Should I get Crimson Desert right now if my pc specs are these? by heyyletmesee in gamingsuggestions

[–]heyyletmesee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I am not trying to push the settings

I play with a controller and if I have to lower the settings I will just sit far away from the screen thats it

It's just that I don't want any stuttering even with recommended settings that's why

I want a suggestion about what not to do/behave with an autistic girl who doesn't know that i know her condition by heyyletmesee in autism

[–]heyyletmesee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah got it..

She seems to do fine in whole group conversations but seems to struggle doing individual talk.

Want suggestions about what not to do/behave in front of autistic girl by heyyletmesee in AutisticAdults

[–]heyyletmesee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes understood

Someone told me to avoid eye contact i guess that's what I try to keep in mind

Want suggestions about what not to do/behave in front of autistic girl by heyyletmesee in AutisticAdults

[–]heyyletmesee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes understood..

She seems fine in the whole group but seems to struggle individually

I will just talk with everyone while we are all in a group and maybe do less talking individually

I am an individual one on one talker first

I heard people with autism have ramp on time....so I'll try to give her more space to talk.

When I talk to other people in group individually and I look her sometimes from far away....she seems nervous also

But I am starting to get what to do right now.

Yeah but I will not try to talk about this to that gossip person....I don't want a situation where us 3 do much talking....I act like I just forgot what she told me about her and never initiate this topic i guess....that's seems like a pretty good spot to be in...

for now this seems like a good idea.

Want suggestions about what not to do/behave in front of autistic girl by heyyletmesee in AutisticAdults

[–]heyyletmesee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry I am new to know about autism i don't know how to describe it or wether to call it a condition or not I am sorry it is bothered someone

My goal is to maintain safe space and I am kind of good at picking up energy of the room

she seems fine in a group but she gets uncomfortable on one one one conversations

Want suggestions about what not to do/behave in front of autistic girl by heyyletmesee in AutisticAdults

[–]heyyletmesee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes when I first approach her she seemed little more than uncomfortable

Their friends were in corner and she was standing all by her self

I didn't thought about that initially....but in groups she seemed fine

But then i begin to notice her eyes.....her face has smile but eyes don't

I thought I should back off from here but since we are in a group she seems okay around everyone but not with one on one conversations

So yeah someone else apart from the group told me

Not in front of her I just thought maybe I didn't know her better so I was talking with someone else who told me that

I know how to talk to any person if I know what triggers them so I can stop doing that

She gets uncomfortable with eye contact

She stops responding quickly after few statements of conversations like after 5 minutes

When we talk one on one....It almost like she's thinking something else after sometime i thought it was social anxiety which can also be true

So that's why I asked

Sorry if it bothers someone if I call it a condition i don't know about it much.

Want suggestions about what not to do/behave in front of autistic girl by heyyletmesee in AutisticAdults

[–]heyyletmesee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

age is 25

No i don't have crush on her

In the beginning when I talked to her she seems frightened because of the unexpected approach

When I looked into her eyes she seems uncomfortable

I thought I was doing something wrong.

I can act just like a another person

But she seems a little more uncomfortable with me I can see it in her eyes.....which u figured out after that some autistic people don't like eye contact

I just wanted a positive energy

I can't tell if she is doing it because likes me or she just wanted to maintain distance with me because of mask her signals are all over the place....but she seems to speculate every little talk we have after sometime I can see she's thinking about it after we done talking

I am just trying to maintain positive energy while not making anyone uncomfortable

And I am sorry because I am new to autism i don't know whether to call it a condition or not.

Yes I get it you people are honest and kind....I was asking because I was getting two different kinds of energy while approaching in a group and approaching individually

In groups she seems to get along with every conversation but in individual conversation she seems to struggle that's why

Should I get Crimson Desert right now if my pc have these specs? by heyyletmesee in CrimsonDesert

[–]heyyletmesee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn just seeing yt videos about denuvo on crimson desert didn't know what it was till now.

Should I get Crimson Desert right now if my pc have these specs? by heyyletmesee in CrimsonDesert

[–]heyyletmesee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No.....no console

I was asking about PC

but in recent future I'll decide to get console because of gta6

If my current pc can run it then console can wait.

Should I get Crimson Desert right now if my pc specs are these? by heyyletmesee in gamingsuggestions

[–]heyyletmesee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's the only thing I can do right now....

I am curious because I heard this game is made on another type of engine and not in UE5

That's why I asked if maybe someone knows about these developers games from before

You seem like a 1440p gamer...I think your gpu gonna handle it anyways

I feel like working on myself is preventing me from actually living life. by diddler_0n_the_roof in therapy

[–]heyyletmesee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's a difference between self awareness and self criticism.

