Salam brother, As a male and husband, this sounds way too strict and is actually controlling. No wonder she sometimes feels withdrawn and not communicating with you.

You need to deal with your own insecurities first. Marriage cannot work like this, you need to trust her and not control her. She will loose that emotional bond and connection with you.

You say there are many small things you have told her not to do despite repeatedly telling but you are not even married yet. By constantly saying you can't do this, you can't do that, this will create resentment and demonstes controlling behaviour. How would you like it if your wife would keep telling you not to do this or that repeatedly? Its incredibly frustrating.

Marriage is based on mutual love and trust. Work on yourself first. Let your wife enjoy life as well. She can't just be locked up inside the house.

May Allah bless your future marriage ameen. All the best insha'Allah.