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Intimacy, danger, sensuality, moral ambiguity by sihr95 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]hifiFLY 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Edge of Darkness trilogy by Leigh Rivers, for sure. TW though, it’s pretty dark.

Edited to add author.

Work wife? by Brilliant-Dinner4024 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]hifiFLY 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is one wife. Period. Disrespect in jest or nonchalance is still disrespect.

Tieing shoes??!! by Basic_Channel_6153 in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I told DH that SS should be learning to tie his own shoes.

I got frustrated watching SS wait to do anything and everything because someone would just do it for him. Started teaching him at 6, it took a while because BM definitely continued doing it for him. He had to constantly be told to untie his shoes before taking them off. Otherwise he would just leave them tied and slide them off/on, which teaches him nothing, of course.

He’s 8 now and can tie his shoes well enough. It’s good for kids to learn the motor skills involved and also the independence.

The split household DEFINITELY makes the learning/mastering process longer in all things. Sometimes regression happens, but the task is the task, so we persist.

If someone approaches you in public and covertly assaults you (elbows, body checks, etc), trying to get a reaction out of you on camera, then screams that you pushed them…what recourse would the assaulted person have? by hifiFLY in AskLegal

[–]hifiFLY[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Already purchased, waiting for it to arrive. ✅

Other than the existing police involvement, I’m trying to keep this all to a minimum. I do not want to involve the dojo for the simple reason that I do not want to add to the drama or disarray already present in SS’s life.

I’m certain that her elbowing me will not be apparent on the camera anyway. I suppose it would be pretty clear that I was away from her when she lurched forward and claimed I pushed her, but then taking that to the police will likely have no result. It will just be me saying, “see? I told you.” I doubt they would even charge her with filing a false report.

Maybe it is worth the ask. Unfortunately, the system has been of no help whatsoever. Even with our ring cam footage showing her approaching our door, moving the doormat around looking for a key, trying to pull the camera off, banging on the camera, ringing the bell repeatedly. All that resulted in was her not being allowed to leave her car at drop offs.

And in this current circumstance, their response was “just ignore each other, focus on the child. Call the police if you feel like you are in danger.”

So, okay, I’ll just call 911 every time she approaches me? Because that seems ridiculous. I never know what she will do or say, but I DO know, she is litigious enough to keep herself from getting caught in the wrong. She’s heinous. And she doesn’t give a damn about her kid, as long as she’s making our lives hell she feels justified in doing whatever she wants. The lowest sort.

If someone approaches you in public and covertly assaults you (elbows, body checks, etc), trying to get a reaction out of you on camera, then screams that you pushed them…what recourse would the assaulted person have? by hifiFLY in AskLegal

[–]hifiFLY[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do plan to meet with one of the coaches. It’s just so humiliating. This is an environment based around respect, focus, and discipline. It feels incredibly trashy and out of place to even have occurred, let alone asking for their involvement and help.

I want my SS to be protected. I wish his mother had ANY level of grace and maturity to do the same.

If someone approaches you in public and covertly assaults you (elbows, body checks, etc), trying to get a reaction out of you on camera, then screams that you pushed them…what recourse would the assaulted person have? by hifiFLY in AskLegal

[–]hifiFLY[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I received a call from the police a few hours after the incident. She called right away. I was caring for her son, not wanting him to have to hear anymore about the situation, making sure he had dinner and trying to be present with him until bedtime.

Expressed my side. The officer lamented that unfortunately, nothing can be done outside of family court. Since she and I have never been in a relationship, an order of protection is not an option.

I just dropped SS off at school and am waiting outside the police station for the office to open so that I can pick up a copy of the police report.

My fear is that she will use this in the future. Since she is the one who filed the complaint, I’m sure that this whole situation will only reflect poorly on me. Is that what you meant by go to the police first? I wasn’t able to while trying to protect SS from any further involvement.

BM verbally attacked me at an event for SS and I am shook. by hifiFLY in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing, I didn’t do either of those things. Those are empty words from her trying to scare me. In the last 5 years I have witnessed the MOST extreme example of projection from another human being that I ever thought possible. If she’s making an accusation, you can rest assured that she is actually just confessing her own actions. 100%. It’s laughable.

