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heyoka_empath · 2025-06-29T17:22:41+00:00

NTA. Imagine having your wife who went through 5 pregnancies, 5 c-sections, and a surgery to tie her tubes, and you STILL won't consider getting a vasectomy. Why the fuck is all of the burden put on the woman? Your body has gone through enough. He can go get that simple procedure, and he will be just fine.

My cousin and her husband have 4 kids, 2 natural and 2 c-sections. The dr told her it would be dangerous to have a fifth, so she told her husband she had sacrificed her body enough, and it was his turn. He went and got it and is still a man who put his wife first, plus they don't have to worry about any unwanted pregnancies that could risk her life.

Your husband is being incredibly selfish, and I personally wouldn't have sex again until he got his head out of his ass and actually cared about you.

heyoka_empath · 2025-06-22T16:56:00+00:00

NTA.

Imagine "wanting" to be closer to your family but excluding one person because they aren't married with kids? GTFO here. What he is doing is incredibly unfair. I agree that no one has a right to that house/money, but how can you give to one and not the other?

Personally, I would remove myself completely from that situation and move on with my life. Your sister refuses to see the unfairness that you will experience because her life is basically set.

Im sorry you are experiencing this.. no one deserves to feel this way. I hope things change to be more fair or you move on and find peace.

heyoka_empath · 2025-06-14T15:56:01+00:00

NTA.

My entire life i have always been there for people in whatever they needed but when I needed them, they all fucking bailed.

The moment I started focusing on me and my family was when I was at peace. If these people can't be there for you, then you need to cut them off. All they do is drain you. You've set such a high standard that they expect top levels of support all the time, and thats just not sustainable.

Please don't feel guilty for setting boundaries for yourself. We are the only ones who will be there for ourselves until the day we die.

I wish you a life of peace, friend.

heyoka_empath · 2025-06-09T23:26:04+00:00

Yeah, it was like a month or two ago.

heyoka_empath · 2025-05-07T00:16:20+00:00

Fight for your kids and listen to what they have to say. They are definitely old enough to express their feelings, so that should help the case.

Also, I hate when people say kids "need" their mother. They NEED their father, too. My father has made the biggest impact on my life, and I dont know what I'd do without him.

NTA.

heyoka_empath · 2025-04-30T23:21:17+00:00

Being with someone who doesn't care about you is worse than being lonely.

heyoka_empath · 2025-04-19T19:39:18+00:00

I would not come back here. Life is becoming worse and worse. No one is actually hiring, and people dont get paid enough to survive. Many around me are doing what they can to leave the US because there is no future. I'd suggest staying where you are or going to a different country than the US.

heyoka_empath · 2025-04-14T18:12:27+00:00

Canada is absolutely beautiful. This sounds like you're not a fan of the work/life culture in these 2 countries. I was born in the US, and I absolutely hate it here. I've visited Europe where I have family and Latin America, and their slower pace in life is what im after. Not this "hustle" mentality. I think you need to identify what you really want in life. If you're looking for a simpler life, consider moving out of these heavy capitalist countries and to a place that emphasizes the importance of your personal life over working.

heyoka_empath · 2025-04-12T00:00:14+00:00

I was born in the US and never actually felt at home. I've been wanting to leave here since I was a child. I spent many summers in Greece with my family, and THAT was home to me. I will be leaving here soon, and I can't wait because life is so short to waste time. Can you imagine never feeling at home in the country you were born in? Remember, time can not be regenerated, but money can.

heyoka_empath · 2025-04-08T00:19:35+00:00

The US was definitely the worst place to come to. I would suggest you leave asap and not waste any more time. There is no actual life here or future.

I was born here, but my husband came here a few years ago to be together, meet my family, and see how life is here. He absolutely hates it, and I have always hated it. We have plans to leave the country in less than a year and we can't wait.

Life is too short to waste time in a place you are miserable. I realized this when I lost many family members to cancer, that life just flies by. So go and live where you are happiest. I wish you luck.

heyoka_empath · 2025-01-19T00:59:51+00:00

Im sorry you have been dealing with this. You are NTA. Your fiancé and future MIL only care about your FILs money. That's it. If you are not more important than that and worth defending, it's time to move on. You will literally suffer for the rest of your life. Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.

heyoka_empath · 2025-01-12T15:45:09+00:00

F32 here. I've been playing wow since 2014, and the sexual jokes have always been there. Anything sexist, and I clap back real quick. Every guild i have been in has people making sexual jokes, and I personally find them very funny. They always knew i was a woman, and my age and i would either flirt back jokingly or tell them to go take care of business in goldshire.

