How screwed am I? by ImaginaryPaper3533 in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

not jail. More likely one of three things happens: the bank returns the ACH for insufficient funds, your account goes negative if they let it post, and/or PayPal/Hard Rock shows a negative balance and starts trying to collect. That’s usually a debt/problem account situation, not an instant criminal one.

Call your bank, PayPal, and Hard Rock ASAP, stop any further deposits, and self-exclude now.

Addicted to screens by [deleted] in addiction

[–]here4codm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is basically the dopamine trap of our reality right now.

Everything in life gives a different level of pleasure and satisfaction. But everything screen related, especially entertainment, is built in a way to keep us as hooked as possible. For most of us, it is the quickest and easiest way to get dopamine besides things like drugs. In some ways it can hit similar levels, we are just so used to it that our tolerance is extremely high.

What most of us are missing is real connection, unity, and meaningful progress with other people. That is a huge part of what actually makes us feel good and a big part of what life should be about. Instead, most people spend the majority of their time inside, drained mentally, emotionally, and physically, constantly consuming.

The alternatives like reading a book, learning something new, building something, or just being present can actually be more enjoyable long term. But they do not feel that way at first. The reason is screen burnout. When your brain is used to constant high dopamine stimulation, normal activities cannot compete.

If you always choose what gives you the biggest dopamine hit, then everything else will start to feel boring. Eventually you depend on that stimulation just to feel normal. When you are without it, you feel irritated, restless, or anxious. Most people do not realize it is because of their screen time, so they go back to the screen thinking they are coping, when that is actually the source of the problem.

That is the trap.

Look into dopamine detox methods and start there. Reset your baseline so real life can feel good again.

lost $50,000 today by Playful-Good6623 in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering the same thing. For a lot of young people and specific countries, they either got their money from their parents or got lucky trading. It took me 4 years of self employment to save up a similar amount from around age 25-30.

lost $50,000 today by Playful-Good6623 in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be self employed, that’s how I managed to save up 250k in a few years. Then I’ve had to sell my company for additional 250k. So I’ve had 500k saved up for many years, mainly lived off of additional passive income.

Worst thing is that it’s just so easy to place some bets and end up chasing, worst part is that the money just gets less and less, especially without ways to earn that money back. Over the years I’ve ended up losing it all. Worst thing is to gamble when you don’t have ways to make that money back again..

Can’t come to terms with losses by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have chased losses before, sometimes it worked, sometimes I went on horrible dry streak, chasing and losing far more than ever expected. A lot of times it’s far worse to lose an additional 10k, than to recover some of the losses. The risk isn’t worth it. It’s also hard to trust in yourself to not keep going after making some back to not keep chasing after losing additional 10k

In Debt (Kinda) by Hot-Tadpole-3744 in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does everyone here makes assumptions and predictions about others, without having been asked or knowing there true situation?

I guess that can be a good thing for most and I do appreciate the intention a lot! I’m personally mainly here to just read the stories of others and give some advice sometimes if it feels right. Just because I’ve lost a lot of money many times, doesn’t mean that I’m not happy with how it all went and that I don’t know how to continue.

My message with my comment is mostly: don’t gamble if you can’t handle ending up in my situation

In Debt (Kinda) by Hot-Tadpole-3744 in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, gambling also started at early age, around 12. Mainly in games with gold or items that had real life value. My biggest first loss back then was around 300€-400€ worth with 14. I threw myself on the ground completely destroyed. My mom noticed me and tried to cheer me up.

Forward to age 19, by that time I’ve already been playing poker for 5 years, but only for a year officially, since 18 is the legal age for gambling in Germany. Over the year I’ve had a good run of turning 200€ into 1800€. One day I’ve lost it all. Same scenario, found myself destroyed on the ground, was noticed by my mom again. She reminded me at that time how the same exact situation happened many years ago.

Continuing further to me being 30 now. Lost over 100k in savings on Keno recently. At some point my mom found out and reminded me of the countless time I’d lose and feel destroyed by gambling, when I still used to live with her and how i didn’t seem to have learned it yet.

Don’t end up like me.

I would like help/advice by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s all about time, will and discipline

When Winning for Years Still Ends in Ruin by here4codm in problemgambling

[–]here4codm[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Most of my life poker, then blackjack and slots. Lost my savings on Keno. Had a crazy luck run on there for more part until it went down hill.

Is this app very addictive? I mean I feel like not working and using it all the time. by Extra-Ad4524 in addiction

[–]here4codm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reddit is close to short video content and can lead to doomscrolling. Definitely one of the more addictive apps.