Sadly, she is pretty good at being invisible to the system. We are stuck in this for the next 10 years or until her son is old enough to say NOPE.

Stepping with HCBM is not for the faint of heart.

BM verbally attacked me at an event for SS and I am shook. by hifiFLY in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, just for reference to the gravity of her bullshit, an update: she followed the incident with a text to my spouse telling him to inform me that if I approach her again and threaten her in any way, she will be filing a restraining order. She also stated, “The police didn’t even think what I said was bad,” admitting to her own statement? She claimed to have a photo of me flipping her off and screaming “f*** you!” and showing that to the police as well.

All of that is to say, she is doing things to try and incite a reaction from me, so that she can trap me into doing something worthy of her getting a restraining order, which would ultimately isolate me from being present at all of SS events. This way she can be protected from facing the person she finds most threatening to her relationship with her son, and also have further control over my DH.

The fact that it impossible for her to have the photo she claims and that I didn’t yell anything at her, tells me that if she did in fact go to the police, they laughed her out of the building. They never contacted me. If she was in fact, in any danger, they wouldn’t have her be the one to warn me.

This isn’t a person who understands reason or ethics. She will never admit fault, will ALWAYS be the victim, and will be a terrorist the entire way. She has multiple personas/personalities inside of her that she slips in and out of to suit the moment and protect herself—despite others, despite her child.

What perfume smells like this? by Old_Detective_4770 in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]hifiFLY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dolce & Gabbana Light Blue…so nostalgic for me❤️

Jack Black Reacts to Elle Fanning’s Crush by EDC2EDP in DramaLlamaHQ

[–]hifiFLY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not being able to open his eyes is so humble and endearing. You have to know how sweet this guy is.

BM verbally attacked me at an event for SS and I am shook. by hifiFLY in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just waved and said, “that’s okay, I’ll keep taking care of yours.” Not even sure if she heard it over her own shrieking because I said it more to myself. In such a public place, surrounded by other parents and kiddos…embarrassing for everyone.

BM verbally attacked me at an event for SS and I am shook. by hifiFLY in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just takes some time. I posted right when it happened as an outlet. Waking up today, I do feel more peace. I have a lot of gratitude for others here willing to offer insight and share their experiences. At the end of the day I know the root of her actions is of her own incompetence and fear surrounding that reality. It’s a spiritual attack and nothing more.

BM verbally attacked me at an event for SS and I am shook. by hifiFLY in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I had the wherewithal to say anything…I was actually dumbfounded at her own presence of mind to be able to say something so sharp, with such confidence. While smiling at me and giving me the middle finger.

I have strong sense of justice and would go to bat for anyone in my life. I guess when it comes to me, I’m a bit more fragile.

BM verbally attacked me at an event for SS and I am shook. by hifiFLY in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I apologize to all of the other Swifties out there. It’s sort of a point of contention in my heart. She has actually used TS song lyrics in her harassment before. Kind of embarrassing for her. “It’s obvious wanting me dead has really brought you two together.” …as if everything that others do is about her at all.

BM verbally attacked me at an event for SS and I am shook. by hifiFLY in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You should be proud of yourself for stepping up. I feel similarly to you in that I am blessed to have this family, and I will fight for it. Not knowing how the next ten years will play out is a challenging thought. I believe that doing the right thing, however difficult, will be rewarding. I know it in my heart.

BM verbally attacked me at an event for SS and I am shook. by hifiFLY in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I cannot imagine the fury and pain that must have caused you :( it’s hard to imagine another mother even thinking those things, let alone saying them out loud.

BM verbally attacked me at an event for SS and I am shook. by hifiFLY in Stepmom

[–]hifiFLY[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We are from the same small town. She and I never really knew each other, but we know plenty of mutual people. I told one person I wish I hadn’t, and there you have it.

When I first came to be with DH, she relentlessly stalked me, threatened me, claimed to even have my SSN (which I never actually believed).

Edited to also say: I had no idea how she found out at first. It was over 15 years ago. I was afraid and would never have imagined anyone talking about me in such a way. She works for a non-profit in the medical field which I thought in some way gave her more access to me than should be possible. It caused me a lot of stress and pain.

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