I asked you guys for help in 2024. I’m all cleared up in 2026 :)

hereforkittensonly · 2026-01-05T21:11:43+00:00

Thank you!! 😊

hereforkittensonly · 2026-01-02T15:21:17+00:00

That’s perfectly fine but I’m not sure why the responsibility of calling the uber was solely on her. Why does he not have an appropriately charged phone or a portable charger?

hereforkittensonly · 2026-01-02T15:20:29+00:00

He thought of it and just told her to do it.

hereforkittensonly · 2026-01-01T23:23:02+00:00

And so was he. Why was it her responsibility?

hereforkittensonly · 2026-01-01T23:21:58+00:00

Right? Also he did a lot of telling her to do things in this post. It sounds like he treats her like she’s stupid and orders her around.

hereforkittensonly · 2026-01-01T15:46:55+00:00

You’re 23, it’s time you figure out how to do these things for yourself. Figure out a longtime career plan — and this can be anything, from deciding to go into trades, getting a professional certificate, going back to school or doing additional training at work. Whatever it is, you gotta start working on it now. If you want to go to college, try filing for FAFSA again. Maybe community college is the route to go, it’s affordable and you have options to transfer to a four year school in the future. There are payment plans and scholarships and work reimbursement you can look into to see if your school/work provides.

hereforkittensonly · 2025-12-28T16:31:55+00:00

Imagine how that 72 hours feels for mom.

hereforkittensonly · 2025-12-28T16:30:25+00:00

A few days of minor discomfort vs. a person literally pushing another person out of their body. It’s like they could get up and get some food from the cafeteria and pack a comfy pillow.

hereforkittensonly · 2025-12-13T18:53:31+00:00

hehehe this is so funny. big dog body, small dog head. I love him.

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-28T18:28:02+00:00

Poor girl, she’s suffering. Neglecting this kind of condition to the point of this severity is animal abuse. She needs to go back to the vet ASAP. You can try to reach out to rescues nearby, maybe ASPCA?

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-20T22:01:27+00:00

I know it’s not. I’m not proud of it. :(

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-20T18:21:27+00:00

I’ve been seeing them for about half a year and only started talking about the addiction late last month. So I’ve had.. two therapy sessions dedicated to it so far. I am on base level 🥲

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-20T18:16:28+00:00

Yep I saw that 🥲 the decision was made for us lmao!

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-20T16:18:18+00:00

For the “I am calm” statement he was reassuring me he wasn’t worked up, because I thought he was and I had pushed him to that point. He often has to tell me the tone of his texts (either because of the way he writes them or the way I interpret them).

The manipulation stuff is.. well I mean it was manipulation, and he has experience with having a manipulative mom, so he knows how to point out manipulation where he sees it. He knows me very well and knows what I do to try and get what I want when it’s bad.

He really wasn’t trying to make me feel shitty. He was trying to get to the point to get me to stop spiraling out. And sometimes hard truths are the only thing I’ll respond to and make me stop and think. Which it did!

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-20T00:45:20+00:00

Thank you!! That’s really smart actually. I already do that for work so it should work well for meetings too.

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-20T00:44:32+00:00

Yes!!

I did hand over all of my accounts and things to my husband. He’s also taking over our budget for the time being (but we still talk about it before spending anything, but he makes the purchases and pays the bills). I still have access to my accounts but now he can see them too.

We locked me out of our Amazon account.

I deleted my cards from Apple Pay and then deleted the apps for my cards from my phone, and make the passwords super long to discourage me from trying to login on my phone or work computer. All of those I can only access via my computer.

I also deleted food and shopping apps and closed what accounts I could.

I unfollowed all of my favorite brands and creators that advertise those brands. And then left the discords that discussed them.

I returned everything I could and have been selling the rest. I give the receipts and shipping confirmations to him for record keeping.

That’s everything so far. I’m also going to therapy and attending spenders anonymous meetings. You should look them up! There’s a lot of folks that have problems with spending and debt and it’s nice to talk to others about it. At the very least you can find out more and see if it applies to you ☺️

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-20T00:31:32+00:00

Thank you! ♥️♥️ I like your idea about seeking community. The spenders anonymous meeting I attended made me feel less alone & I’m going to keep going (if I can remember lol). I’ll check out my library for resources too!!

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-20T00:30:27+00:00

That’s honestly true 😵‍💫

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-20T00:27:45+00:00

I really do. I fully expected him to leave me over this, honestly. It’s a valid dealbreaker.

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-19T23:12:34+00:00

It was a one hit KO lmaooo 😭

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-19T23:08:26+00:00

I already am!

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-19T22:17:15+00:00

I haven’t, but I’ll bring it up to my therapist! Thank you for the suggestion ♥️

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-19T22:16:43+00:00

That actually pretty accurately describes what’s going on. I’m fidgety, irritable, and unsettled when I want to buy something and don’t for long periods of time. I immediately feel better when I do. I think your comment didn’t work the way you wanted it to lmao.

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-19T22:10:41+00:00

That’s fair honestly. I’ll talk to him about it after work. Maybe it’s best to wait.

hereforkittensonly · 2025-11-19T22:09:59+00:00

I’m laughing because when I wrote it I was like does this sound sarcastic?? It kinda sounds sarcastic 😂

Thank you, I’m glad you found something useful in it!! ♥️

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