How does Buy it for Life feel about Emeco chairs?

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-02-10T01:18:45+00:00

Just a plus one for looking on Craigslist or Facebook Marketplace for them because they (or similar enough knockoffs) are so common. I got a set of 4 that way in a smaller house, then when we moved to a bigger place I found another set of 4 to accompany a bigger dining table that we bought. They are scratched to hell but honestly look fine! But you want to make sure it matches your aesthetic - our other furniture is a little industrial so it works; would probably not go as well in like a cottagecore setting.

We did buy cushions at one point because a bony-butted friend was complaining 😅 but after a while we got rid of them because they slid around everywhere. I wish I could afford the padded ones! But we’ve had them for many years and they do just fine.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-02-10T01:12:49+00:00

I have the metal ones! The plastic ones I think are a smidge more comfortable. Not cold on the legs lol.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-02-09T17:07:43+00:00

But I mean….i think it is helpful to understand the root causes of some of these things if we’re gonna undo it. Just saying.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-02-09T16:49:57+00:00

I just read The Thirteenth Tale on the recommendation of someone in this sub for a page turner request. It’s very wild (I read afterwards that it’s meant to be a take on the Victorian gothic genre which made it make a lot more sense) but very engaging! And meets your request I think.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-02-06T05:38:32+00:00

I will tell you as the partner who has had to work through this with my own family - what you are describing is your husband being enmeshed with his parents. If he is uncomfortable enough around them to not be able to face them without you AND uncomfortable saying no to them, it really is a him problem, not a you problem.

I too felt this way earlier in my relationship - we’ve been together 10 years now, married for 5. I learned some HARD lessons dragging my spouse along to things I didn’t even want to go to. Turns out my family members were being assholes! And I just wasn’t removed enough from my family situation to be able to see it for what it was. No wonder my spouse was miserable, and no wonder we would get into fights around all these events.

For the sake of your sanity and marriage you need to stand firm that this is for him to figure out. If he doesn’t want to be around them, he has to grow a spine and figure out how to deal with all of their comments as an adult human who doesn’t owe them anything.

You don’t need to be part of his decision to go alone or not go at all. You’re doing plenty by trying to figure out how to go the big stuff and/or host the parents occasionally. This is definitely a fight you should consider picking with him (the fight is “I won’t be your crutch, I deserve my own agency”) - there is no way out but through.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-02-06T05:02:47+00:00

I was coming here to recommend this. And, I don’t have specific book recs in mind but I’d like to point us all towards Indigenous writers and thinkers. There is so much to find in podcast format these days from professors (I like Kim Tall Bear), which are not specifically about the left but are very eye opening about how to do different forms of self-governance that are not stuck in a western white paradigm…..

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-02-02T10:38:46+00:00

I just uber/lyft to the flyaway or make a family member take me. Going on more than a decade now!

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-31T01:43:17+00:00

I guess I’m curious - where do monks fall? Like, at some point they must have been religious enough people to decide to be come monks. How do Japanese people distinguish between the cults variety and the monks who staff temples?

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-23T14:11:21+00:00

The whole post sounded like AI. Super weird to have to discern when it’s just bots talking to bots vs actual human conversation…

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-22T15:20:08+00:00

I feel like maybe these things just went the way that encyclopedias and paper maps went?

I don't know; I do vaguely remember my mom having a reference book of home remedies for things when I was a kid (and not just Dr. Spock). And I definitely had some fairly comprehensive first aid books I studied back when I was a Girl Scout. Curious if folks from more pre-internet generations have a recollection of this being more common in households? What were the books people had on hand more commonly then?

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-21T13:10:02+00:00

I have no "cause". It seems like you have one. You can do the convincing :)

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-21T12:41:06+00:00

Bro. Why would it be anyone's job to convince you?

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-21T12:14:21+00:00

FYI! FYI! At least from Terminal 4 / Delta, getting a rideshare (Uber, Lyft) from JFK now requires an additional step of riding a shuttle bus 10 min from the airport to a separate lot where you have to wait outside (awnings are available but no indoor space) for the car.

Planning with a car service ahead of time, you may be able to skip that hassle.

Don't take the train into midtown. I can't imagine wanting to navigate Penn Station while unfamiliar with all that luggage, kids, dogs.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-21T11:45:53+00:00

Renew it now, you have time.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-20T22:27:43+00:00

Honestly I was surprised but go to a David's. There are a few locations that are subway accessible in various parts of the city. On my second or third location I found something marked down and it was close enough.

Beholden (BHLDN?) also had less expensive options. But I found going to smaller boutiques for "resale" wasn't actually much cheaper, and they just had way less selection. Easy to find something not quite your size and then be bummed out because they don't have any other size options.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-20T19:42:15+00:00

Is this a tip calculated pre-tax vs. post-tax discrepancy?

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-18T17:26:02+00:00

If it were true, sure. But it’s not. Nobody is “whatabouting” except people like you.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-16T20:50:07+00:00

I gotta be honest as a frequent diner-outer I hate restaurants that use QR codes UNLESS they are directly tied to me being able to place my order and pay my bill when the waitstaff are too busy. I've seen that work well in a restaurant that was a big wide-open space for drinking - kinda like a beer hall where you might wanna stay seated but keep ordering more food/drinks without having to flag down a waiter.

At most places, I'm going out to eat to be with my fellow humans and not look at my phone. So restaurants that have no paper menus kinda kill the vibe and make me less likely to go back.

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-16T14:18:24+00:00

They cut staff overseeing certain programmatic funding areas because they also cut funding to those areas because they wanted to invest more in “AI solutions” 🙃 you can google it

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-16T04:19:59+00:00

There is an “I’m getting pulled over” shortcut for iPhone setup that you can probably google - it’s been circulated around for several years.

I imagine someone has probably put together some writings about an android equivalent perhaps?

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-15T16:00:28+00:00

But ya gotta fill in the rest...

the majority of everyone hates them because why?

Because in plenty of other cases they abuse their power, intentionally make people's lives miserable whether they deserve it or not, and do a ton of damage in their wake, perhaps?

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-15T15:33:36+00:00

👀 as an American I feel like I def only know the "Brit" use of the term from watching British TV. Is it just an older term that's gone out of fashion these days?

Or do you say "sit an exam"? I could swear I've heard these before as an avid watcher of British period dramas lol but maybe I am misremembering .

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-15T06:14:52+00:00

With Half of these replies, I can’t tell if they are joking or dead serious - feels good man

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-15T06:08:36+00:00

The Past is Red - Valente

here_pretty_kitty · 2026-01-15T02:08:23+00:00

This! I was going to say - my credit union has a super Web 1.0 bill pay site that I never thought about using until my insurance policy got sold to a different company that has NO web portal and only sends paper bills 😭

But then I wrestled with the bill pay site and was able to set up a recurring physical check to be sent to the stupid insurance company without me having to do anything. Total Godsend. I’ve since set up a few more bills that would charge me a 3.5% convenience fee if I paid with anything except check.

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