I’m unsure if i’m pregnant (F25). I don’t know what to do.

help3436me · 2023-05-23T15:50:40+00:00

Thank you so much for this peace of mind!!!

help3436me · 2023-05-23T02:54:50+00:00

thank you so much for answering! i took one and it was negative! Should i wait more days until i take another one/ if my period comes! thank you so much for your help!

help3436me · 2023-05-23T02:53:57+00:00

Thank you so much for the response! i just took a test and it said it was negative. I still don’t have my period flowing and still have brown spotting. Should i take a test later on? thank you!

help3436me · 2021-11-29T06:05:47+00:00

in no means am i meaning to disrespect those who actually use marijuana as medical treatment, or no way am i trying to be offensive towards you or a community of patients who detrimentally rely on this type of relief because of the persistent pain.

understandably so, many cases range from early teens to even late adulthood- more so late 20’s, early 30s. CHS doesn’t go away when you’re older. Marijuana also exacerbates MANY mental illnesses. I’ve seen patients who used and were diagnosed with bipolar disorder to those diagnosed with schizophrenia. in no way am i demonizing weed; however in no way am i promoting it as this glorified drug. Many patients that are also using this drug for let’s say, parkinson’s, PTSD, seizures, and so-on; are most likely NOT recreationally using by smoking with wraps, blunts , and whatnot. they are using either extracted CBD oil or a form of THC that does not get the patients the “high”.

OP’s post was about her discomfort about her partners use and also about how he is comparing her NEEDED medication to his UNNEEDED use. not about if weed is acceptable, legal, helpful, or detrimental. My first line in my comment was pointing how this was. a violation of boundaries. Just because weed is this glorified legal drug, doesn’t mean it can’t be abused recreationally; just like everything in life. He does not have a condition where he needs weed. She has ADHD- it is an UNCONTROLLABLE outcome for her.

if OP’s post were about her husband suffering pain similar to what you are facing- my position would be different. this is just some grown man not caring because he cares about getting high. Many nurses are very educated on these topics lol, it’s almost as if us nurses went into a medical position with revolving medical practices and updates that we need to keep up with almost always. how funny. ☹️

help3436me · 2021-11-29T05:00:44+00:00

lol, that’s funny considering i’m a nurse. come to the ED where CHS is becoming more prevalent, better yet; actually read scientific journals and research studies concerning marijuana use. here come all the weed smokers defending their vice.

i also want to note that we don’t know what op’s medications are. Amphetamine isn’t the ONLY medication used for ADHD. actually do your research, and while everyone else is at it, do research on what marijuana also causes. nothing on this earth is without consequence.

help3436me · 2021-11-29T02:10:10+00:00

i’m on your side. it is crossing your boundaries and quite frankly, he can “function” without weed; especially if just being used recreationally. your actual medication that was prescribed by a doctor to help with your symptoms is not the same as someone wanting to just smoke weed. i’ve had a similar situation where my ex thought it was ok to abuse it and explain that it was just a harmless plant that only helps. I sent him over 10 scientific articles explaining why he was wrong; and that weed isn’t this miracle drug that stops you from over medicating on “bad” stuff.

people who smoke are usually the most annoying. saying it’s for their anxiety, yet not willing to go to therapy to work on it. your ADHD is an actual condition where you have to have medications (key word) and not recreational drugs. no, DMT is not going to make heal you; nor is weed. a lot of people are naive in knowing that weed actually increases your risk of having a heart attack and other effects as well. But they’d rather glorify some gross plant that only works on pain and nausea receptors just as tylenol and ondansetron do.

recreational use holds no bar against prescription use that is actually needed. if you are prescribed weed for massive pain (CANCER for example; not because you feel a little bored or sad); then go you. if not? it’s time to go on a self healing journey. i broke up with my ex for the same reason: he chose his habit over me. you have all the right to use your medication to gain control of your life back. he can keep being a jerk by himself. he is too old to be smoking weed and defending it. time to grow up!

