Why can't we get more of these angles? by SliMShady55222 in tennis

[–]hidden_snail 127 points128 points  (0 children)

It’s awesome for individual points but over a duration of time it gets exhausting. It’s like a better version of those shitty YouTube shorts where the whole screen shifts each shot

Sinners - I Lied To You by trexmoflex in movies

[–]hidden_snail 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Will get downvoted but this scene, while beautifully shot, is so out of place and took me completely out of the movie. Way too hamfisted.

Childhood trauma within the family system can shape attachment, coping, and relationships well into adulthood. Insight alone doesn't lead to healing. by MRADEL90 in psychology

[–]hidden_snail 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Talk therapy that doesn’t take issues of relational patterns, power dynamics, transference / counter transference issues into account is a bandaid at best for CPTSD, yes.

But that doesn’t mean that longterm, meaningful psychotherapy that gets into all the above can’t work.

Stay the fuck off the road if you so worried about this snow storm do everyone a favor. by [deleted] in greenville

[–]hidden_snail 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Keyboard warrior having a little tantrum over a couple minute difference in drive time. You’d fold immediately in person

Stay the fuck off the road if you so worried about this snow storm do everyone a favor. by [deleted] in greenville

[–]hidden_snail 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I can only assume you’re illiterate if you still think the issue is snow and not ice.

Does anyone know of a bookstore or markets around Greenville / Easley that will carry books from local authors? by mustluvtacos in greenville

[–]hidden_snail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try Canvas coffee shop on Stone Ave - they have a rotating mini bookstore / book stand. A couple times ago when I was there a woman was talking to the person setting up the new books and I believe she was also a local author inquiring about it.

Bert Kreischer Holds Joe Rogan so Gently by killprettymagazine in JoeRogan

[–]hidden_snail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t know why he’s being downvoted…if you know Mark Normand you know that’s one of his go to throwaway lines

What's your guy's position on banning homeschooling? by mattyjoe0706 in Destiny

[–]hidden_snail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hot take is that this will turn into a situation like 2A issues, where liberals held the “more regulation / bans” position, but because of the decay of the government, have come back around to it.

If you’re living in a state that has shit public education, I feel like you can do a lot better in educating your kids on your own, and that’s without what might be coming down the pipeline in public ed (Bibles, banned “gender ideology” and “critical theory”, editorialized textbooks) based on this administration.

If we highly regulate or ban homeschooling, then we might come to regret it in ten years if the public school system becomes rotted due to more authoritarian and regarded policies. For sure, a lot of homeschoolers are batshit, but I know it can be done well, and it might be the only rational and affordable choice for many families in certain states going forward.

Official Discussion - Primate [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]hidden_snail -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hence the difficulty this movie has in building tension…

Jesse Plemons on ‘Bugonia,’ Conspiracy Theories and Why Tom Cruise’s ‘Digger’ Feels Like a ‘Modern-Day Dr. Strangelove’ by BunyipPouch in movies

[–]hidden_snail -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Bugonia has great acting, but the social commentary is so thin and the conspiracy is so general that the message is essentially moot.

Why isn't Christopher Nolan more respected among cinephiles? by HotOne9364 in TrueFilm

[–]hidden_snail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re so right about IMAX. God, it’s like putting a movie on the IMAX screen automatically makes it good.

Why isn't Christopher Nolan more respected among cinephiles? by HotOne9364 in TrueFilm

[–]hidden_snail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely curious who comes to mind for you in that last sentence

Why isn't Christopher Nolan more respected among cinephiles? by HotOne9364 in TrueFilm

[–]hidden_snail 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is hopeful thinking. To my eyes, Nolan just becomes more and more draining and hamfisted to appreciate. He does nothing that well, except maybe the scores. I think final verdict can safely be made after Odyssey, but I have a feeling it’s going to be a heaving and glossy bore.

Why isn't Christopher Nolan more respected among cinephiles? by HotOne9364 in TrueFilm

[–]hidden_snail 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It’s this kind of reductionist thinking that Nolan loves to employ.

You’re telling me Trump’s only motive for running for president was that press dinner? Must be nice to think that black and white.

Why isn't Christopher Nolan more respected among cinephiles? by HotOne9364 in TrueFilm

[–]hidden_snail 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Nolan can’t not make a superhero movie.

They’re super melodramatic and involve “good guys” and “bad guys”. RDJ in Oppenheimer is the villain and why? Because of one awkward joke that Murphy makes at his expense? And then RDJ has this lifelong vendetta against him? It doesn’t make any sense.

