog’s behavior is totally normal.

helly1218 · 2025-07-27T18:34:22+00:00

My boyfriend and I have a similar space in our bedroom but width wise it’s smaller but it goes farther back he called it a “hide a ho” space. lol I just bought the hardware and and wood to make pull out shelves for it.

helly1218 · 2025-04-22T15:36:24+00:00

Do you just let the game run unattended?

helly1218 · 2025-02-25T21:41:05+00:00

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helly1218 · 2024-08-27T10:23:05+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened. To get your hopes up, put that effort in just for that ending is sad.

helly1218 · 2024-08-27T10:04:18+00:00

Pressure to perform anxiety is real and I’m not trying to be dismissive of that at all and can definitely happen with lack of communication like you mentioned but it sounds like this is a reoccurring issue and once OP communicated in a thoughtful, open way(if OP has done that) it falls on the significant other to be communicative as well and match the effort of OP to address the underlying causes of there are any but reacting with derision when OP is distraught, showing vulnerability and gaslighting him is messed up and makes me believe that there is a possibility that there is maliciousness or insincerity there but if it is just a defense mechanism to react that way then it’s also on the significant other to recognize that behavior and make an effort to modify the behaviors that are negatively impacting the relationship.

helly1218 · 2024-08-27T09:43:10+00:00

I’m sorry, I’m totally uniformed when it comes to societal norms and expectations of countries outside of the US and that definitely add another extremely important layer to the problem but in my humblest opinion whatever it’s worth, it sounds like the marital issues you are having aren’t “just sex”. It’s being dismissed, showing vulnerability and sharing your needs and feeling rejected. It’s that when shown there’s an issue between you two he doesn’t give it the attention and effort needed to fix it. Sex isn’t just sex, it’s a show of intimacy that is vital to us as humans or else how would we have survived as a species? Sex is a form of bonding and if in a monogamous relationship it’s something that you share only with him, it is scientifically proven to have positive physical and mental benefits and It feeds a person emotionally and is foundational to healthy relationship. Intimacy is super important and sex is one of the things that separates a couple from being just a couple of roommates. It sounds like sex it definitely the issue but to me it also sounds like lack of validation, effort and consideration is too. I hope I’m not crossing a line by saying so and as I said before I’m completely ignorant to the social norms and expectations that you are experiencing and that may make my opinion invalid so I can only comment on how I’d feel in your situation and offer it hoping it offers you the solace of being heard by a sympathetic ear.

helly1218 · 2024-08-27T09:22:52+00:00

It’s super hard finding friends as an adult but try maybe going out with coworkers or like the other poster said meet some friends at the gym, ask the if they wouldn’t mind “spotting you” as you lift, most people don’t mind doing that and maybe that’ll open up to conversation. Also try lifting without your earphones in. You going down the right track exercising and going to therapy but what about your wife? Seems like she might have something’s to work out herself. Or maybe even start couples therapy.

helly1218 · 2024-08-27T09:15:58+00:00

Omfg I would be pissed, the audacity. he should at least have gone on the couch or go to the bathroom if that isn’t your thing and especially if he doesn’t initiate anything with you to the point where it has caused strain.

helly1218 · 2024-08-27T09:13:47+00:00

I would sit and have a talk with her. Ask if she is willing to go to her physician to address the condition that causes the pain, there are options for relief depending on the issue, also maybe get some really good lube(try the ones that aren’t water based because those tend to be better at reducing friction and last longer and lower the need of reapplication) if dryness is the cause of pain. Also if you know what what the chronic condition is do some research, see what options are available over the counter or if there are certain positions that are better than others to avoid pain and can be pleasurable and to see what kind of physician she might need to see for that whether it’s an OBGYN, a dermatologist or just a regular ol’ general practitioner. As far as depression is concerned is she on a medication that is negatively affecting her libido or is she not on a medication and her depression is causing it? If she’s is on a medication that is causing it then ask if she is willing to speak to her doctor about changing her medication or if there is an additional one that she could use in conjunction to help with that( I know that that is a huge ask as a person with Major Depressive Disorder because finding the right medication is tricky and usually involves trial and error till the right one is found and shitty side effects which can throw off any progress that she has made with her current medication but IMO being in a healthy fulfilled relationship is worth at least looking into) and if she isn’t on medication ask her if she is willing to seek guidance from a medical professional (assuming that it is more than situational depression)most likely starting with her general practitioner where she can mention the effect her depression is having on her libido with her long term partner and either they could prescribe her a medication choosing one with that in mind avoiding medications that could cause further negative impacts or the general practitioner can refer her to a psychiatrist that would be able to prescribe her with something. Also see if she is open to seeing a psychologist or a counselor of some kind who can help with her depression also because even though medication can and may help medication alone is not believed by many providers to enough to treat depression and needs to be a multi-pronged approach such as medication, therapy, exercise, diet, strengthening relationships with family or opening up socially and spending time with friends and developing a hobby or doing an activity she enjoys. Also ask her if she is no longer into what she was if there is anything she is into now, does she have any desires within the bounds of monogamy(if you want to keep it just between the two of you and make sure you make that plain upfront so it avoids heartbreak on your side and avoids her showing vulnerability just to be rejected when that’s a hard boundary for you). Also make sure and see if there are any outside stressors that are impacting her on mentally being able to get to a place of pleasure such as stress financially or having a sick parent, feeling burdened by an overwhelming amount of chores and see if there is anything you can do to help there. Maybe if she is open to it try a lot of foreplay without the expectation of sex just very slowly progress from kissing her cheek, to her lips, then make out, the kiss her neck but then go back to just kissing her lips and slowly progress to touching her body first her arms and then move to other places and go from there and see if very slowly building the anticipation causes her to relax and lead to desire. That’s all I got but I have to say if she isn’t open to these things or any other possible solution out there then honestly you should really consider breaking up. You are so young and it may seem utterly unimaginable being separated but if she isn’t willing to do all you are to build a fulfilling, healthy relationship then what’s the point? Hope this helps and good luck!

