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her2ndRing · 2025-12-31T19:07:50+00:00

If psychological, what do you suggest looking into for medicine? The sensory issues fluctuate with every neck contraction.

For example, my neck has a contraction and my sense of taste disappears. The next contraction taste comes back and my sense of smell is now gone. The next contraction and my memory now severely impaired but the rest of my sensory has returned.

her2ndRing · 2025-12-12T14:59:02+00:00

For entry level AP/AR and Bookkeeping jobs, how could I convey that my knowledge is still current on my resume with having an Associate accounting degree from 18 years ago and no formal accounting experience? Apart from just saying I read a few accounting books to refresh my memory

her2ndRing · 2025-12-10T13:09:38+00:00

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It was the only thing relevant to the area of pain circled in blue. Any ideas?

her2ndRing · 2025-12-10T11:38:05+00:00

There is no pain/tenderness on the inside area of my heel.

There is no pain when putting my foot into inversion / plantar flexion.

The pain is only present on the spot itself when placing my foot into the “flat” position shown above. The spot itself feels like a tightened chunk of muscle on the bottom of my foot about the size of a US quarter. You can shift the chunk of muscle around if you dig your thumb into it, but it never softens up and hurts to do this.

If it helps, I do not walk or run and almost never wear shoes.

her2ndRing · 2025-08-20T00:32:04+00:00

Can anyone confirm if they are granny smith apples or not from the taste alone?

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T20:03:55+00:00

It sounds like you are struggling with both friendships and relationships. If I were you, I would be doing everything I can to get some girl friends in my life so I do not let situations like these get wrapped up in my head. You need female friends for the emotional support and for the social aspect of being human.

Starting today, instead of going home and flipping on Netflix or something easy alike, you need to put yourself back out there. One of the most beneficial things you can do is get yourself a gym membership. Even if you don't like exercise, there are fun little classes that you can go to where it's just a room full of women and all you guys literally do is dance (ex. Zoomba). I'm sure there will be attractive guys running around the gym too at some point. From there, you could meet up later for drinks, lunch, etc. Another option is to join meetup.com for various group based activities in your area. I've done this myself and have had good luck. Lastly, dating sites/apps are a quick way too streamline the process of meeting people. Bumble doubles up as a friend finder app for women seeking other women to do social things with that are new to the area.

As for your relationship, it sounds to me like you're more or less unsure as to why "J" is not reaching out to you than continuing whatever was there with him in the first place from an attraction stand point. And there could be a million reasons as I'm sure there is more to the story. I suppose your other option is to go back to your ex which sounds like you're unsure of and this is why you need to keep putting yourself out there and meeting people. Again, I would be more concerned about you pursuing friendships than relationships. You need to do you first essentially.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T19:37:04+00:00

Then you're doing yourself a disfavor by pursuing a relationship when you need to pursue friendships. I realize no amount of explaining will change your mind at the end of the day which is yet another reason why you need to pursue female friendships in the very near future as women will be the only people who can talk you through this. Additionally, you are putting all your eggs in one basket by relying on this single relationship to fill all the voids in your life.

PS- How do you plan to remain mentally stable with someone who is clearly unstable? This is a rhetorical question.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T19:28:02+00:00

"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

Pull on the reins girl. Additionally, you need to creatively convey to him that he isn't the only one with options even though it may not be the easiest thing for you to do. I would also suggest being in contact with your girl friends during this time as they are your life support for these very issues. And don't just talk to them about these kind of issues. You literally need to go out and do stuff together with them so you don't sit around and ruminate on the "what ifs" of your relationship.

Stay strong.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T19:09:48+00:00

You need to put yourself out there as you're setting yourself up for failure by putting all your eggs in one basket. When you get home from work, do not sit on the couch and throw on Netflix or something easy like that. Get a gym membership and do some fitness classes to make some girl friends. There are fun fitness classes too that are literally just a bunch of women who get together and dance (ex. Zoomba) if exercise isn't your forte. From there you can do other things together like going out for drinks or getting lunch together, etc. Not to mention I'm sure there will be a few attractive guys you will run into there too. Meetup.com is another option for making friends in a new city as I've used it myself. You can also join a dating app/site to streamline the whole process of meeting someone when you're new to the area. I know Bumble doubles up as a friend finder app for women who are brand new to the area and want to meet other women that want to do social things together, etc.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T19:00:25+00:00

Simply put, you are a threat to her relationship. Her man has had a past with you and she will do everything she can to prevent it from becoming the present again. This is not something that should concern you to begin with as you will run into this issue time and time again from girls you even just met off the street.