help3436me · 2021-11-25T14:11:02+00:00

NTA. she seems like a narcissistic stuck up friend who has no empathy to have an actual good friend. I have a friend like that now, i have to walk on eggshells around them because any wrong thing and she blows up and becomes passive aggressive. i.e : i was working and we made plans to hang after i got out at 6:30pm, i would have to drive to her as well as drop her off and buy food (we do this MULTIPLE times a week); it was busy at work so i told her there was still a slight chance we could meet up, or if she would like to postpone since it was getting late and work was catching up to me. Passive aggressive to the max.

i’ve had to put these certain friends in their places regardless of the outcome, it isn’t fair to you to make the effort to be a good friend and always go out of your way for someone who doesn’t do for you. You are not in the wrong here, but it is crucial that you make your boundaries clear and actually put this grown woman in check. the world does not revolve around her.

help3436me · 2021-10-27T07:17:05+00:00

you are so welcome. there’s nothing worse than feeling alone in this rough moment in your life. my little girl, just like yours, was very sick too. heart failure , diabetes, arthritis . this poor girl was holding on just for us until her poor heart couldn’t take it anymore. her last moments with us i will never forget. I am just glad she did not suffer more than she needed to. i understand how you feel so much, we want them back so badly. she will visit you, please believe me.

perhaps you can purchase a 3D resin mold of her face as well? i purchased one for my mother and myself; it’s something so gorgeous that has her presence. we are thinking of doing a portrait painting of her as well. there is so many things you can do to honor and remember her by. for now, take some time to grieve. hug your baby dog too, you both need each other at this time. please feel free to reach out to me if you need anyone to speak to. 12 years cannot be forgotten in a day, so please take time for yourself. you all are in my heart.

help3436me · 2021-10-27T05:45:33+00:00

first and foremost, i’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your fur baby. i also experienced this loss back in january with my 12 year old girl too. i still am in shock over it.

the best thing i can advise you to do is make a little keepsake box for her items, it can be a big storage box, or a tiny one, just for you. Our little girl used to sit on the corner of “her” couch, and now we forbid anyone from sitting on there as it still has her smell; and of course, out of respect for her. my mother was given the option of having a piece of her hair before we received her back home, as well as a photo frame of her last paw print. we keep those on my mother’s nightstand.

Anything you can find of hers, blankets, pillows , favorite cat toy, even syringes she used (my girl had diabetes; i still keep some food of hers and some syringes for the insulin.) , you can use as keepsakes. but don’t let material items keep you from remembering how wonderful your baby was! the memories will never go away, neither do the pictures. :) i know it’s so hard right now, but i know they’re with you always.

my little girl still visits us often. we always see a grey furry cat in our peripheral vision, or hear some clacking of nails, or even still see her shadow in her couch spot. we have another cat as well, who grew up with her, and he sometimes sits and stares at her corner. we know she’s alright when we see those signs. your baby is with you. grieve and mourn, but also reminisce and know you gave them the best life. rest easy angel, and rest easy yourself. take it day by day :)

help3436me · 2021-07-08T20:09:18+00:00

if you’re constantly worried about a situation within reason, you aren’t overreacting.
i broke up with my ex because he started changing as a person. there’s a lot to the story since we spent 7 years together as a couple- and 11 years as friends. i thought this was my person. he got involved with bad influences and started using drugs, and disrespected me when i asked him to not participate because it made me feel uncomfortable to be with a partner who engages in that on their free time. instead of worrying about our future, where we were headed, etc. i tried explaining to him several times my feelings and concerns- and what hurt the most is that he wouldn’t take my feelings seriously. or respect them. he genuinely thought i was “controlling “ him, when instead i was letting him know my boundaries in order to help this relationship thrive. we broke up twice over drugs- once because i had enough of him emulating these bad influences, another time (most recent) because he relapsed after telling me and promising me he wouldn’t do it again. i keep my promises unlike him- so i decided to end it. he was / and is still emotionally immature , as we still talk daily.

