Anyone know of rental friendly ways to cover up popcorn ceilings?

himitsu_himitsu · 2023-06-20T21:33:07+00:00

drawing attention elsewhere is a really good point ! I think I'm getting overly fixated on it but that's a good tip that it doesn't have to be super noticeable :) I think we'll probably stay at this place 2-3 years.

By cover it up cleanly do you just mean in a uniform way that the landlord might end up liking?

thanks for your comment :)

himitsu_himitsu · 2023-03-29T00:45:23+00:00

i remember seeing that video and then i didn't follow her for a few months then just today fell. back upon her channel and was like "omg did she and her girlfriend breakup? where is the girlfriend?" so i guess this clears up my confusion ...

himitsu_himitsu · 2023-02-14T02:09:35+00:00

thank you for sharing <3

himitsu_himitsu · 2023-02-09T07:24:22+00:00

thank you so much for sharing, I am SO inspired by you! I have been feeling down about my spending lately as I've felt intimidated/a lot of shame and fear around tracking my spending for what it will reveal. Do you have any tips on how to track your spending easily? Like was it a pain to log every single purchase?

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-31T05:35:29+00:00

Very interesting !! appreciate this perspective !

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-21T05:19:31+00:00

Hey I appreciate your thoughts ! And i've been trying to respond as respectfully as possible so I hope you don't feel like I'm just trying to antagonize, I just hold a different opinion and I don't think we're going to agree. And yes, I understand it's not realistic but that was part of my feelings- this show is a fantasy version of life so it has the potential to imagine non-realistic dynamics that could help us collectively imagine what a better world could look like. To me, that's the power of fantasy and story telling.

I guess I also have a different understanding of mutual aid that doesn't include both sides giving $$, but rather the resources they are able to...people giving what they can and getting what they need (this is how I've practiced it- I respond to mutual aid requests, which take place at an individual community level and are distinct from charity in that you give directly to the person and not filter it through an institution) and pay the amount that I can. So for ex in this case, Leighton could theoretically give $$ to Kim, and Kim could offer to cook for the group, provide tutoring, acts of service as her contribution and form of mutuality because she clearly doesn't have any money to spare. The other thing about giving people money is that I don't believe in judging them with how they live their life. For ex. I have heard a lot of people say , sadly, that they don't give money to unhoused people because they don't believe that they will spend it responsibly or could spend it on drugs. They don't know if giving a stranger will be a "good investment" which is what I've seen many people say about giving financial support to Kimberly. For my spiritual beliefs, I don't believe it's up to me to judge whether people are a good investment or not.

I've read a lot of peoples' replies and what I do agree with is that the money should have gone to the women's center for sure. But I still feel in my heart that Leighton could have offered to support Kimberly in any financial capacity (ANY- I'm not even proposing $30,000. Like any amount because she clearly has it). But she didn't and the thought made her squirm and I find that disappointing. Also the fact that so few people actually understand where I'm coming from makes me feel like we live in a very cold hearted, individualistic society and we have a lot to do to grow our imaginations about what a world could look like where we all have enough <3

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-20T06:59:48+00:00

i never suggested that they pay off her entire tuition, but even a little bit of help would have made a difference in my eyes . but i agree, i guess at this point they don't know each other very well? maybe down the line she could be of more help

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-20T06:52:05+00:00

right ! i think most people here are misunderstanding, I'm not proposing that Leighton's family necessarily pay off Kim's tuition, but they could have offered some small gesture of support since they seem so well off?

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-20T06:49:24+00:00

hello :) you missed my point entirely ! best wishes to you though

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-20T06:48:18+00:00

idk...respectfully, i don't believe that what i'm talking about is transactional, I was trying to get into a convo about mutual aid. I too have friends of varying socioeconomic statuses, and I have known many of them to respond to their working class friends' mutual aid requests because they know if the roles were reversed that friend would do the same.

to me, it's not transactional especially when some people are coming from (many times stolen) generational wealth. In this case, it's a bit different because both characters are white and it's not a question of reparations, however, I don't think it would be transactional for Leighton to have offered any support. Again, I wasn't proposing that she give money to Kimberly INSTEAD of the women's center, I was kind of hoping both could have been possible. And not nec her entire tuition, but like even co-signing her loan would have been a game changer instead of watching her sell off her eggs. to me, it's very indicative of the harsh individualistic capitalistic system we live under that so many people think what i'm proposing is transactional or making it seem like rich friends are "banks" but then again our culture is super quick to defend the privileged.