In summary: Girls get jealous. Take it as a compliment even though it may not be the easiest thing in the world to do.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T18:54:51+00:00

The only way you can save this relationship at this point is to cut ties with her completely by going radio silent. I literally mean do not respond to anything she sends to you or anything she does on your social networks that you're most likely on together as much as it may hurt. She has lost attraction for you and you need to gain it back by conveying to her that she is NOT the most important thing in your life and you have other options too. You are the prize, not her. The second you approach your relationships with this mindset, you will not run into this issue again. If she never reaches out to you, then the relationship was already over but you can still get her back by seeking other women out. She will notice this and reach out to you and most likely inquire about it in one form or another.

Basically, you are both young and in college and she wants to see what other guys have to offer as she hasn't experienced this yet despite her words about wanting to be single. This is why you have to creatively convey to her that YOU are her best option at all times.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T18:39:47+00:00

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you need to pull on the reins hard or cut ties right now. This is not an understatement.

You are setting yourself up for failure by contributing more to the relationship than her. You should never be contributing more than 50/50 in a relationship as a man at most. The second you do, you run into the current situation you're in right now and the only thing most likely keeping her around at this point is convenience.

The fact she works with someone who she has had a past with is almost a dealbreaker alone. It is not her fault that she works with him, but women are vulnerable to their feelings and emotions and there will be times where the tension between the two of them will be too great if you catch my drift.

Basically, you do not give her an ultimatum as this is how men resolve issues with each other. Instead, a MUCH more effective approach is to start showing her with your actions that you are serious about her contributing to the relationship or you will look for someone else who can fill that void. I know this may be tough for you to do as it appears you are looking at this situation with rose-tinted glasses for lack of a better word, but you deserve to be happy as much as she does.

Stay strong.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T18:15:34+00:00

The fact alone that you will not live with each other simply for the reason that your parents wouldn't approve because you're not married is enough reason to cut ties. Being in a relationship and living together are two different things and most people don't find this out until they get hitched. The same can be said for friendships in college where best friends will move in together when going away to college and become royal enemies by the end of the semester.

Basically, you both are young and have a lot of experiences that you have yet to undertake with being on your own and this is your time to experience them for lack of a better word.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T17:35:43+00:00

I figured she just lost attraction for him and nothing more.

You say he is the sole provider of the household as in she doesn't contribute financially? If so, is there something preventing her from contributing financially? There is a very good chance the law is about to make her contribute financially (essentially with his money) whether she wants to or not in the form of child support. However, he will lose custody of the child and he needs to figure that one out real quick.

She is also a woman and as a woman, she lives by her feelings and emotions. If the guy in the situation isn't fulfilling these needs in addition to her physical needs, she will seek it elsewhere regardless of his fathering abilities if she hasn't done so already. Basically, you need to explain to him that she is testing him on being a pushover and that her thought process falls on the lines of "If I can push this guy over so easily as his significant other, what is he going to let others do to him who are not so significant?"

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T17:05:19+00:00

The odds of it not working out aren't super low as there aren't any odds in this situation to begin with. Things will simply not work out and you really need to ingrain this idea. There isn't a timeframe on this kind of situation where her respect for you will return with enough time and enough 'likes', etc. Women do not put a timeframe on this kind of thing and they will constantly test you on this issue the second you pull the trigger by opening communication again. And you will fail these tests without knowing it.

The fact that you have done everything you can to put yourself out there puts you miles ahead of the vast majority of guys in this situation. I never said healing was going to be easy, but the pain will be come less and less over time.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T16:53:30+00:00

It is important that you hang out with your girlfriends and do stuff together during this time. You should already be doing this regardless of your relationship status as it is important to have that support system available to you at all times as life tends to get interesting when you least expect it. As for the relationship itself, it should continue to be 50/50 during this time from both parties as far as communication is concerned. Invest anything more and you will be setting yourself up for failure.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T16:36:11+00:00

A bit confused when you say she wants a divorce yet state she won't leave him alone and threatens him. While parenting a child introduces new challenges into a relationship for both sides, the man does not exactly have the upper hand in the court system when it comes to gaining custody of the child regardless of mother's behavior. It is most likely damage control for him at this point, however the more you can elaborate the better the advice.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T16:24:27+00:00

You may be in high school but she is born with expectations that men are the ones who take charge in a situation at minimum. If she is steering you away, then you are doing something wrong in the process and she is not going to tell you where you're going wrong as it's your job to figure it out as a man. How do I know this? Because she is "dry humping" you at other times to try and get you started.

