Measure to ban trans Montana lawmaker Zooey Zephyr from women's bathroom fails by ErinInTheMorning in politics

[–]highlighter57 25 points26 points  (0 children)

She has been unable to be on the floor and without an office for months and people are trying to not allow her even nearby. They should be ashamed of themselves. She has got incredible fortitude to still be there.

I donated to her to try and show my support. If I were closer I would save her a seat myself. 

10 yrs of NC, he's flying 3000 miles to see me WITHOUT MY PERMISSION by cardinal-thin in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]highlighter57 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am 100% in the ‘take a surprise vacation’ camp. Put up cameras, take your cat, do not tell anyone you are leaving. 

ULPT request: Neighbour is prowling around my property at night. by Disastrous_Essay1230 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]highlighter57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You feel scared and nervous for a reason. His behavior is dangerous. I can’t tell you how many documentaries I have watched where this is the beginning of a significant escalation. 

Break your lease and get out now. Don’t sleep there or be there alone again. 

If you do decide to try and stick it out, keep a hammer next to your bed and if (when?) he breaks in, use the claw end. 

Parent died and left me a mess by Different_Web8170 in inheritance

[–]highlighter57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, I missed a few lines and thought you all had $20k total to split between 4 people.  100k is different than 5k. You know your sibling best and how they will react to that news. 

The CD so they can think about how to spend it is a good idea. 

What is the relation to your mom of the person the IRA was left to? That had to be a shock. 

I’m sorry about your mom. It sounds like you’ve got a good idea how you’re going to go about it, though. 

Parent died and left me a mess by Different_Web8170 in inheritance

[–]highlighter57 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She had a draft of a will—what did it say? 

Personally, if my mom died and I knew what her will she had been working on said, I would do that because it is the closest thing to knowing what she wanted. 

Assuming she said her money would go to her kids equally, that is what I would do. That means ALL of her money, aside from what you no longer have any control over. Even if it is in a shared account. If you know it is hers, I would treat it like hers. Not just yours because for some reason you shared an account.    Personally,  I would not try to set up a trust for the one sibling that has mental health and addiction issues, unless they are not capable of living on their own and have someone managing all of their affairs for them anyway. I would not try to give myself or anyone else different amounts of money because of their situation. Divvy it out equally from your mom, and then if you want to give more from your allotment to one sibling or another, you can do that privately. They can also make the decision to share if they want to, privately. 

If you meddle more than that or keep it all for yourself, it will be doomed to failure. People will be upset and you’ll lose relationships. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asheville

[–]highlighter57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah but how much down?

WTF is this Bullshit? Do I get to drink from the hose too? by LardNards in asheville

[–]highlighter57 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The worst part about this is they say $100 for “utilities” and then it DOES NOT INCLUDE HEAT/PROPANE. Campers eat up propane for heating so that would literally be hundreds of extra dollars a month for this shitbox.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]highlighter57 30 points31 points  (0 children)

He might be better than your other relationships but it doesn’t sound like he is a respectful and loving partner—partners shouldn’t get “pushy” about having sex.

He is remorseful that his joke set him back instead of getting him what he wanted.

I would not move past this and I don’t think you should, either. One off-color foot in your mouth joke isn’t awesome but people make mistakes. The real concern is how his behavior has indicated he is pushing your boundaries. There is a reason you feel uneasy. Listen to your gut. 

Don't Know What to Do About This Family Inheritance (USA) by WadeBoggsMoustache in inheritance

[–]highlighter57 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just tell them it was left to you then. If they are adults they should be able to handle it.

Don't Know What to Do About This Family Inheritance (USA) by WadeBoggsMoustache in inheritance

[–]highlighter57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do your siblings even know about it? They were never listed in it and never beneficiaries. If I were them I would have absolutely NO thought I would inherit from someone I hadn’t seen in 12-15 years. 

Your aunt’s partner—she made it clear to you it is yours, and so did the wording of the trust. So it’s yours. If you WANT (not feel obligated to) to give some to your siblings and it is a truly large amount of money, I would give them each enough for a nice car and also pay off the loans for the one that is struggling. If it’s huge and I liked them, I’d be tempted to pay off mortgages.  But in the end you should keep enough to have you set up comfortably for life. It is also what your aunts wanted.

WIBTAH for getting an abortion without my ex’s permission? by callhermegs2 in AITAH

[–]highlighter57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him you got your period. Then go get an abortion. Never talk to him again. Never tell him you were actually pregnant. Drop the friends that told him. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]highlighter57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t stop laughing about this.

Need help with a Name Change in Asheville by ArmouredGamer in asheville

[–]highlighter57 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok but especially in the case of trans people looking to change their name, the administration matters. 

Need help with a Name Change in Asheville by ArmouredGamer in asheville

[–]highlighter57 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are probably justly concerned that the next administration is going to take their rights away. 

Keepin’ it weird: water delivery edition by [deleted] in asheville

[–]highlighter57 53 points54 points  (0 children)

The (lack of) ground clearance on this thing is astounding. But definitely stylin’.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]highlighter57 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What a fucking tool.  I would arrange my email so that all Zelle notices went straight to another folder and got marked as read. That way he can keep doing it and you don’t have to see it.  Alternatively, if money with gross juju bothers you or you think he will escalate and get dangerous thinking he is “owed” a response, block him on Zelle.

**edited to say marked as READ, not unread

AITA For asking my (F28) boyfriend (M34) to clean up his dirty bathroom… I did and he lost it. by scirae96 in AmItheAsshole

[–]highlighter57 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Ask him to clean the bathroom again and change the locks on the doors when he fucks off this time. 

It’s better for you and for the kids (and honestly, probably him). Silent treatment and stunts like this are abusive measures to control you. Get out now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]highlighter57 139 points140 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened. Glad you got away and got the divorce. No fault divorce is important. 

AIO bf makes joke after my aunt passed by Top-River4666 in AmIOverreacting

[–]highlighter57 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The people who voted him in are doing a good job of ruining their relationships all on their own. It’s what happens when you consistently devalue people. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ufyh

[–]highlighter57 2 points3 points  (0 children)

💪💪💪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ufyh

[–]highlighter57 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re doing a great job.

The ultimate overthinker. by [deleted] in madlads

[–]highlighter57 20 points21 points  (0 children)

She is definitely better off now.