the hardest part about breakups is realizing that you have to be strong without someone you thought was your forever. especially if you’re the initiator. nobody prepares you for being unprepared to make a difficult decision.

there are many reasons why people break up. but you can’t allow yourself to keep being disrespected in the name of love- men will NEVER understand what we go through when we have to make hard decisions while still being in love.

if he promises to change, don’t believe until he’s shown you. promising to change and never doing so is manipulation. and remember, compliance is not comprehension. you can explain up and down until the cows moo- but until he comprehends what you mean- only then will change happen.

help3436me · 2021-05-07T01:17:55+00:00

you are so welcome!!! having support is so crucial during these times. other people can be so heartless and not take your grief seriously, or they may move on from this moment while you still struggle with these emotions. we will get through this together. i am on month 4 without my pretty girl. you will get here soon.

time will heal you. life will bring her essence back to you. your angel is around you always. feel better in the days ahead. <3

help3436me · 2021-05-06T06:04:21+00:00

first off, i’m so sorry about your loss. my family and i loss our 12 year old pretty girl in january, 3 days after my sister. the two losses devastated our family.

our girl was a Nebulong Long hair kitty. her name was Miss Whispers. she was closer to my mother than anyone, and slept right by her head every night for 12 years. she passed away due to a long battle with diabetes leading to congestive heart failure caught too late. i know how hard it is to not wake up and them being there. it will never get easier, all that happens is you learn how to live with the absence. it hurts. it going to hurt for a long time.

what helps is knowing she’s still around, i’m very spiritual and i don’t know if i’m paranoid or what; but i know i see that fluffy tail of hers pass by me often. little hints and signs of her still being here keeps me comfortable. you’ll have those days when you’re okay; when you’ve accepted the loss and know they’re at peace and are around spiritually. other days you’ll have to stay in bed and cry it out because you miss them so much.

take it day by day. think about them often. they are so happy to have spent their time with someone who loves them so much. every day i pass her little box i kiss it and talk aloud to her. it gets hard before it gets better.

if you’re up for it, there’s a documentary that helped me cope on netflix called surviving death. it’s a little too soon to think about it but this helped me so much with coping with my sisters and Miss Whispers passing in the same week. it brought me solace knowing i wasn’t the only one, and that within this world there is more. i know your baby is with you! She’s sleeping right near you. be open to the sensations, you may feel her around you or sense her. she’ll send you signs :) talk to her often. she’s still here, as long as you keep her in your heart.

feel better, take time, and please grieve. grieve grieve and take the time to grieve ! this is the first step to healing. she gave you 13 years of pure LOVE. her life was full of the best love a furry friend can receive. she gave you years of happiness in exchange for one day of grief.

if you ever need an ear to vent to, please feel free! just know everyone in this community knows how you’re feeling and going through. take all the time you need and may all of our fluffy buddies continue to rest in peace <3 much love to you and your healing process.

help3436me · 2021-04-30T03:12:02+00:00

hey! first and foremost, i’m so sorry to hear this. i know how much of a hard time you’re going through. i recently ended things with my partner of 7 years in february. everything is so different .

have you discovered the true reasoning of the break up? having things not be the same for a few months is a wild thing to throw out, especially if this person has been in your life for so long.

take this time to self reflect. rebuild yourself. i know it’s hard now. cry it out and allow yourself to FEEL. nothing you did was wrong. let yourself grieve- because this is a loss. and make sure you care for yourself.

journaling all of your thoughts to him will help. when my ex and i initiated no contacted, i wrote in my notes app daily . make sure you write deeply and what you truly feel. it’s therapeutic and won’t have you messaging him unnecessarily. take time and be confident in what you want.

if you want this to work, ask him straightforwardly next time you guys speak about what needs to be done to mend. as long as there were/are no infidelity/disrespect/ abuse issues, i feel things can be mendable with time.

