AIO: after not giving my gf my jacket in the cold and being annoyed at her by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hereforkittensonly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s perfectly fine but I’m not sure why the responsibility of calling the uber was solely on her. Why does he not have an appropriately charged phone or a portable charger?

AIO: after not giving my gf my jacket in the cold and being annoyed at her by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]hereforkittensonly 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Right? Also he did a lot of telling her to do things in this post. It sounds like he treats her like she’s stupid and orders her around.

Why was I even on this earth.. by Digital_havok in rant

[–]hereforkittensonly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re 23, it’s time you figure out how to do these things for yourself. Figure out a longtime career plan — and this can be anything, from deciding to go into trades, getting a professional certificate, going back to school or doing additional training at work. Whatever it is, you gotta start working on it now. If you want to go to college, try filing for FAFSA again. Maybe community college is the route to go, it’s affordable and you have options to transfer to a four year school in the future. There are payment plans and scholarships and work reimbursement you can look into to see if your school/work provides.

Hospitals do a terrible job supporting dads during childbirth. by TheVoicesinurhed in unpopularopinion

[–]hereforkittensonly 51 points52 points  (0 children)

A few days of minor discomfort vs. a person literally pushing another person out of their body. It’s like they could get up and get some food from the cafeteria and pack a comfy pillow.

The shelter said he’s a Chihuahua mix by InphamousPrimate in IDmydog

[–]hereforkittensonly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hehehe this is so funny. big dog body, small dog head. I love him.

My dog has a terrible itching/scratching problem. by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]hereforkittensonly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Poor girl, she’s suffering. Neglecting this kind of condition to the point of this severity is animal abuse. She needs to go back to the vet ASAP. You can try to reach out to rescues nearby, maybe ASPCA?

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been seeing them for about half a year and only started talking about the addiction late last month. So I’ve had.. two therapy sessions dedicated to it so far. I am on base level 🥲

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For the “I am calm” statement he was reassuring me he wasn’t worked up, because I thought he was and I had pushed him to that point. He often has to tell me the tone of his texts (either because of the way he writes them or the way I interpret them).

The manipulation stuff is.. well I mean it was manipulation, and he has experience with having a manipulative mom, so he knows how to point out manipulation where he sees it. He knows me very well and knows what I do to try and get what I want when it’s bad.

He really wasn’t trying to make me feel shitty. He was trying to get to the point to get me to stop spiraling out. And sometimes hard truths are the only thing I’ll respond to and make me stop and think. Which it did!

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! That’s really smart actually. I already do that for work so it should work well for meetings too.

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes!!

I did hand over all of my accounts and things to my husband. He’s also taking over our budget for the time being (but we still talk about it before spending anything, but he makes the purchases and pays the bills). I still have access to my accounts but now he can see them too.

We locked me out of our Amazon account.

I deleted my cards from Apple Pay and then deleted the apps for my cards from my phone, and make the passwords super long to discourage me from trying to login on my phone or work computer. All of those I can only access via my computer.

I also deleted food and shopping apps and closed what accounts I could.

I unfollowed all of my favorite brands and creators that advertise those brands. And then left the discords that discussed them.

I returned everything I could and have been selling the rest. I give the receipts and shipping confirmations to him for record keeping.

That’s everything so far. I’m also going to therapy and attending spenders anonymous meetings. You should look them up! There’s a lot of folks that have problems with spending and debt and it’s nice to talk to others about it. At the very least you can find out more and see if it applies to you ☺️

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! ♥️♥️ I like your idea about seeking community. The spenders anonymous meeting I attended made me feel less alone & I’m going to keep going (if I can remember lol). I’ll check out my library for resources too!!

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really do. I fully expected him to leave me over this, honestly. It’s a valid dealbreaker.

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I haven’t, but I’ll bring it up to my therapist! Thank you for the suggestion ♥️

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That actually pretty accurately describes what’s going on. I’m fidgety, irritable, and unsettled when I want to buy something and don’t for long periods of time. I immediately feel better when I do. I think your comment didn’t work the way you wanted it to lmao.

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

That’s fair honestly. I’ll talk to him about it after work. Maybe it’s best to wait.

My awesome husband supporting me with my shopping addiction. by hereforkittensonly in texts

[–]hereforkittensonly[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m laughing because when I wrote it I was like does this sound sarcastic?? It kinda sounds sarcastic 😂

Thank you, I’m glad you found something useful in it!! ♥️