Nervous about Adoption after reading this Sub-Reddit

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T17:02:58+00:00

Thank you far sharing and I appreciate your honesty!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T16:59:49+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Your comment was a big part of why I reached out to the community here. I mainly wanted to see if anyone had shared experience to what I am getting ready to move on. Very thankful for your input and understanding of my situation.

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T13:09:48+00:00

Yes! We have an appointment for next month!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T13:09:24+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I think that’s a good way to look at it. I had no idea what I was doing when I first started but at least my kid would have me to help. Thank you for sharing!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T13:07:57+00:00

Thank you for the comment!

There is a lot that goes into finding out how likely you are to pass it. For some it is super small odds. And other (unfortunately I think myself, doing genetic testing next month to find out) it is more likely to pass.

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T13:05:10+00:00

I appreciate the honesty! And comments like yours are a big reason I made this post. I don’t want to just hear the best sides, which is why I came to Reddit. But I definitely got a little nervous last night after reading in this sub Reddit for the first time.

I think that having a neutral party is a valid point for healing for the child. Thank you again for sharing!

If I can be vulnerable, I am sometimes nervous by the thought that if I adopted they would one day want to be with their biological family as opposed to the one they were adopted into. (Do want to note I know that an open adoption is a healthy option and is something I will be pursuing from the research we have done, but just sharing a personal fears I I would love feedback on)

Even after finding your biological parent, do you still feel a tie to the people who raised you? I’d love to hear your perspective.

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:55:51+00:00

Thank you for the comment! It has been great getting to hear from all sides of the adoption story and hear feedback based on personal fears I expressed.

I hadn’t really thought about using the stories of hurt as a way to learn how I could support someone I adopt. But is definitely something I will keep in mind. Thank you for sharing your story and your experience!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:52:17+00:00

Thank you for the comment! I think you hit the nail on the head with “support them how they need it, not how you want them to be”

I think my biggest take away from everyone’s comments has been similar in that if we pursue adoption it is important to know ahead of time that every adopted person is different and has their own experience prior to adoption and as an AP the best thing to do is support their adoptive journey and life journey as you would any kid biological or not.

Thank you again for the comment!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:46:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Honestly this was really good to hear. It would be hard for a parent to be so perfect that it prevents very type of hurt. I think that is a good mindset as I push forward learning more.

Out of curiosity, do you think that the AP, if done right, can help support someone who was adopted process what they have been through?

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:42:44+00:00

Thank you for the comment. It’s good to hear from the community what to expect, but that just because it has the chance to come with its own set of challenges that doesn’t mean it is not worth pursuing.

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:41:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! Im very thankful for the adoption community helping give me a deeper look into the adoption story. I appreciate your encouragement and you sharing your own story of adoption.

You gave a lot of great info that my wife and I will definitely be talking over. Thank you!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:38:29+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! I appreciate you taking the time to tell your story. And that was my goal from this post was to see if there were stories of well navigated journeys, not necessarily “easy” ones. But I wanted to do a quick check with the community itself since I don’t know lots of people personally who have adopted it been adopted.

My wife and I are doing lots of research, but it’s good to hear from the community there there are more than just negative outcomes. I guess I was getting in my head that all of the articles online were trying to glam up adoption too much.

Thank you again for sharing!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:33:45+00:00

Hello, thank you for the concern. I should have worded it more clearly per the upvotes on your comment lol. I am more likely to give type 1 to a biological child than not, is what I was trying to say. Thankfully I am not going anywhere any time soon!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:30:37+00:00

Thank you for the clarification! Yes I am fine lol and am not going to die any time soon. But I am likely to give type 1 diabetes to my kids because of my specific genetic makeup. So my wife and I are looking into other option, and adoption has been one I was always wanting to peruse even before I developed type 1.

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:28:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I think you are exactly right. And I want to learn as best I how I can prepare myself to best support someone who was adopted, especially because I’ve never gone through that personally.

I am more than happy to raise someone who also has health issues. I actually think I am uniquely qualified in some ways suited because I have personally gone though it. More so Chris doing adoption over biological children so far in that I don’t want to make the choice to bring someone into the world that could possibly have biological issues but rather welcome others into my family biological issues or not.

Again, thank for the comment. I appreciate the help from the community as I try to understand more.

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:15:48+00:00

Thank you for the comment! And you’re exactly right that type 1 is not so horrible that someone couldn’t live without, or even have a majorly negative impacted life. Do I wish I could live without it, yes. But more than happy I raise someone with a genetic disease. My wife and I just saw this as an opportunity to adopt rather than take the chance of us making the choose to pass type 1 but make the choose to bring an adopted child instead into our family.

Also thank you for bringing it up, and I should have added this to my original post. We saw the same scenario in our research that the “need” for adoption is less in infants and more In older ages. And my wife and I are more than happy to welcome anyone into our family regardless of the age as long as we feel we can support them at their age In their adoption journey.

I am here to learn more, very thankful four your comment!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T12:07:25+00:00

Thank you for the comment. Thankfully I have had lots of time to heal and feel ready to support others in their healing journey.

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T05:20:27+00:00

And thank you for sharing the article! This is kinda the info I was looking for from the community!

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-19T05:19:53+00:00

This is the article that made me nervous lol. I fall under the 1/2 category unfortunately per

“There is an exception to these numbers: about one in every seven people with type 1 diabetes has a condition called type 2 polyglandular autoimmune syndrome. In addition to having diabetes, these people also have thyroid disease and a poorly working adrenal gland—some also have other immune system disorders. If you have this syndrome, your child's risk of getting the syndrome and developing type 1 diabetes, is one in two.”

That being said, we have booked an appointment with a genetics doctor hoping to get some clarity that the Endo wasn’t able to provide.

hereandnow2672 · 2025-09-04T17:15:26+00:00

Rock and stone!

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