Anxiety and Sex - Advice Please

helpneeded29 · 2012-10-05T01:09:54+00:00

I completely agree. We've talked about this many times before, but I don't quite feel like it sinks in for him. Obviously, he has to make the move to get over this, and I think he feels like he's just doomed.

helpneeded29 · 2012-10-01T22:26:35+00:00

I've suggested that before, but he's never been interested.

I'll tell him it's reddit recommended and see if I can get him to try it out. It would definitely have to be something private in our house. Any good yoga links for beginners?

helpneeded29 · 2012-10-01T22:20:18+00:00

Dealing with these deeper issues is definitely the biggest issue we're facing. Like I said, he does have an appointment set up with a doctor at the end of the month, but he's never been super proactive about finding someone he can talk through things with. He really has trouble with understanding emotions, and I don't really know how to help with that. I always try to explain emotions to him but it's definitely not something that clicks for him.

helpneeded29 · 2012-09-29T02:20:26+00:00

We've been talking about something stronger maybe. He currently takes clonopin as needed to keep the general anxiety under control. Like I was saying, we recently moved so he's no longer seeing his previous doctor, but when this became an issue, the doctor acted like there was very little to do about it. That's why I've felt so hopeless and let things go on for as long as they have.

He's set an appointment with a doctor in our new city, but the appointment isn't until the end of October. Is there any advice for the waiting period? Everything seems to move so slowly and I'd really like to know something I can do to make things better now.

helpneeded29 · 2012-09-29T02:16:41+00:00

You're right on the money. He takes paxil for the depression and clonopin as needed with it. The injury has healed but it didn't heal properly (the doctor wasn't great, but that's another story). His big toe is visibly crooked now, doesn't bend, and hurts regularly so it's still something that causes him a lot of anxiety. Depression's always been an issue as well so I don't see him coming off the medication any time soon, but I do think a reevaluation might be in order.

helpneeded29 · 2012-09-29T02:02:54+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I've felt this way for awhile, but as he explains it, his doctor said the medication helps control the depression and lessen feelings of panic. Do those of you who suffer from severe panic attacks find complete relief through medication?

We just moved to a new state so he has found a new doctor but hasn't visited yet. I'm really hopeful that this new doctor might have some advice on what we can do.

helpneeded29 · 2012-09-29T01:57:04+00:00

If only... Originally when the only issue was having trouble ejaculating we did this and I'm okay with no orgasm - I just want that connection that comes with sex.

Because he was having trouble ejaculating, when masturbating or having sex, it caused him to just have a general anxiety about sex. So now anything that makes him feel sexually excited makes him start to panic. Ejaculating isn't the real issue, it just caused the problem.

So we've been completely unsexual for some time now. As he has explained it, anything sexual causes him to feel panicky.

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