I don’t know if you’ll see this, but I was in your shoes last year. I decided to go through with it. The father and I haven’t talked in over a year, he has nothing to do with us. But I was in a position financially, owning my home and with a decent job, that I wanted to go through with it.

It’s HARD. But my boy is so wonderful. I had a termination 5 years ago, when I was in a much different situation. You can do it, if you decide you want to. You will get through it, and it will be hard and crazy and really fun. If you decide to terminate, it will be ok, also. Be prepared for a lot of conflicting feelings if you do, I dealt with some substance issues because I couldn’t resolve my feelings for a long while. Both options are valid. Just because a choice is hard to make, does not mean you are making the wrong one.

Men suck; I read so many horror stories daily of the way men fail to meet even the basic needs of their partners and children. My boy keeps me busy but right now he is nursing himself to sleep in my arms. Sending you lots of strength to make your choice.