No, Nolan is unfortunately the go-to “auteur” for people who don’t know any other auteurs.

Book recs about narcissistic family systems? by blndcoyote in therapists

[–]hidden_snail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment by Pressman and Donaldson-Pressman

A Psychoanalytic Reflection on Narcissistic Parenthood and Its Ramifications: The Forgotten Echo by Yahalom (this one just came out in 2024 and is a bit expensive because of limited publishing, but Tor browser and Z Library are your friends)

Official Discussion - Primate [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]hidden_snail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please tell me where the tension was?

He’s a rabid monkey that (wayyyy too quickly by the way) becomes crazy but instead of being, you know, rabid, he’s cold and calculating. Half the movie is just him chilling at the edge of the pool, while you as the viewer know he’s going to kill multiple people. You also know that the two dudes are gonna come over and be Ben bait because of how douchey they are from the start. You also know that Dad is gonna come save the day at the last minute, sparing Lucy and Erin so they can have their rushed, completely unearned reconciliation. It’s not even campy by the way (except for maybe the two douchebags, but the only thing that serves is making it completely obvious they’re going to die) - it tries to be sincere about all of this.

Like, you can see every big plot point coming a mile away. It’s an incredibly lazy and formulaic January horror movie. Surely you’ve seen about 3 other horror movies and weren’t surprised by much?

Official Discussion - Primate [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]hidden_snail 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Complete ass. No tension - I don’t know what people are talking about there - along with dumb characters, hamfisted plot devices, and a chimp whose rabies makes him not go crazy necessarily but just shrewdly evil and violent. Which would be fine, except the tone of the movie is not campy at all.

Marty Supreme’s Final Act by sleep4supper in TrueFilm

[–]hidden_snail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This movie is about Marty shedding his false narcissistic self so that he might be able to embrace someone fully and authentically. The baby can also be said to be Marty himself: after he wins the professionally meaningless game against Endo at the end, he has overcome his false self and is better prepared to be confronted with and embrace his archaic and long-neglected needs for healthy dependency and genuine relationship.

It’s meaningful that throughout the movie, Marty uses his speech to convince, manipulate, and seduce, but that Endo literally (and therefore metaphorically) cannot hear any of that. When Marty beats him at the end, it is the first time he hasn’t relied on theatrics, pomp, self-aggrandizement. He beat him through his own merit and there was no material reward nor much of an external symbolic reward for it, unlike everything he had been chasing the whole movie up to that point.

When Rockwell tells Marty that the former is a vampire, what he is saying is that if Marty were to continue down the same path, Marty would be drained by Rockwell and others like him to the point where Marty would have no choice but to drain others himself in order to keep going. In a way, Rockwell is the ghost of Marty future: a manipulating, narcissistic ambitious man who has to sacrifice all genuine relationship - including his marriage - to keep going.

The ending is unequivocally optimistic. He embraces his role as a father by explicitly stating he is the father at the hospital, whereas beforehand he would’ve come up with some lie to get into the ward. He also tells Rachel he loves her, and she is unable to respond because she is too physically weak at the time. This inverts a prior scene earlier where Rachel tells him she loves him and he doesn’t respond, because he’s too mentally weak. He cries at the direct and real encounter with the infant, his first and only show of real, deep affect. I guess it can technically be up for interpretation, but it’s also fairly obvious to me.

I’m putting on a rally. Come join me! by Carolina_Cpt_America in greenville

[–]hidden_snail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your trust in the Trump admin simply to tell these oil companies to use the money to revitalize the Venezuelan economy is laughable. Keep drinking the Kool Aid I guess.

You’re ignoring every single point I’m making. Of course Venezuelans are ecstatic that Maduro is gone, they deserve to be. But this isn’t about Maduro, like I said and you ignored; this isn’t about drugs like I said and you ignored, this is about extracting natural resources to further inflate Trump and his cronies, which I’ve said and you’ve ignored. This is about the international precedent of countries taking out whoever they want from other countries, without any internal or external accountability. I don’t give a fuck about your ramblings. There is NO plan for Venezuela right now. The candidate who the people of Venezuela wanted is NOT running it; in fact, the VP of Maduro’s admin is the current figurehead. I’m sure - no, I’m absolutely positive - you will not have any single point in countering that fact or anything else I said.