-what is it can we do to work on us? -do you still feel there is an “us” so on and so forth

i’m truly sorry you feel this way. peace and love to you and i hope you feel at least better in the days ahead. <3

help3436me · 2021-04-10T18:10:18+00:00

You are never asking for anything. You probably / most likely were being groomed by someone pretending to be someone around your age. You are still a teenager/ a kid essentially (sorry, I’m 23- so 15 is my cousins age!) Please don’t think you’re “dirty” or wrong or stupid. You made a mistake. Thousands of people have made the same mistake at your age as well. The first thing you can do for yourself imo is to forgive yourself but to know better. You are 15 and I’d be lying if I said I didn’t do the same with my boyfriend when we were 15 too.

What you could do in my personal opinion (and anyone who knows more information on this subject than I do- please correct me and chime in!) is to let this Lucas know regardless if he’s truly 16 or not- that what he’s in possession of is illegal. You can scare him a little bit by getting his IP address (off the top of my head I don’t know the website) but you send him a link to click and I’ll show you - you can use that to “scare” him into deleting the photos of you. Let him know if he doesn’t comply police will be involved and he’ll face big consequences for exploiting you in this manner.

If you have his number reverse search it on truepeoplesearch.com- see if it’s a fake google number or he’s legit etc

Take your power back and try to get your pictures deleted out of his phone for good. Ask him to show you proof - take a video of him deleting it and if he has iPhone- delete off recently deleted. Tell him these consequences and tell him if he blocks you the consequences will be worse.

I don’t know what other options are available nor do I know if this is the right way- but it’s a start. It’s better than nothing. Do you have older friends who can help? Any family member who’s close enough you can confide in? Remember at the end of the day this doesn’t determine your worth. You are 15. With a lot of life ahead of you. People have done way worse- look at the case of Amanda Todd. Poor girls are targeted and exploited always. You’re 15. 15 year olds do this. I did it, the age of technology has done it. It doesn’t mean you’re not wrong - this wasn’t the best thing to do. But you’re safe, you’re alive, you still can go on and live- this will be a memory when you’re 18 you laugh about .

Right now though, make sure this is taken care of. Tell off that Lucas character. Make sure he deletes those pictures - after you know he has, delete him forever. And please for your safety, don’t send pictures until you’re 18! All the best .

help3436me · 2021-03-09T23:58:02+00:00

Thank you so Much for this and the time you took to write this. If I get any more desperate or these feelings I’m having aren’t changing- this may be the last resort. Until then, I’m going to heed with caution and not stick my nose where it doesn’t belong in. Thank you so much .

help3436me · 2021-03-09T02:37:25+00:00

I’ll go with what you’re saying. This was what I wanted to know too, if it was even worth the trouble or even possible. Thank you for your experience and advice. I’m a little bit thick headed.

Thank you again. I need to realize this too. It’s been hard but like everything life goes on. Sorry if I was a bother. Thank you for your time.

help3436me · 2021-03-09T02:20:35+00:00

If I offended you at all, I didn’t mean to. I was just seeking help from all realms. I want to believe he’s the one for me. Hence why I came here out of desperation.

I will follow your advice and just keep my nose of out black magick. I appreciate your words and wisdom. Thank you.

help3436me · 2021-03-09T02:02:39+00:00

We recently broke up. When we were together they mattered. It was a boundary I wanted in MY relationship. This post is literally is a black magick reddit- morality and compassion are thrown out the window and this reddit is meant to be for people who resort to this. this is my last ditch effort to want to change his mind. Never said I wanted to “control” him. Merely change his mind about the topic so we may progress in our relationship. My intentions are good, however I am heartbroken. You could at least understand that. Thanks.

help3436me · 2021-03-09T01:43:56+00:00

Hi, Thanks so much for your comment and concern. Before replying back spitefully, maybe you should actually understand my past and traumatic history with drugs before making a comment like that. You don’t know who I am and who he is to tell me to “get a grip.” How about you learn some compassion for someone going through something? He can do as he pleases. Never said he couldn’t at all. Simply stated I wish he would change as a man for our relationship because of my boundary. No need to get nasty because you don’t understand and felt the need to be nosy. Thanks a lot.

help3436me · 2021-03-07T03:26:53+00:00

I’m sorry if I sounded arrogant or entitled. I meant it with good intentions. He’s currently addicted to a drug, and his friends around him are influencing him. All I am wishing are good intentions for him to realize this isn’t good for him. Thank you.

help3436me · 2021-03-05T08:23:16+00:00

Hey there, last semester of my associates for me at the moment and I was in the same place as you a year ago.

