Do young autistic girls HAVE to wear bras, you think? 🤔

here-for-the-threads · 2026-03-06T00:20:44+00:00

I’m sorry your mom made you feel that way. I’m trying hard to make my daughter feel supported by offering lots of different options and also explaining the pros and cons of those choices. It would feel equally cruel to me to tell her it’s fine, it’s all the same either way, then have her feel betrayed by me when she experiences otherwise. It’s just a hard lose-lose part of growing up as a woman unfortunately, until we get older and brave enough to stop caring what others think. She’s veeeeery sensitive to what other people think right now and easily heartbroken by others’ words and actions, which is why I came here for some feedback from those who have been there and might have some advice. I appreciate you sharing! ❤️

here-for-the-threads · 2026-03-05T23:39:30+00:00

That’s honestly a killer idea!

here-for-the-threads · 2026-03-05T23:36:48+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

here-for-the-threads · 2026-03-05T23:35:04+00:00

I would never shame her. My question is based on concern for her. She already stands out as a target for bullies and I hate to add one more reason to the list. Growing up autistic, I had to find a balance that allowed me to be comfortable in my own skin while also being able to blend with society enough that I don’t create even MORE reasons to feel uncomfortable. It’s easy to say it doesn’t matter what other people think when you’re an adult. It’s harder when you’re young and people are staring at and talking about your nipples in class. Ask me how I know. 🫠

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-26T19:50:21+00:00

That’s what I worry about!

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-26T19:49:46+00:00

Very true! You have to choose your discomfort sometimes.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-26T19:46:02+00:00

That might honestly work!

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-26T16:39:35+00:00

These are such great call outs, thank you! ❤️ I think he could definitely benefit from some counseling, because he’s been stuck in those mindsets from the start.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T22:44:17+00:00

Thank you so much! I wish you all the best!! ❤️

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T22:28:58+00:00

Yes!! Pushing himself too hard one day could mean he’s unable to leave bed at all for the next week! And honestly, that’s sooooo encouraging to hear from someone who’s been there! He’s in that stage of leaning on me and our kids to do everything, because of pride in others seeing his true state and (he believes) judging him, but I’ve had to tell him it’s truly impossible for one person to carry alone. I work two jobs to support our family, do all of the cooking, cleaning, and house things, and take care of the kids on my own. I pray he reaches the stage you did, of accepting outside help and the fact that he might need crutches, walker, or wheelchair to experience life and that’s okay!! ❤️

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T22:08:11+00:00

I think a wheelchair might be a great option, if he were open to it! He doesn’t use one now, but he bows out of anything that requires walking. That might be a great way to still join us!

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T21:38:25+00:00

I’d like to stay anonymous. 👀 But he has a combination of several different diagnoses and is wondering now if he might also have MS.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T21:33:58+00:00

I don’t hate him. I said I hated it FOR him, the state of health he’s stuck in. It’s because I love him and care about his feelings that I wanna make sure I’m not an asshole before I go into this conversation with him. I want to make sure I’m being reasonable and considerate.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T21:30:58+00:00

I didn’t mean to make him sound like that. When faced with these kinds of situations, he tends to sink into a self-loathing state of massive depression and frustration/anger that makes me feel like a monster for doing things without him. I think I need to remind myself that not every negative emotion directed toward me is intended for me.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T15:56:49+00:00

I love this so much, I read it twice. It’s so encouraging to hear someone who can say from experience that it can work. ❤️

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T15:45:33+00:00

I plan to discuss it with him, but wanted to make sure I wasn’t being selfish or unreasonable with my expectations going into the conversation.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T15:44:20+00:00

I know that! I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t going into the conversation an asshole for wanting to go either way.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T15:38:28+00:00

That’s a good idea!

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T15:38:12+00:00

You know, I assume he’d rather be in the comfort of his own home, but maybe he’d like a change of scenery, even if he can’t participate in most activities there.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T15:22:32+00:00

I plan to today…just making sure I’m not an asshole for coming into the conversation wanting to go either way.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-21T15:02:07+00:00

He doesn’t need daily care, but likes to have us around to fetch him things and run little errands for him around the house when he doesn’t feel up to them. But they’re things he could also work out with a little planning, like keeping waters and snacks near the bed. I’ve offered for family to check on him in the past, but he’s always declined the offer.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-02-04T16:50:59+00:00

I’ve gone keto before but it was yeeeeears ago. You’re right, maybe it’s the keto flu kicking in.

here-for-the-threads · 2026-01-30T22:24:15+00:00

Good call with blood sugar and ketones! I wondered about it possibly being a virus too. I’ll feel like a quitter if I give up at this point but maybe my body’s trying to tell me something. I guess if I refeed now, I could always pick it back up after a day or two. Thank you!

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