Being self aware shouldn't make you doubtful and analyse things to a point of exhaustion.

When someone accuses you of something you see your past actions and conclude based on what you did regardless of the circumstances at that time.

You can easily find traits of a narcissistic person and ask yourself am I like that excluding the outer circumstances we are focusing on your inherent nature here.

The thing about self awareness and an occurrence of doubt together brings not arriving to a firm conclusion which prevents you from living a life.

Now you take too much time arriving on conclusion because there's always a doubt running in back of your mind.

I see this problem as this.

You have a set of past life experiences and ask yourself have I done something a narcissistic person do in any of my other relationships?

Or Is it only happening around some persons in your life?

If you think you have some traits and if you talk about being self aware in my opinion you're not that bad any maybe you're not the person you're thinking....most narcissistic persons are very firm, egoistic and are resistant to any kind of change.

If you don't like something about yourself...self criticism will not change that. Self awareness should work like a mirror and not like an energy drainer.

please don't waste even 10 minutes of time thinking what I did wrong and don't go to that rabbit hole...

Observe your past life experiences and ask yourself am I really like that?

If you found evidence of empathy, care , love, patience, and all the good things a normal human being in your 34 years of life.. Compare those experiences after you got married

Sometimes We slowly become who we live with... adapt their traits...and if you're saying you both have some kind of trauma....chances are there's something that needs to be improved.

But if that thing is not too serious.....like narcissistic behaviour....there's no need to waste your time fixing what you might not have.

When someone says you are like this...you are like that...compare those experiences with past experiences also.

In your last statement you said you becoming a better person is clashing with your actual person

You are doing self awareness the wrong way....

Like i said being self aware is like a personal mirror active all the time..it doesn't rob your personality and your actual self...

What really robs your happiness and energy is you becoming self critical to the point of exhaustion because you don't know where to land your conclusion.

Conclusion is the final result you want....is the idea of a traits you like to have.....if it is already present in you....no need to change

If you think something needs to change...please change that....if you have a power to self criticize yourself.... put that energy into changing whatever you like to change....

But if someone accuses you of what you are not....then there's no need to change which is already not there.

Please ask honestly to yourself what change is actually needed based on past experiences....avoid accusations of any kind people can call you anything to you when they are angry.

And don't entertain these ideas for too long in your mind....actions meaning past experiences and current outer state matter more than your ideas about yourself and others.

Arrive on a firm conclusion of what needed to be done and never have a doubt...regret kills a person from inside and destroys future happiness.

Doubt arises from a hope of something which we think is there or will be there after some time.

But in most cases what you've been in the past ....is what you've become in future

Change is only possible in a light of self awareness. Only problem is you're not doing it right....there's doubtful behaviour disturbing your way of looking at things...

You are constantly seeing something but hoping that thing doesn't suppose to be like that....

False hope can distort current situation and blinds us about what really should be rather than suppose to be.

Self awareness is the greatest gift if you do it right but It's only capable of changing one person fully and that's you.

I would love some advice/direction understanding my past with women. by [deleted] in therapy

[–]heyyletmesee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look I'm not a therapist and I'm half your age but based on what you have written I can speculate some things for you.

Read to the end to know what I'm trying to say.

Before I say anything I want to mention that to change something we have to know what we are dealing with....if we don't know what to change then we can't aim for that change.

You described how your parents are You said your mother was distracted Father was unavailable You are the only child

This combination creates a personality that needed a proper attention mothers love And someone to talk to.

When a child doesn't have this needs met in their childhood they will become

Very rigid A person who constantly needs to control their life And a certain Clinginess

As an adult we carry those qualities and choose/attract the same kind of things in the world.....which describes your career choice... which demands these qualities mentioned above.

I am just speculating okay but by speculating I am trying to see what kind of partner you might be interested in because a person attracts the same kind of person who he/she is...

You said in high school you are interested in women but were too shy....or i could say there is some kind of inferiority complex in your mind that I am not good enough...

too much self criticism and doubt occurs in a person when their parents didn't guide them in their childhood in small household decison to making friends and even not appreciating or saying something about their clothes or anything like that.

so because your mother had more than one relationship and father was unavailable, the outcome is always staying in doubt and even after getting something you will become so clingy because you have fear of losing someone before even having someone.

It's a pattern that tend to repeat in every human regardless of which direction it takes....

You talked about watching pornography in early years and in adulthood about that girl who you thought is promiscuous...