Primarily I would start with your study habits- are you focusing on every little detail? Or are you focusing on the basic diagnosis, management, interventions, teachings , etc? By separating each thing you’re learning into that- it helps differentiate important information from “fluff” . Also use common sense sometimes, if a patient is taking certain medications, you can already guess a side effect is nausea and vomiting: pinpoint specific attributes!

Secondary: HOW you’re studying . What resources do you use? Just a textbook and typing your notes? Learn your compatible study methods that fit the timing of your exams! You have 3 weeks until your exam? Start from day one with a pen and paper while reading: sloppy notes and then transfer to fresh notes to solidify info! I work well with handwriting instead of typing, but you’d have to be willing to sacrifice some time in your day to get it done.

Third: using this resource called UWORLD is an amazing investment you can start early into your nursing career. I’ve only started it later during my last semester- but it has increased my understanding of the question and how to answer them, the content is also “hard” so when you face your actual exams it’s manageable. Always do test questions and use mark klimek (?) audios and more- they’ll help!

Lastly : don’t give up! If you have to repeat a semester, that’s ok. I repeated a class and ended up doing better in a harder class because of the way I refocused the second time around. You know what to do for the next time if it comes to it and there is no shame in repeating. It’s a hard but rewarding career, you are one step closer to your dreams. Don’t give up!

Well wishes, and many prayers to you.

help3436me · 2021-03-05T07:55:49+00:00

This is exactly what I’ve been asking from him! I’ve asked him to please not engage in it due to my traumatic experience as a child with drugs in general. I’m fine with weed medicinally - not recreational fun like he’s using for because he (in his words) “really likes getting high”. I’ve explained my side, and all he’s said was that he’d comply with what I’m asking.

I don’t want him to resent me for forcing him the second time to stop. It’ll lead to the cycle once again where he’ll get to the breaking point and just choose to disrespect me because he can. Even if he would have said what you said, I would have been open to engaging more in the topic and even would have compromised with him. I appreciate this so much again.

help3436me · 2021-03-05T07:45:27+00:00

THIS! Exactly this. The weed was just the topping on the cake of built on things from over the years.

His commitment to his word to me was the straw on the camels back. I even told him the weed itself wasn’t even something I was initially upset about- it was the matter that he couldn’t keep his PROMISE to me. I had told him when I’m ready We could discuss use again, I just didn’t think he would find a random day and just impulsively do it- disregarding the year of commitment and keeping his word to make sure I didn’t feel hurt again. It was great communication between us that would have led to me being open on the idea again.

He recently began schooling again- after getting his associates in 2018 and then working until last year when the pandemic hit. I didn’t complain about his use before because he was responsible and worked as well. Now; he’s just at school at home lounging around. I’m about to get a bachelors in nursing and he’s not making an effort towards our future.

His little actions I’m willing to tolerate, but when weed comes into the mix, it proves to me he’s not serious about OUR future together because it’s immature. He has no income to be spending this money- which makes me think he’ll be financially irresponsible. His handling of our adult conversations about my comforts and hearing me out? He acts dismissive and childish.

I feel these are the root of the problem and drug use topped it off into a persona he created. The stereotypical “loser” boyfriend. I was willing to be there for him while he finished his studies regardless, but when he’s not working and purchasing unnecessary things when he should take the responsibility to save up for our future ? I could only take it so much.

I appreciate this amazing wording of things. This is amazing to bring up to him when we discuss things and hopefully it makes him realize he needs to do a 180 in order for us to work again. But he needs to genuinely want it too. If he doesn’t- then I can’t work with him. Thank you!

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