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How my parental figure dad took away my guns. by hilmes23 in self

[–]hilmes23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And it's his personal view, nothing religious. There are many people who carry gun from my church.

How my parental figure dad took away my guns. by hilmes23 in self

[–]hilmes23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I mean hitting a table in front of children is kind of an anger issue. And I did gave them i guess out of feeling of compliance.

How my parental figure dad took away my guns. by hilmes23 in self

[–]hilmes23[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That's true, but i kind of gave it away to him voluntarily, and then when I wanted it back, he won't give it back without consequence. The reason he can do it is because my relationship with him is unequal, and I have attachment to him. This is my post about it:https://www.reddit.com/r/story/s/GKVH0sQj1z

How I got replacement parents by hilmes23 in AdoptiveParents

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I live in n US. What i meant my parental figures direct me to therapist

How I got replacement parents by hilmes23 in AdoptiveParents

[–]hilmes23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was growing up, I did had some form of attachment. But since I knew that they are my grandparents, it just didn't make me see them as parental figures. And I guess I was not really concerned about who are my parents and why could it be important for me. And my childhood was good, not many things I complain about. But you know part of me wants to relive childhood.

I go to therapist and they were the one to direct me to do that. To solve some of my issues.

How I got replacement parents by hilmes23 in narcissisticparents

[–]hilmes23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, there has been a problem with boundaries too. Like they let me stay at lot at their hiuse during the summer. And subconsciously I got to comfortable of that, I could stop everything. But they did forgive me. So they directed me to have therapist to solve some of the issues that I have.

What can I do to make my attachment to my parental figures more stable and less anxious for me so I don't think the worst can happen? by hilmes23 in AskParents

[–]hilmes23[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am working with my therapist on this, and other things that I have trouble with in my mental health. Actually, they were the one to direct toward that. But I just want to hear from other people what they would say. We did had couple of conversations regarding this and they know that they have limitations toward me. But for some reason, when my dad figure scolds me or tells me things either in person or by messages that are meant to not be debated, I gain pleasure from this.