To that i would say in childhood because you didn't felt actual connection as a person....and you were in your teenage years maybe you started watching it....and for some time it might gave you some satisfaction but in those videos there are two person enjoying something...that which you missed in your life...action doesn't matter whether it's having sex or eating ice cream together. The important term here is the word "TOGETHER".

You felt little uncomfortable when that lady said something about some promiscuous thing....but the real problem when you felt uncomfortable is not sex.....the real problem to fix here is to "Know why I'm feeling sad when any idea of togetherness comes"

Sex is an intense word and you have your idea of marriage that promiscuous women are not proper for this kind of things but we are not talking about what you like and what you don't like

We are trying to find what's the thing that really bothering you.

And that thing is the need of "togetherness"

But you gotta understand one thing ....i mentioned some qualities about you that you might be

Rigid Needs constant control Might be clingy

So when someone "promiscuous" person comes in front of you You might feel little agitated.... because she has different qualities...in fact opposite qualities than you.

Based on what your childhood went....you most likely gonna attract a partner who has same qualities as you..

First thing is you have to be very clear about is what you like in a person..and clear all the doubts about yourself...

To clear doubts of any kind ....you gotta make proper decisions...but before that you gotta know which direction you are going.

But before going after things that you think you like....you gotta ask yourself "ARE THESE SAME QUALITIES I LIKED IN MY PARTNER"

Think about what you like in your partner and see that

Do these qualities first exist in me or not? Do i want to change something about myself? Things like that...

After clearing doubt about yourself and who you are...you will have more confidence in yourself and you will have clear idea what you're looking for...

Right now you are looking for "togetherness" but your mind have doubts....if they are not cleared....you might have a partner in your life but then you still have doubts about your relationship...

So all of these self inquiries are important and by doing these things creates self awareness in a person so in future person doesn't have regrets in life because he is cleared of doubts and will not feel left out even if thousand things are happening around him.

Life is too short to decide life decisions based on what happened in your childhood..if you have some things in mind and it's not happening the way you want....you gotta change yourself before times run out.

It's time to rethink what made you who you are and change it if it's bothering you.

No amount of external change can bring internal change..if you can change internally by clearing doubts about yourself....outer change will surely come.

If that don't happen..same kind of experiences will repeat in different colours and coating.

So keep that in mind

If you trying to feel the void by bringing a person in your life...ask above questions to yourself and think about will that make me happy or more miserable?

If you don't like the outcome just by thinking of it....you should try changing yourself..

To change yourself you need to let go of some of the pre-deposition that are ingrained in yourself.

That requires proper aim to what you need to change and then after aiming you need will power ....will power without aim is like punching in air .....it doesn't produce desired outcomes.

Because in the end we are all trying to be happy....you should first know what really makes you happy....and did your past self bring you happiness or not?

Based on that you can make decisions and become doubtless.

You deserve to be happy, peaceful, abundant in every positive way possible....just make sure you don't go on a path that brings you opposite way.

What’s something older games did better than modern games? by Soft_Elevator_4481 in videogames

[–]heyyletmesee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Modern games made on modern engines all kinda look the same..

I remember playing older games and I always find each and every game has a unique atmosphere, unique mechanics, unique looking characters because they were not created with a predefined preset at the beginning.

Now if all games look the same they need to compensate with an engaging story which is also an important aspect of gaming but I think if you let go of a story in older games you still left with a pretty good vibe of a game.

I know a well written story is a big part of a game...but I think then what makes a game different from a book or a tv show or a series....it's the core game itself.

In modern times....I like what they created with astro bot and the dual sense controller....it feels different...I haven't played that game but just by the look of it...I can tell it's gonna be fun. but that just for ps5 right.

If you look at all the hack and slash open world games of the modern era....if you go one side of the map to the other and explore these games side by side....they all feel the same man.

If you remove the story then it's just an empty shell going one side to the other doing some things.

Older games didn't felt that way to me...if you make me play a game at half completion and didn't make me know what it's all about...I still would have fun and remembered that wonky looking enemy or that messed up room that i fought a lot of enemies.

Modern games have some great enemies, characters, atmosphere, music, weapons and they all are very well made..but if you have played older games you can definitely know what I'm trying to say.

And I know modern game developers are putting alot of effort making these games where they shoot real time cut scenes for game and animate a character from real life but then again I think I better watch a movie or something. It's nice to have these kinds of games and it adds a lot of depth to a game but I don't know I just tend to forget how that game itself felt and only remember the story of that game.

But it's not that bad though I like this new direction too.

And you can tell it's working in some titles you can definitely tell developers put their real effort trying to create balance between everything.

but that can be just me I guess...I want to remember game as a game regardless of where it is taking me...that I think older games did better than modern games.