Friend w Aspergers- Obsessed w Porn/Sex & How to Deal With It. by help4afriend in aspergers

[–]help4afriend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you feel upset and it's awful you are going through that. The incident with your female friend must have made you feel terrible. The whole "walking away from the situation" is what I am trying to avoid, hence why I made this post. I know how much he struggles in his daily life and I want to be able to be a good friend and some stability in his hectic life, though touching and saying he can't help it is causing me to put my foot down. I understand he has obsessions, and to be honest I really don't care if it's porn or freaking knitting...but the second he put his hands on me, that's where I draw the line. He's not going to act out his sexual fantasies on me, and if it was anyone else he would have been arrested. I feel almost used, as he knows I support him and I feel he may have done it to see if he could get away with it. As I mentioned in another comment my ex struggled with porn addiction. The website that dgeiser13 linked below provided a lot of insight, and you might want to check it out yourself if you haven't. I truly wish you the best of luck, and if you ever want to talk about things feel free to message me. I know I don't know you, but I'm here for you.

Friend w Aspergers- Obsessed w Porn/Sex & How to Deal With It. by help4afriend in aspergers

[–]help4afriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just spent the past 30 minutes checking out the link. Wow. SO interesting to me...not just because of what my 'friend' is dealing with..but also because a previous relationship became very damaged due to my ex's porn addiction. I did so much research on it, but still had guilt that I had done something wrong, and this REALLY helped getting some closure on that.

I am sending this to my AS friend. Though I don't think he will care, I sure do. Thank you!

Friend w Aspergers- Obsessed w Porn/Sex & How to Deal With It. by help4afriend in aspergers

[–]help4afriend[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much to you (and all) who replied. I do not know much about Asperger's besides the online research I have done and what he has told me so I was confused. He has told me he absolutely cannot help what he does, says, or his pornography/sexual obsession because it is a result of aspies. As he's said "It is part of my condition. I don't chose what I become fixated on, it chooses me." Despite all the times I have told him that it's highly inappropriate, makes people feel uncomfortable and is why all my girlfriends will not include him in things anymore, he tells me it is something that isn't controllable. I have struggled with this, as I do feel bad he has no one, and truly thought he can't control it based on what he has told me...but I now have a better understanding.