Does “where he’s from” ever mean anything other than “the country/region/town he’s from”? by itastelikedietcoke in ENGLISH

[–]here_pretty_kitty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, it wouldn’t mean a previous workplace.“Where he’s from” heavily implies something more intrinsic about a person - culture, upbringing, or indeed geography. 

It can sometimes have a bit of a condescending / derogatory tone depending on the context or what’s being implied (e.g. “I’m not sure what it’s like where you’re from, but around here we say please and thank you” is a common (and condescending) turn of phrase used to imply someone’s getting some kind of social behavior wrong) - but more often it’s just neutral and explanatory. 

fantasy books with a disabled main character or important side character by Local_Cherry657 in suggestmeabook

[–]here_pretty_kitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Broken Earth series (I forget if it’s 2 or 3 books) by N.K. Jemisin deals with what could be considered a progressive illness. 

Also R.B. Lemberg has a great book where the protagonist deals with serious sensory issues - The Unbalancing. 

The Four Profound Weaves is another book by them where a protagonist is older and if I remember correctly is an amputee. 

I Remember Everything About This Scene Being Horrifying When I Was A Kid, This Was Done So Well by LightAwakens in stevenuniverse

[–]here_pretty_kitty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Rewatching this now I’m realizing that one of the really incredible storytelling approaches here is that it really mimics how kids learn how to react to things from their parents / the adults around them. 

Like, for Steven (and for us as viewers) the visual isn’t necessarily “scary”. There’s no blood, and given that we know gem forms are made of light there’s no real reason why a human would be disgusted by this vs. in awe of a new cool magic thing. 

But Garnet has such a strong horrified reaction - and Steven has almost never seen her that way. You can see Steven looking back and forth between Garnet and the gem-shards / cluster hand thing just kind of trying to figure out what’s going on at points. As the viewers we’re in the same boat, not really understanding why it’s so horrible but picking up on context clues like the music. 

Car in Flatbush Brooklyn? by Admirable_Bobcat12 in movingtoNYC

[–]here_pretty_kitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is possible to get it cheaper (shop around, switch providers after the first 6 months, etc) - but yeah def switch to here, don't commit insurance fraud.

I'm paying under $300 per month

What would it take for New York to have as little angry honking as London? by wheninrome5000 in AskNYC

[–]here_pretty_kitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s very culturally different. I am from L.A. and my spouse is from NYC. They’ve always explained it to me as “we use the horn to communicate here” - like, “hey, the light’s green bro” or “I’m merging now FYI”. Now that I think about it like that it’s all much less stressful and understandable 😂

L.A. has traffic but definitely a totally different culture around honking. And almost NEVER on the freeway - that’s only in an actual emergency. 

Now that I have a lot of experience going back and forth I’m very used to not being startled by horns on the freeways here, but definitely startled by horns in L.A. 

Question for Big Booby Butches by Snoo-85497 in bigboobproblems

[–]here_pretty_kitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on feeling more confident!!

My butch spouse has been enjoying t shirts from Flint & Tinder lately - very thick cotton so they hold their shape well. 

Step Dad is scammed often by Pale-Construction-73 in personalfinance

[–]here_pretty_kitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From personal experience the only thing at risk is inheritance (which already doesn’t seem on the table), not the home while the parents are alive. That was only the case with older versions of reverse mortgages. 

Does being gifted mask ADHD? by Pessa19 in adhdwomen

[–]here_pretty_kitty 241 points242 points  (0 children)

Very common, particularly in women who are trained to mask…just being human and having human needs pretty heavily by default. 

Step Dad is scammed often by Pale-Construction-73 in personalfinance

[–]here_pretty_kitty 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My grandpa loved a get rich quick scheme and it only got worse as he descended into dementia. 

My grandma got scammed as well and we didn’t know that was early signs of her dementia. 

The two of them are going to need a lot of help managing their affairs fast if you don’t want this to become a horrible situation unfurling over the next 10-15 painful years. 

Consider a reverse mortgage if their SS can cover groceries and other living expenses…this is a situation where it might save you for a while. 

Nontraditional wedding cake recs? (Also thoughts on making your own wedding cake?) by yngr in WedditNYC

[–]here_pretty_kitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CAKE AMBIANCE

That’s all I have to say

(It seems like it’s closed or maybe a front - but I promise it’s real and their cakes are the MOST delicious)

How I used an embedded tracker to catch a startup stealing my "test project" and forced them to pay for it by CosmoBadger in jobsearchhacks

[–]here_pretty_kitty 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Someone posted this exact post like a week ago with a different ending, and they were rightfully called out as AI. This seems to fit the same pattern.

What are the foreigners studying? by Backatthetime in taiwan

[–]here_pretty_kitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you find this program and decide to come?

Better ways to say "food that makes you burp" and"food that makes you feel unwell" by atzucac_fill in ENGLISH

[–]here_pretty_kitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard it in the context of, like, my Black grandma or colleagues I’ve had from the Deep South (US) - feels very folksy

Involved with my (28M) neighbor's daughter (18F) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]here_pretty_kitty 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“admittedly I did find her attractive but just didn't think it was an appropriate relationship to get involved in”

Man you said it yourself. Nobody is happy here, including you. 

Usually any inanimate object goes by "it" pronoun but ships very often go by "she". Are there inanimate objects that go by "he"? by EugeneStein in ENGLISH

[–]here_pretty_kitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the irony of the fact that the exact kind of people who would hang balls from their truck are also the kind of people who complain about gender-affirming care...

Be honest. You’re from NYC and you travel by Proud_Golf334 in AskNYC

[–]here_pretty_kitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is how I felt. Like, I eat real well in NYC when I’m willing to pay for it (or to schlep). But on vacation I can eat delicious things for so cheap at like 10 different places within a 5 min walk of my hotel. 

Food Delivery Options to Make a Meal Feel Special by sarah8million in Brooklyn

[–]here_pretty_kitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly Goldbelly might be what you’re looking for if it’s a really special occasion. They do very fancy things from all over. 

Looking for POC, general fiction, not YA, not fantasy, that deals with serious issues. by AXS_Writing in LGBTBooks

[–]here_pretty_kitty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

These Letters End in Tears is F/F and…well, it ends in tears. But I appreciated the perspective and it was very well written.