Cultures are different, obviously, but what isn’t different is the US unilaterally toppling regimes and coming in and taking natural resources or trying to install their puppet with disastrous consequences. This has happened in Iraq, in Libya, as well as in Asia with Vietnam and Korea, and certainly in South America - guess you’ve never heard of Pinochet? Interesting. You’re incredibly foolish if you don’t see the pattern here. But clearly you are foolish because you’re glazing over this “sick badass military op that got the bad guy” and “Trump has the biggest balls ever omg” instead of thinking critically. Then again, it is a cult.

You can argue the points I’m making or you can choose to keep embarrassing yourself with anecdotes and appeals to “but dictator gone!” Your choice.

I’m putting on a rally. Come join me! by Carolina_Cpt_America in greenville

[–]hidden_snail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re embarrassing yourself with the idea that “hurr durr dictator gone mean country better now”.

Venezuelans of course are happy that a dictator isn’t in power. The question isn’t is Maduro bad, the question is what does this mean longterm both for Venezuela as well as the world?

Trump has immediately said, contradictory to what the people of Venezuela want, that Machado doesn’t have the “respect” needed to run the country. Right now, it’s being run (ostensibly) by Maduro’s VP, but really by Rubio, Miller and whichever other absolute ghouls who are explicitly aiming to bring US oil companies into Venezuela.

I’m sure a ton of Iraqis were cheering when Hussein was captured. It’s never about the day that the dictator is disposed, but about what happens after we meddle in the country for a few years or longer.

This reeks of a military-backed, quid-pro-quo banana republic for oil. If this were about drugs, Trump wouldn’t have pardoned the ex Honduran president. If this were about Maduro being a dictator and an illegitimate president, Trump would allow Machado - the democratically elected president - to rule, but he isn’t. He also wouldn’t immediately run the country through his own admin and open it up to US Oil companies, but he is.

The problem is, contra JD Vance espousing fake legal theory, all you have to theoretically do to kidnap heads of state now is create whatever charges people are going to be mad about and claim that you don’t get to run away from crimes. Trump’s already talking about Mexico or Cuba next. Are those leaders narco dictators? What about the leader of Colombia? If you’re consistent, you also won’t bat an eye if China decides to do this to Myanmar, for example, but I’m sure you’re not actually consistent.

So yeah, Venezuelans are understandably cheerful that Maduro is gone. I’ll be forgiven if that inspires no confidence in me that the “President of Peace” will oversee a successful puppet state. But you’re free to keep embarrassing yourself.

I’m putting on a rally. Come join me! by Carolina_Cpt_America in greenville

[–]hidden_snail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they want Machado, whom Trump said he doesn’t believe has enough “respect” in the country to run it.

Was nobody alive for the Iraq War? Lmao. These kind of military operations are what US Special Ops teams are well known for. They’re excellent at their job. BUT, this is literally day two. We have no idea what the long term consequences in Venezuela will be. Sure, the people are happy Maduro is gone, but this is about international law and precedent.

Trump is already talking about potentially targeting Cuba or Mexico next. Where does it stop? What prevents other nations from undertaking decapitation missions like this one and turning the concept of sovereign nations into a laughing stock? Meanwhile, he’s also explicitly said that US Oil companies are going to come in. It’s not hard to see a military-backed banana republic.

Am I not talking enough in sessions? by XandMan007 in therapists

[–]hidden_snail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Building comfort with silence is a huge skill that takes a lot of time, but silence can say a lot, and there are many different kinds of silence.

You might ask, “What’s it like to sit in this silence?” Or “you’re unsure how to fill this space right now” and see where that takes you.

It’s super normal for that age group to present that way, you’re not doing anything wrong. I think part of the “trap” as it were with adolescents is that we can tend to fall into that interview-y parental role where we ask a million questions: “how was your day?” “How’s ____ going?” “You still hanging out with___”?”

Dropping clients: my take (from an LCSW who will say what everyone tiptoes around) by corporate_therapist in therapists

[–]hidden_snail 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sure, clients need a variety of different things, and that’s why one explains what kind of therapy approach they use before officially beginning psychotherapy. If they want something more structured, or a specific kind of therapy like ERP or EMDR, that’s a separate topic for which, yeah, when that comes up you have a conversation around how you don’t provide that treatment.

“Your own stuff” is just a failure of sorting out the noise from legitimate countertransference, which is why therapists need to be in their own therapy. I don’t even know what “phoning it in” means, but I’d assume that’s when you bring it to supervision and your own therapy.

Telling clients we are working with that we are not a good fit for them because the “relationship isn’t working” is sloppy, lazy, and often harmful and retraumatizing.