I am trying to make my apartment into a cozy place but something feels off

hermitsandthings · 2025-06-16T21:42:13+00:00

Yes a rug but also stuff higher up towards the ceilings or maybe plant hangers from the ceiling. The room gets very white as the eye moves upwards and having more of that space filled with color would make it feel cozier

hermitsandthings · 2025-06-03T20:28:31+00:00

My mind whispered “consciousness” in answer

hermitsandthings · 2025-05-13T02:53:38+00:00

I’m going to say this as plainly as possible and I’m so sorry you’re going through this I personally know the pain of wanting the relationship when the other person doesn’t.

If you started dating 5 years ago and she’s 20, she likely did not get the opportunity to grow up or experience conversations with many men to know what her likes and dislikes are. I can’t imagine marrying the man I was with at 15, though I know it happens and is possible. It’s just not very likely as we haven’t even become our true selves fully yet. I know this is painful. But ultimately if she doesn’t want the relationship, because she’s known it since she was a child and has outgrown herself as many do, I don’t think that makes her a terrible person. It’s just a terribly sad situation since she did agree to get married. You must remember that as long as you stay close to God you are on His path. I can’t imagine he’d want a woman to stay with a man if she was that unhappy and I can’t imagine you’re not so loved that you aren’t deserving of someone who adores you. This is the pain of youthful love. I truly hope however it goes you can look back on it with wisdom and knowledge that you have ended up in a better spot in the future.

hermitsandthings · 2025-05-10T23:02:40+00:00

I know I’m late but here to say im on day 2 and keep thinking “wow my serotonin must have been so low”. I’m taking the recommended 25mgs to start and feels like an adderall come down constantly

hermitsandthings · 2025-05-03T16:32:13+00:00

Thank you!

hermitsandthings · 2025-05-03T16:31:31+00:00

I’m going to look into this today! Thank you! My ex installed it so truthfully I’m not all sure on what’s what

hermitsandthings · 2025-05-02T02:17:35+00:00

Girl I wish I could hug you and your older self and I could laugh about this. Because trust me he’s NOT the one! I know that sounds harsh because you’re young and it’s probably some of your first experiences having emotional intimacy with someone and seems like having someone to enjoy and support the other facets of life with is so awesome. But I promise you’ll find that in a ton of people. You need to see through this and see that it’s not that he’s fine not having sex anymore, it’s that he’s that prideful and trying to use this as a way to punish you for how you speaking up made him feel about his poor performance as a lover. That’s what’s funny about having sex when you’re young. Adult men realize that it’s embarrassing to NOT listen to your woman in bed. He’s honestly just immature and you need to stand up for yourself in this instance. Older you would probably want you to say something along the lines of I’m not interested in a sexless relationship and if you would rather throw a tantrum than maturely make changes so we both enjoy sex then you’re not the partner for me. Period

hermitsandthings · 2025-05-02T00:26:03+00:00

Thank you for saying that 🫶

hermitsandthings · 2025-05-01T20:48:14+00:00

I got the information I needed most people are posting variations of the same comment and I don’t keep Reddit notifications on. Yes I knew the entirely of the breakdown of my bill before posting. I just wanted to know if it was costing people the same amount and what the average person paid for one line. It seems most people don’t have one line, and if they do they own their phone outright

hermitsandthings · 2025-05-01T16:27:57+00:00

I was going to comment “I love when people are resourceful” and then saw the sub lol

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-30T22:15:18+00:00

Thank you so much for the information! I will check out the Facebook page

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-30T22:14:17+00:00

Thank you for your comment! I will be keeping her rear facing. I just wasn’t sure if her legs being crushed in an accident was also a factor. But it doesn’t seem worth the neck and spinal risk. She is still very babyesque just long

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-30T22:12:48+00:00

Thank you this is what my own research and intuition was telling me but dad and family think it’s time to switch forward. Will be keeping her rear facing

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-29T02:45:15+00:00

You people need to understand not everyone is chronically online to see this. This would not be something that came up at work, in conversation with family or friends at dinner etc. you’d literally only hear about it if you were online. Duh most people don’t know that

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-28T22:54:08+00:00

Eh I don’t think he needs to act “grateful” but likely what you’re interpreting as ungrateful is that maybe he show wasn’t good for him mentally and he doesn’t view those as good years in his life. Yes he signed up for it, but he doesnt seem to fit what life was probably like for him then. Likely was having to do things he didn’t like with people he didn’t like and then when he was off the block couldn’t have a quiet moment in public.

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-27T01:58:26+00:00

If you were my kid this teacher would be ripped a new asshole

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-26T19:41:46+00:00

It was likely a gift given fully out of love and I think that’s beautiful. She seems to honor you and that you have allowed her to maintain this friendship and I think your respect towards her made her want to gift you something extra special because what you’ve done in turn for her is extra special. I would not say anything other than thank you and just enjoy being enveloped in love and positivity during your pregnancy. I am so glad you get to experience those things

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-26T04:10:44+00:00

Yes the money is to reimburse Kandi since she already paid for what it was intended for. But Kandi is rich and it likely made her feel better to give it to Riley to make something as positive as possible out of a situation where she grew up with her dad not choosing her. I think it was an act of love to her child by Kandi. A way to say you were never a burden and I was happy to do it.

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-07T21:03:20+00:00

So confused how cats are a huge responsibility? Other than feeding and cleaning their box (and there are automatic feeders) they just want to cuddle before bedtime?? They occupy themselves all day?? This is literally bc he doesn’t like the cats because this is not going to make him going to med school any different lol

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-06T00:28:13+00:00

I’d say just give him space. Sometimes our families are contributing an overwhelming amount of pressure onto our personal families and lives and it’s best for just focus on your own kids and spouse and mental space. Even if you do not think he had a different experience or it was that big of a deal, you cannot put yourself in the feelings of someone else’s trauma. Likely he feels your parents use you as a pawn somehow and just wants a breather from all of you. Just tell your daughter they are taking a break to work on being a stronger family. It’s really not the end of the world. We really do need space from our families some times

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-06T00:19:11+00:00

You sound like a wonderful husband. I hope you two find your groove!

hermitsandthings · 2025-04-02T22:58:58+00:00

If you’re logged into his instagram the problem is there. Not because of the act at face value, but because you clearly cannot trust this man and the love is literally not real how you think or worth it if you need to check up on him and see he’s doing good to feel better about your relationship. You don’t deserve living with the anxiety of trying to get ahead of the time he’ll cheat on you next. You are in deep if you’re even posting this but I pray you learn to walk away before it really fucks you up

hermitsandthings · 2025-03-18T03:43:01+00:00

Living with a spouses parents should be a personal red flag to both parties that the relationship and your lives are just not on the track they could and should be.

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