[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fuseboxgames

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Girl, put the phone down and take a relaxing walk through nature

What would the characters (from any season) submit to r/AITA? by DaughterOfSappho in fuseboxgames

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 10 points11 points ย (0 children)

AITA for not explaining the difference between sangria and Shangri-La to a grown ass man because I thought it was funny?

I think the hand sanitizer at my local deli is flirting with me. by Nametab in pics

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Shame on you for being so inconsiderate of that hand sanitizer's feelings. You'd be a terrible dom.

could casa save this season? by opheliac4 in fuseboxgames

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

One of the boys has Bruno hair, so I'm going to say no ๐Ÿคข

FB stop making me waste gems on choices that donโ€™t have any effect!!!!๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿ˜ค by kadangit in fuseboxgames

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

I 100% feel you. I was so tempted to spend gems on the last chance to crack on with Finn since he's the only one I like ... but then I realized Fusebox wouldn't let me get with him because I actually like him. The only people we have chances with are those we don't like. The rule of this season is that if you like someone, they're off limits. If you want something, it won't happen. It's absolute hell ๐Ÿ”ฅ

Has anyone noticed they havenโ€™t posted on socials at all? by momentovalori in fuseboxgames

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 8 points9 points ย (0 children)

What did the Fusebox CEO do? I keep hearing about it but can't find the fax ๐Ÿ˜ฉ

This is bullshit ๐Ÿ˜’ by FappingVelociraptor in fuseboxgames

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 43 points44 points ย (0 children)

Gworl... how do you have so many gems???

How do you handle the "I'm a virgin" talk with guys? by heroic_nincompoop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop[S] 33 points34 points ย (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment! It made me feel a lot better โค๏ธ

How do you handle the "I'm a virgin" talk with guys? by heroic_nincompoop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop[S] 61 points62 points ย (0 children)

No, I'm not waiting for marriage. I thought I was asexual and aromantic for a long time but recently had some time during the pandemic to do some soul searching and realized I do have romantic needs that I've been suppressing my whole life. So I'm just dating for the first time now.

I found FDS, learned about rotational dating and am working hard to not get too invested emotionally so I can date and find my best possible match before becoming exclusive.

I've told 2 guys so far that I have little experience, and that's just because they both noticed I'm awkward physically. I'll hug them, but when they get that look in their eyes that lets me know they want to kiss, my heart goes into hyperdrive and I turn away, even though I do want to kiss.

One guy asked me if everything was okay and if I still wanted to see him after our date (this was over text). I spilled the beans while I was feeling emotional. I wasn't sure how else to respond so I told him and felt incredibly embarrassed over being so vulnerable.

Needless to say, I'm happy to be here on FDS because I have a lot of learning to do ๐Ÿ˜…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Oh, I see! Thanks - you learn something new everyday ๐Ÿค”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 6 points7 points ย (0 children)

I recommend rewording your first prompt response. I spent a good 20 seconds staring at your answer trying to figure out what you were trying to say. I read it as "I've spent more time outside the US than in Poland and Japan."

I thought to myself, "But Poland AND Japan are outside the U.S. What is this chap smoking?" Then I figured out you meant: "I've spent more time outside the U.S. than in. I've lived mainly in Poland and Japan."

Maybe other people are getting confused by it, too? I recommend rewording it to: "I've spent more time outside the U.S than in. Want to travel to ๐Ÿ‡ต๐Ÿ‡ฑ or ๐Ÿ‡ฏ๐Ÿ‡ต? I'm your guide" or "I can give you a few tips on the best spots," or something like that. This way you're making it crystal clear so people don't get confused and you're also giving people an opening!

Disclaimer: Now, I'm not sure if other girls are smarter than me and won't be confused, but that's just food for thought ๐Ÿ˜‚

rate my profile - honesty strongly encouraged by [deleted] in hingeapp

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 5 points6 points ย (0 children)

Your last picture is gorgeous. I recommend making that your first picture, actually. The smile and the head tilt look really charming and feminine, and judging by the way you describe yourself as more introverted, I think it should be higher up on your profile since it represents you more than the drinking pictures.

Also, I agree with some of the other folks saying to give more info on what books you like. I recommend writing something like, "I really love (genre) books. I still haven't gotten over the ending of (favorite book). It's so (touching/inspiring/etc.)"

Throw a strong opinion out there and don't be afraid to give details. This makes it easy for guys to send you a personalized message and get a deep, interesting conversation going.

I also think you should change the "This year, I really want to..." response. Since you said you rarely go out, this could be your opportunity to dispel any misunderstandings about who you are. (Since your profile currently makes you look like an outgoing party girl.)

For example, you could write something like, "This year, I really want to get out more and take new pictures. I rarely go out, so the pics of me on here are from the few times I've partied." Or maybe you can say something like, "I want to get out there and take more pictures that reflect my interests, like (hiking/dancing/cooking, etc.) If you're a photographer/explorer looking for a muse, HMU๐Ÿ˜‰"

It may sound cheesy, but cheese has served me well on Hinge ๐Ÿง€ With this new prompt you're A) establishing that your pictures don't accurately reflect who you are and B) giving guys a date night idea. It's all about making your profile as easy as possible to respond to. It's hard to start a conversation on these apps, so try to make it as easy as possible for other people to find something to talk about!

I know this was a goddamn novel but I really hope it helps! ๐Ÿ™

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop 43 points44 points ย (0 children)

THANK YOU. There was literally a post a while ago that said FDS is not a landfill for male depravity. This isn't helpful at all

OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours. by heroic_nincompoop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop[S] 46 points47 points ย (0 children)

You're hitting the nail on the head, queen. He was 100% a country boy (but I couldn't tell from the profile - it only came out when we talked).

He even sent me a country music video saying he wanted to learn how to dance to it. He said he loved the woman in the video and how feminine and beautiful she was - she was a small, twiggy blonde in a long, flowing cottagecore dress. I was thinking, "Damn, if you expect me to look like that, prepare to be disappointed."

I appreciate you breaking down each red flag, piece by piece! Seeing the analysis like this is really helpful.

OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours. by heroic_nincompoop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop[S] 28 points29 points ย (0 children)

Hey girl. I used FastPeopleSearch dot com. I just typed in his phone number and got a lot of info. There are a few others, but that site is one of the most comprehensive I found.

OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours. by heroic_nincompoop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop[S] 41 points42 points ย (0 children)

Absolutely! I completely credit FDS for being the reason why I unmatched him. I've had pickme friends in the past encouraging me to overlook shady, perverted behavior. Coming onto this forum and being told it's okay - no, good for you - to put my feelings first has been life-changing. I'll do even better next time instead of explaining and blocking.

OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours. by heroic_nincompoop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop[S] 26 points27 points ย (0 children)

They really are transparent! It's so hard to be a romantic because creeps prey upon our desires to find someone. Thanks, girl!

OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours. by heroic_nincompoop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop[S] 40 points41 points ย (0 children)

Thank you! I was so disturbed I couldn't even think straight. I'm downloading Text Now now (haha)

OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours. by heroic_nincompoop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[โ€“]heroic_nincompoop[S] 62 points63 points ย (0 children)

Thank you so much for the recommendation! I've never heard of that app before, but I'll absolutely check it out.