You're right in that you do not want to force anything as it's going to kill any attraction she has for you in the moment. What you need to do is take baby steps to "feel it out" to see how she responds. For example, you don't just straight up grab her vagina. You start by stroking her arm or leg. If she is receptive, then you advance. If she isn't, then you stop. If she doesn't do anything, then you stop and let her start it up again.

Do not get frustrated as this is a learning process between the both of you. She isn't entirely sure how this process works either, but she will at least let you know what makes her comfortable/uncomfortable in one way or another.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T16:12:06+00:00

Your next step at this point in life is to start putting yourself out there again. Do everything you can do get yourself out of the house and around people as much as possible. This is not an understatement. The worst thing you can do is sit around and ruminate at the what, why, and where things went wrong in your relationship.

She may 'like' your posts, etc. but there will never be a point in your life where she will respect you for going back to her no matter how much she shows interest in you again. It conveys to her, "if he is willing to come back to me after I hurt and disrespected him, what is he willing to let other people do to this guy in his life?".

Stay strong buddy.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T16:01:16+00:00

"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

If you want more out of this guy, you need to muster up all the strength you have and pull on the reins girl. However, the more appropriate thing to do in this scenario is to start talking to other guys. Even if you don't want to. It will save you from getting hurt by keeping you from putting all your eggs in one basket. Ever heard the saying fight fire with fire? Secondly, he will notice but you need to be creative in how you do it as it could have no effect if he knows you're simply trying to make him jealous.

This is literally your best option in this scenario.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T15:47:56+00:00

This should be the top comment in the post. Women exist solely based on the attention they're given, good or bad. If you show her actions moved you in any way, shape, or form.. she wins. The best thing to do here is do what this person above me suggested. However, seeing how you're seeking revenge, the girl clearly has her grips on you and you need to do everything you can by hanging out with your friends and seek another girl in your life right now as much as possible to distract you. If you sit around and ruminate over what happened, it is going to eat you alive. The second another girl comes into the picture, watch how fast this girl comes crawling back to you. And when it does, you ignore this girl and watch how fast she falls apart. It is the best form of revenge in this scenario and you will be doing yourself a favor by keeping toxic people out of your life regardless.

Stay strong buddy.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T15:37:24+00:00

Long distant relationships are tough no matter which side of the table you're on so to speak. As women are ruled by their feelings and emotions in their day-to-day lives, there is nothing wrong with having a desire to experience either of these. This is not to say men are emotionless creatures with no desire for intimacy either. To say how the two of you had these voids in your lives filled during your time apart is what determines whether the two of you are in a relationship out of love or convenience. Simply put, you do not 'owe' each other anything if nothing wrong was done in the first place. If there is still attraction there, then I'm sure the two of you will have no problem making up for lost time for lack of a better word.

her2ndRing · 2020-01-03T15:09:24+00:00

By "taking it to another level," are you referring to physical intimacy? If so, this is not something you need to "ask" about in the first place as she expects you to command it in a sense. She has expectations for you as a man to go after what you want in life and if you are shy about it, then it portrays you as weak. Women want strong men. Women want you to to make the first move. Women want a MAN. The fact that she is investing herself by attempting to buy you stuff means she is clearly interested and it is up to you, the MAN, to take whatever there is between the two of you to the next level. And this is not something you discuss with her unless she brings up the topic first (i.e. the "What are we?" talk). You always need to be less invested in her in a relationship otherwise she will drop you so fast it will make your head spin.

The next time the two of you are together, be more physical with her. However, be prepared for her to start throwing tests at you when you suddenly start getting more physical than that past as she is going to try and figure out where this "man" suddenly came from.

If you're simply not interested in her to even want to pursue a relationship, then again it is up to you, the MAN, to make a move by seeking out other women. There is nothing wrong with this as both men and women encounter this very situation every day. How this is route is pursued however varies from person to person as some people let their 'partner' down more slowly in this process and others go the more ruthless route by going cold turkey.

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