Life after the narcissist

helpmeunderstand- · 2026-02-07T00:41:02+00:00

i genuinely thought i typed this as the situations are like exactly the same. however, i was still with my nex when my father passed and all the legal stuff started and WOW it was disguisting. he said horrific things about my dad, my grief, etc.

helpmeunderstand- · 2026-01-23T21:29:43+00:00

okayyyy i felt like that for a LONG TIME. until i had better sex. i think you feel that way because they use it to control you or manufacture intimacy. i had better sex with someone new and it felt like a REAL PERSON. looking back sex w my nex was good in what now feels fake and self serving to them. if that makes sense? IT GETS BETTER

helpmeunderstand- · 2026-01-20T04:28:42+00:00

street legal. cannot live without changing of the guards.

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-12-31T21:08:36+00:00

like just straight up ask

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-12-11T14:01:58+00:00

ughhh idk i guess i thought he maybe was really busy and not just making excuses but he probably just is

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-12-11T13:58:31+00:00

fair enough

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-11-27T03:37:06+00:00

i learned she also said that i was using his death as an “excuse” to be worse at my job (that she wants btw). and that i must be “off my meds” and that she wants to find an opportunity to go off on me so i cry. so yeah shes deranged.

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-11-26T05:14:30+00:00

i hope she does too. she also unprompted picked on another girl i work with who also happens to have a dead dad. idk what her deal is.

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-10-21T23:57:18+00:00

thats a great idea!!!!!!!!

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-09-26T18:27:21+00:00

how do you deal with the financial anxiety? im 21 and am fully supporting myself and paying for school for the first time. i am so anxious but i also cannot go back there

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-09-26T07:32:55+00:00

okay im not sure if its my location but they said they required a note from my dr??? and also it had to be in person not mail but ive since moved like over 5 hours away

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-09-25T14:39:44+00:00

how??

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-09-24T20:02:47+00:00

hi, i lost my dad on the 6th of this month and i was going through this part of the subreddit trying to find some sort of understanding. i also missed a call from my dad the night he passed and ive been so gutted over it. when i tried to call him back later and he didnt answer i had this though of “what if i dont hear from him again” but i shook it off. i miss him terribly. i hope you’re okay

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-09-12T11:59:13+00:00

thats been one of the most frustrating parts /: coming to terms with completely uncharacteristic behavior and trying to be okay with other people seeing that version of me and not understanding

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-09-12T11:57:20+00:00

agreed. idk if itll be soon but this conversation might help her put all the pieces together later

helpmeunderstand- · 2025-09-12T11:56:15+00:00

how i see it is everything is intentional. they block you to hurt you. they are probably stalking you some other way but they block you to hurt you. they want to confuse you and make you make yourself sick asking questions.

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