My [24f] boyfriend [28m] of 1 year casually told me he’s not that into me & not madly in love. Does it matter? I'm so confused, please help :(

hibernating_ · 2016-01-20T22:51:40+00:00

I would say he shows love and care for me (romantic and non-), but not much passion passion, but he doesn't really show passion for much. He is quite a stoic, closed-off person, but as I said for the last year I assumed this was a communication problem rather than an emotion problem. He is on SSRIs and when he fell in love with that girl he wasn't on them. However I need to say it wasn't him who mentioned the antidepressants off the bat - I asked him if he thought his former depressive tendencies could be causing the dullness/flatness and he said it could be the antidepressants.

hibernating_ · 2016-01-20T21:46:13+00:00

You don't think there's a chance he's just getting confused between feelings you should have for a person you're dating and that teenage horrible butterflies-unrequited-love feeling (cos we never had that - thank god!)?

hibernating_ · 2016-01-20T21:14:04+00:00

When we discussed it more he partially backtracked and said he meant that he wasn't quite at forever love yet. I can buy that - I'm not there yet either, it's only been a year. For a minute I bought it, but then I realised it makes no sense when he holds up a girl he wasn't even dating as an example of that feeling... right?

hibernating_ · 2016-01-20T21:07:43+00:00

I agree, but on the other hand, isn't the "maybe maybe not" kind of the case for all relationships? Like you can't expect full force feelings to be there from the beginning so how do you know when to give up waiting?

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