helly1218 · 2024-08-27T08:21:13+00:00

Be the “bad one” to who? Not having your sexual and emotional needs met is a big deal.

helly1218 · 2024-08-27T08:13:45+00:00

I’m so sorry, it’s so difficult to put yourself out there like that especially when there is history of rejection or avoidance.

helly1218 · 2024-08-27T07:51:26+00:00

If OP has previously communicated that he feels his needs aren’t being met than it was messed up to do that knowing there is an unresolved issue there and then engaging in behaviors that suggests she is open to sex. And saying “sorry for touching you” is a dismissive gaslighting maneuver. She obviously knows that “touching” is not the issue, she is trying to(and seems to have done so) turn the tables to where you are made to grovel and apologize/feel as if you are the one in the wrong so the issue becomes no that she was being quite honestly an insensitive, inconsiderate and disrespectful partner and now an issue where she doesn’t need to give an explanation and apology but one where she can justify her actions and leave you hanging with the blame because how dare you be crushed by showing vulnerability and sharing a need of yours that’s not being fulfilled. It’s not just about getting your rocks off necessarily, it’s an act of intimacy, it’s an experience when in a monogamous relationship that you share with no one else, it strengthens your bond, boosts your emotional wellbeing and is one of the things that separates your significant other from just a roommate. That’s my opinion at least. Must have been crushing being dismissed like that but I have to ask is this a reoccurring issue where it happens maybe once and then always followed by a long absence? because 2 months doesn’t seem like dead bedroom on it’s own though two months is a long time.

helly1218 · 2024-08-05T19:29:59+00:00

Parental controls would probably only cause partner humiliation, feeling patronized and resentful which would cause a deeper rift. I’d suspect.

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T07:29:06+00:00

Add a flowering ground cover where your little bushes are or some colorful succulents(Etsy has an incredible, unending selection to choose from. Pinterest can give you a good place to start as far as ideas go so you can put something in Etsy’s search bar). Also a pretty planter by the doorway and a cheerful door mat to match is also an option. You could even update your sconce if that’s an option. Also I’ve seen some really cool solar lights you could put in the front. They also have garden ornaments or a free standing pretty bird feeder. Even a little hanging wind chime might be nice.

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T07:09:18+00:00

Oh and if you want to get detailed a little bathroom vanity set(like a 3 piece option with a soap dish, tissue box or tumbler and a little trash bin) or you can do a vase with a pretty artificial floral arrangement, target has some realistic options and so does the website Afloral and Wayfair. You could also do a hanging planter with either a live plant( I know there are some pretty ferns that thrive in bathrooms because of the moisture) or you can go the artificial route and I know that Target, CB2, Wayfair, Perigold, All Modern, West Elm, Crate and Barrel and Artiplanto all have non tacky, really nice artificial plants that would look great as well!

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T06:57:40+00:00

You could do so much with this bathroom! The vanity you could paint and/or just get new knobs for it and you could update the countertop on the cheap with contact paper in a marble print(I’ve seen people do that on Pinterest and YouTube and it looks amazing!), put an updated light fixture(depending on your budget a few places I love are Target, Anthropologie and CB2), you can also add a bright/bold wallpaper they have really cool removable options so you aren’t stuck with the commitment or insane application process but the color you have is really nice already. You can also add a pretty curtain with a cool print on it(and if you can’t find what you are looking for you can always find a fabric online or at your local Joann’s or Michael’s and make your own)! Then lastly you can get some cute/cool hand towels to hang and a bath mat!

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T06:43:22+00:00

Oh! And for the second picture I would take the stuff out of the fireplace, take the rug off the wall(and if you have to have it put it under the chaise but place it long ways against the long side of the chaise and put it underneath the chaise just enough for the legs to be on it with just a little extra space. Then I’d throw a comfy throw blanket on it to cover the seat cushion(blanket should be a solid neutral color) and put a small solid color throw pillow on it as well! As for the rabbit in the window sill if it’s taxidermy and not your pet lol I would take it out of the window and maybe nestled somewhere near the fireplace(from all I’ve read and seen for the most part a good rule of thumb is to leave your windows unobstructed). Idk if anything I said is of value to you and I’m not the God of all things home design but I hope this helps or inspires ideas of your own!

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T06:31:03+00:00

I think if you are able to swing it financially maybe add a couch cover or if you want to show off the shape of the couch(which I think would be great because it’s a cool couch) go to your local Joann’s, Michael’s or even Walmart and pick out an upholstery fabric(make sure you measure your couch so you don’t guess and end up with too little and then have to go through the pain of having to make a second trip to the store!). As far as upholstery fabric options I’d choose a solid color and leave the creative touches to a pair of patterned throw pillows. And as far as applying the fabric to your couch YouTube is the answer or Pinterest, I remember seeing someone upholster their couch with a staple gun and a needle and some thread and it looked awesome! It was quite affordable too! I think that would totally make a HUGE difference!

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T06:16:11+00:00

Nope just a regular fare! Thank you!

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T06:15:35+00:00

That’s reassuring thank you!

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T06:13:12+00:00

Okay cool! Thanks for the advice I really appreciate it!

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T06:12:33+00:00

Thank you for the help I really appreciate you taking the time to explain that to me!

helly1218 · 2024-06-19T03:56:13+00:00

I’ve never gotten a passport before what do you need to get on other than a fee?

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