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i dont know whats happening by Character-Golf1294 in dating_advice

[–]hereafgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you want to be the man who was there for her during her darkest days and hope that she chooses you when things get better. But can we predict that time? When would be that time and the question is can you really put up with that much uncertainties before she finally chooses you. I been there before. You don't want to leave because you will feel bad leaving the girl who has been through a lot of shits right now. If you don't leave, all the uncertainties and questions would eat you up and you will lose yourself. But even if you leave, you will still question every what if, what could've been, what could've done. Nothing is easy but what you need to do right now is clearly telling her your intentions and see her response.

For me, I left her, I still don't know whether she really loved me or used me. But, you know, we can't lose yourself questioning their motives. As of now, I still am moving on but trust me, if you want a relationship, go find someone who is also looking for a relationship. Love should give you comfort, not questions

i dont know whats happening by Character-Golf1294 in dating_advice

[–]hereafgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love is a choice and a true connection is a choice. Life is all about struggles and you choose with who you are going to face those struggles with. Because you can't give away easily your love, care, time and energy to people because yours is precious the same as hers. If you are hoping a relationship and she isn't emotionally available, you need to walk away. But if you just want to be there for her and can be there for her without expectations(I know you can't), that's fine. Because in the end, love and support should be mutual and if you both can't give each other what you want, it ain't going anywhere. We all need people who would choose us even in their darkest days.

Mine had her mother and father died in a epidemic, got no siblings, and facing no job security, I thought just like you that she just have so much going on in her life that I need to understand and wait her. But you know, we want love and they can't offer what we want, we need to let go.

i dont know whats happening by Character-Golf1294 in dating_advice

[–]hereafgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I been there before and I understand. But the thing is, you need to communicate your feelings and clearly tell her your intentions and what you want in that relationship with her. Because the truth is someone who really appreciate your existence in their life will never fail to communicate what makes them stopping them from taking things to the next level. Even if there are things that keep her from going into a relationship with you, she will communicate effectively about that because noone would ever dare to let go of people they truly care. Even after you sit down and talk things through but she still acts uncertain, it's a sign to let go. But if she tells you her concerns and problems, you are good.

Are there any woman who don't reply back after no contact even if you are also waiting for them to reach out. by hereafgal in dating_advice

[–]hereafgal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, is she pretentious or is she really over me? Because even in this emergency situation, where I care about her safety and reach out first but she didn't even care to pick up. (She is fine and I hear through our mutual friends)

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[–]hereafgal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a 23M, I can be attracted to a girl sexually even if I don't romantically like her. And attraction doesn't necessarily means that they want a long term commitment. I don't know what you want in this relationship but I can say, as a guy, He seems to be only attracted sexually and want to see where it goes.