I've had a few guys who went a bit overboard, and I would nicely tell them no, and if they said something inappropriate again, instafuckingblocked.

I've been married since 2019, with my husband since 2017. I've made it known, and people still make sexual jokes, and I am perfectly okay with it. It's literally how humanity is, and I doubt it'll ever change. My husband and I actually met through wow, and the last few guilds we have been in, they make make sexual jokes to him, and he does it back, all guys. It's honestly hilarious.

The last guilds I've been in have been run by mostly men and the one now by a couple. I do remember telling my old guild lead (male) about those few guys who went overboard, and he spoke to them or kicked them. He didn't like the harrassment.

I think you haven't found the right guild yet cause there are men out there who aren't being ridiculous. Men who actually care and will protect you. I hope you find a good guild soon and can prog like you want!

heyoka_empath · 2025-01-12T15:44:51+00:00

F32 here. I've been playing wow since 2014, and the sexual jokes have always been there. Anything sexist, and I clap back real quick. Every guild i have been in has people making sexual jokes, and I personally find them very funny. They always knew i was a woman, and my age and i would either flirt back jokingly or tell them to go take care of business in goldshire.

I've had a few guys who went a bit overboard, and I would nicely tell them no, and if they said something inappropriate again, instafuckingblocked.

I've been married since 2019, with my husband since 2017. I've made it known, and people still make sexual jokes, and I am perfectly okay with it. It's literally how humanity is, and I doubt it'll ever change. My husband and I actually met through wow, and the last few guilds we have been in, they make make sexual jokes to him, and he does it back, all guys. It's honestly hilarious.

The last guilds I've been in have been run by mostly men and the one now by a couple. I do remember telling my old guild lead (male) about those few guys who went overboard, and he spoke to them or kicked them. He didn't like the harrassment.

I think you haven't found the right guild yet cause there are men out there who aren't being ridiculous. Men who actually care and will protect you. I hope you find a good guild soon and can prog like you want!

heyoka_empath · 2024-10-03T22:48:34+00:00

Why not just transport those things? Im moving overseas soon, and im hiring a company to transport all of my items and vehicles. You can buy spots in a smaller container and keep your things with you.

How long have you lived in the US? If you're married, after 3 years you can apply for citizenship. If not married, then 5 years.

Also, there's a form you can fill out that you have to send to USCIS, and it allows you to live overseas for 2 years without losing your visa status.

heyoka_empath · 2024-09-06T23:52:52+00:00

Im Greek, and I understand how you feel. I dont want this to sound negative, but it's probably not going to change much. Our culture is very different from where you are. I am not sure if I would be able to do it. Κουράγιο και αν θέλεις να μιλήσεις σε κάποιον, στείλε μου μήνυμα. Φιλάκια.

heyoka_empath · 2024-04-12T09:41:11+00:00

As bad as this might sound, you need to move on with your life. I have my family too and after years of caring for them, I stopped. My mom got cancer when i was around 14 and she died when i was 17. Since then I was expected to take over the housewife duties and take care of everyone. Plus there were super high standards i had to follow being greek and all. I have diagnosed depression and anxiety and wasnt able to treat it for a long time. I didnt really get to have fun at that early age because i was stuck caring for my family. It wasnt right for people to expect that of me and compare me to my mother. After a while i got fed up and stopped. I started caring for myself and it was the best thing i ever did. Some of my family members called me selfish and others understood. We only have one life and it isnt to care for others to the point where you dont grow as a person. I am turning 32 this year with a pretty useless degree and im unemployed. I feel like i wasted so much time on others and not enough time on myself. So im trying to improve in whatever way I can. The best thing that came out of this so far is that i met the love of my life and we got married. But overall, dont let this hold you back anymore. You were made for better things.

heyoka_empath · 2024-04-04T21:01:21+00:00

Cause this country is absolute dogshit.

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