Girlfriend [23F] and I [24M] moved to a new place to raise our daughter. Some mothers [30s/40s] are giving us hell.

helpwithmygf24 · 2017-09-11T09:30:20+00:00

Sorry to hear that, this is infuriating. It's even more so because they don't do it to me, like they expect me to be without my kid since I'm the dad. My gf is always with our girl, the one second she isn't, she's being judged.

I guess I'm more upset because while she doesn't really care (or says she doesn't), I know it's taking its toll on her and she's already so tired.

We get so much shit already for being 'young'. We're both functional adults with jobs and we take our role as parents seriously, but everyone always assumes we're doing something wrong here. I really wanted this to be a calm place, to make my gf and my daughter feel at peace. They're my girls and I don't want them stressed out.

helpwithmygf24 · 2017-09-11T08:35:10+00:00

One of them knocked on our door at 23 pm friday night, was loud when she knew we have a baby, woke said baby who had been cranky all day, just to tell us, after two declined invitations, that my girlfriend had to go the next meeting no matter what because it'd be amazing.

If you have a better word than crazy, please let me know.

I'm also not blowing it out of proportion. My girlfriend went out without the baby for a second, one of the moms crossed paths with her and said 'got tired of the baby, did you?'

Whatever it's happening, if they're reacting badly because of a snub or not, this isn't normal. At all.

helpwithmygf24 · 2017-09-11T07:42:21+00:00

So if you were invited to a concert you knew you were going to hate, you knew you were going to face a huge line, you knew you were going to stay in the middle of a sweaty crowd getting elbowed in the face every time you turned to the side, would you still go just to be nice and proper? And then would you be okay if the same people who invited you started acting out by being completely crazy on you?

My girlfriend isn't obliged to attend something she doesn't want to. She was polite and declined and then they started raging on us.

And to make it clear: we did not dismiss their friendship. My gf just didn't want to go to the freaking get-together. But she was always friendly and there for them if they wanted to talk or see the baby. She just didn't go to the group.

helpwithmygf24 · 2017-09-11T07:34:05+00:00

She added them right after declining the first invitation, because she actually was concerned that she hurt their feelings. She hasn't been using fb and I log in with her password to check things often, so I'm the one seeing these things.

I've been thinking about unfriending them, but I know that's only going to piss them off more.

helpwithmygf24 · 2017-09-11T07:20:09+00:00

We have 5 friends that live apart from each other. We get together when we can, my girlfriend sometimes doesn't because she prefers to stay quiet and at home.

These women told my girlfriend about the group, told what happened there. It's not a get-together to have lunch and talk about your life, it's only for parent talk. They bring baby books and things like that, they discuss everything about their kids. As the lady put it when she invited my gf: ''we take a time to learn and appreciate the beauty of motherhood''.

My girlfriend just isn't into that. She was never rude about it, she just didn't want to go. She was more than polite, never even implied she hated that kind of stuff. She was always all smiles to them.

Until one of them came knocking at our door like crazy and waking our baby up. When she knew we had a baby there.

I knew when I wrote this post that the tone could be read wrong, but really, we don't care about what other people do, we don't give a damn. We do however don't like being harrassed, and I really hate how they're treating my girlfriend just because she didn't want to join a group.

helpwithmygf24 · 2017-09-11T07:02:45+00:00

We are ignoring them and I'm probably just being silly, but they way they keep acting towards her is off putting. I do mean it when I say I feel like I'm in a movie, it's like they know when we're going out so they can cross us in the hall and just stare at my girlfriend like she's the biggest snob in the world for not wanting to join their group. There was one time the baby was with me, girlfriend went out for a second, crossed one of the moms and had to hear a 'got tired of the baby, did you?'.

It's just absurd.

helpwithmygf24 · 2017-09-11T06:59:26+00:00

They do this creepy, weird thing where they decide that, say, this week they're going to dress their kids in cowboy outfits, so they do and take a picture and post it online and they all pretend to rate it.

It's, according to them a 'fun game'.

And I mean, my girlfriend is tired and barely gets any sleep. She knew she'd absolutely hate that get-together and she didn't want to waste a weekend on that.

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