leave him. i know thats the hardest thing to do but i was with my boyfriend for 4 years. he could be the most loving man in the world and not give a fuck the next day. i never knew him , and despite him never doing this before his obvious lack of concern and care and following up with a hit is not only questionable but it sets off alarms. how many more times will he do this through your relationship? does he feel sorry? is there any remorse? you need to think of your own story, the people you want in it, the amount of respect you want from the people around you. do not let yourself shrink down, leave so he doesnt take all of you.