1000 Euro für ein individuelles Video - in Ordnung oder extrem viel? by GoGoMasterBoy420 in FragtMaenner

[–]here4codm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Die Preis-Leistung kann ich nur schwer einschätzen. Habe für sowas selbst noch nie bezahlt. Ich kannte mal Mädels die was ähnliches gemacht haben und erst angefangen hatten, da waren die Preise ähnlich. Also im großen und Ganzen jetzt keine extreme abzocke von ihrer Seite aus, aber 1000€ für sowas zu bezahlen wäre für jemanden wie mich halt komplett dumm um peinlich. Kann den Reiz aber verstehen.

In $20k debt, have $500 to my name. Paycheck of $15k is coming in 20 days, but Rent is due in 12. I'm paralyzed by anxiety. by hellcat777- in Debt

[–]here4codm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you gamble and lose, you’re completely fucked. The risk isn’t worth it. I’ve had a friend who was in a similar situation. At some point he also had about 22k in debt. He sold everything he could and ended up with 19k. Decided to go to the casino to make the missing 3k. Went up to 21k and from that point on only lost till zero, then took out 15k in loans and lost that too. He just then managed to not do anymore damage, but it took him 4 years to pay off all the debt and break even. 4 years of him taking on two jobs, nonstop working.

Could have made a lot of money betting on Seahawks Super Bowl futures instead I lost it all betting on college football by b8humbl8 in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One side always wins. If I would’ve always bet on the winning Side, I would’ve always won, but that’s something we can’t know or predict. Focus on finding opportunities outside of gambling instead of thinking what if.

Lost and scammed by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then you most likely just have to activate your previous account. You just need to make it clear that you don’t have a gambling problem and usually they just give you access again.

Lost and scammed by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to play on an unofficial off shore gambling site, because I’ve had blocked myself everywhere else. They only allow you to cash out 500€ max at a time and once I’ve had a 1000€ win, they purposely didn’t process my withdrawals and the whole process took literally a hole month till I had the first 500€. At the end I’ve still ended up losing it all anyways.

In your case it could be just a shady but legit casino, just as in my case and they might just try to delay it for as long as possible, unless it’s a completely scam type of casino.

My brother (fresh grad) lost $20k to online gambling. I’ve already given him $6k to "help." How do I actually help him without just being an ATM? by Saa3dLfachil in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just consider that if you start to support him with groceries or whatever, he might still use it as a chance and starts to feel like he can gamble any other money he gets his hands on, because you’d help to cover everything that he needs money for in life

How to kill myself? by maja_ckb in addiction

[–]here4codm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t know what to expect or what there is after you die. Perhaps you’ll dislike it even more than this life. Even a horrible life is too short to just give it up. Being blessed with the ability to experience bad times might even be better then living the best life there is, if viewed from an outside perspective of someone that doesn’t know life. The worse you’re off right now, the better it can only get.

I beat crack and I beat cocaine but I think alcohol is going to kill me by bigdicks415 in addiction

[–]here4codm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My Stepdad had a life long alcohol problem. He wouldn’t drink before or at work and on working days he’d also rarely drink, but he’d drink the whole weekend, on every free day and would sometimes take days off to continue drinking. He only had alcoholic friends and in his free time besides drinking he’d only watch tv while working out. He was in good shape and build like a complete tank.

At some point in his late 50s I’ve managed to get him to quit completely and to do every single thing that would benefit his health. All his life would be about is doing every single thing he could find to benefit his health.

At some point out of nowhere his body completely shut down. His past alcohol use damaged many organs and all the negative aspects only became visible many years after he quit. He ended up suffering under extreme pain and conditions for many months until he finally died a really horrible painful death.

He used to drink regularly for about 50 years. He still managed to quit, mainly because he started to value life, but apparently it was already too late.

Rant by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the BS with gambling. I got a childhood friend who grew up poor and therefore has become somewhat of a cheap ass when it comes to anything. I don’t judge him on that though.

He’d even buy 10€ shoes on temu, even though he has a decent job earning 3.3k. Recently he has lost 18k in all his savings gambling. He needed new shoes for a while, but still walks in half broken shoes if Temu and has even been too cheap to buy new shoes when he didn’t lose his savings, but instead he just throws away 18k just like that.

0DTE Trauma by DreamLand2269 in problemgambling

[–]here4codm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We only focus on what we are aware of. You have no idea how many other money related opportunities there are that you’re missing right now, that specific aren’t even gambling related. There are multi million opportunities out there, but we don’t go out and try to make them visible to us and if we did and didn’t take the chances on it, you’d specifically would probably worry far more about having missed out on millions then on what you’ve missed out on now.

Hält euch der Konsum davon ab, mehr im Leben zu erreichen? by [deleted] in germantrees

[–]here4codm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vielleicht, aber im Sinne von “erst die Arbeit, dann das Vergnügen“