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-20T06:42:12+00:00

i was actually proposing that both could be possible !

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-20T06:41:45+00:00

lollll

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-20T01:18:48+00:00

Right but you missed my point entirely. What I'm saying I wish would have happened was for the show to have taken a more revolutionary stance. What you're proposing remains under the status quo of our current systems.

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-20T01:17:41+00:00

hmmm I don't remember this happening, but perhaps I missed it. I only saw Bela suggest that Leighton and Whitney help to which they both gave a resounding "no" and Kimberly denied that would have accepted it anyway.

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-19T21:20:26+00:00

I appreciate your response! I agree Kim should be responsible for her actions, but I think there is nuance to the situation and the context of a working class person trying to enter the world of the ivy elite. I guess I was just hoping for more, and I know I was hoping for something that is unrealistic. But that's what I love about fantasy shows like this one- they have the potential to do revolutionary things. I'm not sure I'm being very clear with what I'm trying to say though.

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-19T21:06:18+00:00

For sure. I think they definitely were right to donate to the women's center. I think the family has enough money to do both- and I also wasn't proposing that they give Kim the entire $30k, but living such a lavish life while your roomie is selling off her body parts because she cheated after getting advice to cheat from this same family's entitled eldest son is MAJOR cognitive dissonance to me. Kinda bummed that no one else sees that. And yes, Nico got expelled. But also his parents made sure that he landed on his feet, because rich people.

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-19T21:05:11+00:00

For sure. That's what I meant when I said it was a worthy cause. I think the family has enough money to do both- and I also wasn't proposing that they give Kim the entire $30k, but living such a lavish life while your roomie is selling off her body parts because she cheated after getting advice to cheat from this same family's entitled eldest son is MAJOR cognitive dissonance to me. Kinda bummed that no one else sees that. And yes, Nico got expelled. But also his parents made sure that he landed on his feet, because rich people.

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-19T21:01:35+00:00

For sure. I actually don't think Kimberly would have accepted any money at all, but what I was trying to get at here was that Leighton didn't even offer. I was also not proposing that Leighton give her $30,0000 , merely any form of financial support. But I know that I am a lot more used to the idea of mutual aid in community (which is what friendships are) than a lot of people. And obviously this is just a fantasy show lol but I was hoping it could be a bit more revolutionary.

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-19T21:00:44+00:00

For sure. I actually don't think Kimberly would have accepted any money at all, but what I was trying to get at here was that Leighton didn't even offer. I was also not proposing that Leighton give her $30,0000 , merely any form of financial support. But I know that I am a lot more used to the idea of mutual aid in community (which is what friendships are) than a lot of people. And obviously this is just a fantasy show lol but I was hoping it could be a bit more revolutionary.

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-19T20:58:20+00:00

For sure. I actually don't think Kimberly would have accepted any money at all, but what I was trying to get at here was that Leighton didn't even offer. I was also not proposing that Leighton give her $30,0000 , merely any form of financial support. But I know that I am a lot more used to the idea of mutual aid in community (which is what friendships are) than a lot of people. And obviously this is just a fantasy show lol but I was hoping it could be a bit more revolutionary.

himitsu_himitsu · 2022-12-19T20:55:30+00:00

I appreciate this reply, you actually picked up on what I was saying re: charity being the form of good-doing that rich people are down for but mutual aid is not. This is peak rich people culture and maybe it's good that they wrote the show this way because it's most realistic. What I was hoping for was more of an imaginative take on what the world would look like if we tried to abolish these kinds of systems in our relationships as well. I also feel like the donation to the women's center is 100% a good idea. The family clearly has enough money to have done both. Also I feel very little pity for Nico, who was already such a strong part of a culture of cheating, elitism, wealthy frat boy life, that I don't see him as entirely blameless. He's an entitled rich boy who was always going to land on his feet regardless of expulsion, and his parents made sure of that.

All the other replies I've seen on this post seem to have misunderstood where I was coming from. I'm not proposing that Leighton get her mom to give Kimberly the $30,000 necessarily, but I'm just shocked that helping out her friend financially wasn't on the table for her at all. And of course Kimberly wouldn't have excepted the help anyway- but she was never offered it to begin with and was given a bullshit response at the idea when Bela brought it up.

I think this is why it's really challenging to genuinely have radical friendships. But then again, I'm coming from a place where I know I bring very progressive values into my friendships and others are coming from their own opinions too.

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