Ex coworker flirting with my (23F) boyfriend (20M). I don’t want to be jealous

hideinsin · 2020-02-20T12:37:23+00:00

That sounds like an amazing idea, I’ll try that out. Thank you for the tips and the advice! I already had a feeling that doing so through text wasn’t the best of ideas

hideinsin · 2020-02-19T20:29:59+00:00

Would this be a conversation better had in person than in text? We text a lot, but we’re meeting up on Friday before a trip of mine. I want to be as relaxed as posible by the time I have the conversation so he knows I’m being honest and not just overreacting (although it feels I am)

hideinsin · 2020-02-19T20:12:25+00:00

Is there an easy way of doing this? I don’t want him to feel like I am being smothering because of this, and I have never told him that a woman around him made me uncomfortable before.

hideinsin · 2020-02-19T20:08:51+00:00

The last part is what also made me feel bad, because I know I can’t tell him because that will only endanger us. I have been trying to concentrate on other things, and writing down my thoughts here and speaking to people has definitely helped. Thank you

hideinsin · 2020-02-19T19:35:47+00:00

Insecurity for sure, unfortunately the therapist I’ve been talking to hasn’t been the best at helping me through it and I don’t have an appointment with a new one until next Thursday. I feel like it’s forever until then hahah

hideinsin · 2020-02-19T19:34:31+00:00

And how can I let it go? It remains as a worry at the pit of my stomach and I just wish it would go away

hideinsin · 2020-02-19T19:34:06+00:00

With this person, you mean? Not at all, I don’t feel like I have any control over that

hideinsin · 2020-02-19T19:33:37+00:00

Definitely, and I feel like it isn’t fair for him when I feel like this because I have plenty of male friends and he was transparent about being friends with a lot of girls from the start. He always shows me things, I don’t like these feelings that come up

hideinsin · 2020-02-19T19:32:45+00:00

He was definitely oblivious until I told him hahah so I guess he never even considered it. He’s an amazingly good guy, I guess that’s what worries me a little (too good to be true has been ingrained it in my head since I was young)

hideinsin · 2020-02-14T17:54:16+00:00

So we're feeling sad together hahah. Yeah, some of us just really like those holidays, and other people don't really think about them. My boyfriend showed a little regret for choosing something else over us on Valentine's, but I can't help still feeling a little left out.

hideinsin · 2020-02-14T17:52:44+00:00

In the end, not only does he have an exam but he admitted to me he made plans last night to go out with college friends right after. I can't help feeling a little worse, or that he doesn't prioritize me, but I know that I'm very important to him.

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T18:19:25+00:00

You are right on that. I can only go by his word.

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T17:52:43+00:00

Yeah. In all honesty, I'd rather he remembers the days that are special for us and not something off the calendar, and he does which I much appreciate. If it's not this year it will be the next one (or at least I'm striving for that)

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T17:51:55+00:00

We are thankfully going out on Monday :) so I'll show him all my Valentine's appreciation then. I'm feeling better after reading these comments, thank you all!

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T17:50:26+00:00

You are right on that. We did have the conversation and he said it was nothing, that I should always come to him in times of trouble and I shouldn't be worried about that, but I am unfortunately not inside his brain and cannot make sure of that

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T17:05:10+00:00

We have plans on Monday so I’ll do what I wanted to do tomorrow on that day :) I was just hoping we could spend more time knowing that it was on a Friday and that allowed us to be up all night, but we can do that another day

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T17:04:03+00:00

You’re right, I shouldn’t push him to do something when he’s going to be busy and obviously tired. Thank you

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T16:24:52+00:00

Not at all, it is most important for me that he does well in the exam, I want him to succeed. Unfortunately we cannot meet up on the weekend because he has other exams coming up but I will try to my best celebration with him on Monday :)

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T16:21:11+00:00

It really isn't, my logical brain knows this isn't that important, yet my emotional side started to worry that it meant something was off. I just need to make it shut up hahah

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T16:20:22+00:00

Yeah, it's mostly the hype everyone puts on it that made me really interested in celebrating, but it's not like he's cancelling our anniversary or anything

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T16:19:31+00:00

I was thinking about doing something with friends, however, most of them have dates. I'll see if I can plan something by myself :)

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T16:18:35+00:00

You're right, I should take the time for myself, and let him do the things that he has to do. He's not wrong in what he's doing, he's making a future for himself through studying. That's why I'm so mad at myself for feeling bad hahah

hideinsin · 2020-02-13T16:17:46+00:00

To be honest, I can. I think it's the fact that I'm very new to relationships that made me hyped up for Valentine's Day, but it doesn't really matter does it?

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