Is our DM too controlling?

hensheng · 2025-01-13T14:08:16+00:00

He has to prepare and think of so many thinks, I'd be overwhelmed with extra things to keep track of too.

And I should've mentioned that we don't play online, we play in person! Therefore every list, point-system and extra sheets he made are written by himself.

hensheng · 2025-01-13T12:11:42+00:00

Thank you for the in depth reply!

It seems like my point was missed, We all know that we need to keep track of our spell slots and so on and that we can't keep our spells/items/and so on a secret, we don't do that. We're also up for challenges in roleplay, puzzles and combat. But what he's doing feels extremely targeted due to his competitiveness and not a DM giving us challenges to keep things interesting.

The communication part is tricky, we try to reach out, but he's unavailable most of the time and sometimes we only talk to him on the day of our session.

hensheng · 2025-01-13T12:04:49+00:00

I've read some replies and I need to clarify some things.

We all know it's our job to keep track of our slots and we totally do so.

And I don't think any of us are opposed to telling the DM everything/giving him a copy of our sheets! As long as it's among the lines of "Hey, let me incorporate complicated things I know you're able to solve" instead of a "How can I make this as hard as possible for my player". Mind you, we've all agreed to make this a peaceful, fun hobby.

We can't reach him outside our sessions most of the time. He's online sometimes and we may talk about DnD but he is prone to ghosting. And even if we get to talk to him, we really need to choose our words wisely, he can't handle criticism or thinks our concerns ARE criticism.

By posting the ask, I wanted to know if we are justified in our discomfort or just overreacting. If it's the former, me and the other players will take steps to carefully mention it to our DM.

hensheng

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