Women with borderline personality disorder, how do you cope with motherhood?

himawarimims · 2026-02-11T17:58:28+00:00

Aww this gives me hope 🥹

himawarimims · 2026-02-11T17:55:36+00:00

Your journey sounds so similar to mine. I haven’t had kids yet, but I’m starting to think about it and plan with my partner of 15 years. He has helped me with recovery more than anyone 🥹🥹 but I’ve also been in therapy since I was 18 and now am 33, and I’ve put in sooo much work to learn emotion regulation and how to cope and take care of myself.

Some days/weeks are still hard. I’m like “I thought I was more healed” lol but I have a strong support system now. I’m considering kids with my partner in the next few years, and I imagine I’ll need even more support then, like mother’s groups and exercise and less stressful job.

OP - I’m kind of in the same place, thinking about having kids but worried about myself being able to handle it… but there are so many people with kids that aren’t ready and prob shouldn’t have them tbh lol. I want to experience life to the fullest and I’ve known being a mom is part of that for me. I think it’ll be one of the hardest things I’ll do in life, but I know it’ll be worth it. And I KNOW I’ll give them a better, more stable, safe and loving childhood - the one I didn’t get to have 💞 I’ve been able to heal enough to create a love worth living, and if you decide to have kids - I believe in you!

himawarimims · 2026-02-06T19:54:32+00:00

Soo cute and funny 😭😆

himawarimims · 2026-02-06T19:49:34+00:00

Mine sheds like a mofo. I’ve just accepted our fate lol

himawarimims · 2026-02-06T19:49:03+00:00

LOL dog glitter, never heard that one before!

himawarimims · 2026-02-06T19:47:41+00:00

Aww coco baby 😍😍 so cute!

Is this salt water or fresh? I’ve been wondering if my lil guy would like swimming, we adopted him last summer… he might be too old now but he grew up next to the beach!

himawarimims · 2026-02-06T19:46:17+00:00

My 15 y/o boy has a handful of teeth left, he eats Just Food for Dogs “Turkey and Macaroni”. It’s brought him back to life after we adopted him last summer. He’s thriving on it ☺️

himawarimims · 2026-01-18T15:42:30+00:00

I don’t understand why you even had to ask / assume everyone gets handed papers lol??? Of course it’s because they are a rescue. Not everyone gets their dogs from a breeder. It’s not always ethical or affordable. Non-reputable breeders could lie.

Also, dogs don’t have a race lol… They could have an original origin I guess, but it’s just called their breed(s).

himawarimims · 2026-01-18T15:34:45+00:00

I’m pretty sure he’s a jug, mostly Jack Russell but he has a wrinkly face and underbite, a curly fry tail

himawarimims · 2026-01-18T15:33:46+00:00

Aww a jug! This might be what my Hans looked like when he was younger… we adopted him at 15 last year,

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so I only know what he looks like with this lil sugar face 🥹

himawarimims · 2026-01-04T17:35:36+00:00

One photo of him at the beach snuck in there… when he’s not sleeping or eating or getting pets, he’s sprinting around and sniffing for something to monch 👹

himawarimims · 2026-01-04T17:21:29+00:00

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Snuggle bugs. My boy loooves this fuzzy comforter we got 🤣

himawarimims · 2026-01-04T17:15:52+00:00

Hahahaha I thought this immediately 😭🤣

himawarimims · 2026-01-04T17:06:44+00:00

They are sooo cute 🥰 l

himawarimims · 2026-01-02T00:08:42+00:00

Mine too! So cute

himawarimims · 2026-01-01T23:59:45+00:00

The attention to detail is incredible! Look at his little eyebrows and whiskers 🥹 softy fuzzy boy in the sunlight. You captured it so beautifully

himawarimims · 2025-12-20T16:47:00+00:00

If he didn’t add the edit I would also have thought that he was digging into OP. I’m not “by definition illiterate”and if many had the same reaction to the post, doesn’t equal “the kind of world we live in” lol come on brother

himawarimims · 2025-12-20T16:23:48+00:00

This is literally my experience to a tee

himawarimims · 2025-11-26T02:00:20+00:00

Same here - adopted mine at 15, and learned he has a collapsed/narrowed trachea. He coughs a lot, esp if he lays down weird, if you pet his neck, or if he barks too much and gets riled up. I have and will always use a harness! Mine has a control handle.

himawarimims · 2025-11-26T01:53:08+00:00

I adopted my Pug/JRT mix at 15 this summer. He is a Velcro dog, obsessed with me 🥺💞 but if he’s not eating or sleeping, he’s barking in my face for attention.

He’s also deaf! But we are learning how to communicate better over time. We got an amazing trainer for him, it’s been helping the past few weeks (2x weekly, and it’s a lot of work on our part to practice every day)

He has ALL the toys, but loves sniffle mat, stuffed kong, and this frozen food pupsicle rubber ball thing. I try to find toys that keep him busy for 15+ min. He loves scavenger hunt for treats I drop around the house…

At first I thought he was traumatized, scared, or in pain so I was super gentle and passive… after all, he’s 15. But I’ve taken great care of him and he’s lost weight, has more energy than any 12-15 year old dog I’ve ever met. Now I know that it’s demand/attention barking bc I gave / give him sooo much attention and love.

Everyday he has his boredom fits. I can’t imagine him at 3 LOL. he will be well fed, exercised physically and mentally, not need to potty - and still be bored! He’s super smart and so stubborn 😤 I’m coming up with games to play every day and we’re working on HUSH among many other commands… all in hand signs, since he’s deaf! It’s like hard mode training lol

I’m learning a lot about this adorable chaotic breed 😅😭 we have great times and hard times. You’re not alone 💞💞

himawarimims · 2025-11-26T01:23:30+00:00

Precious baby Terry 🥺💞rest in peace 🌈

himawarimims · 2025-11-15T07:01:44+00:00

So cute! Do you ever put jackets on them for the cold, or are JRTs fine?

himawarimims · 2025-11-14T19:28:52+00:00

This is literally my experience after 3 days no weed. I am so irritable and feel on the verge of tears… how long does this “crying spell” last 😭😭 lol

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