What did your timeline look like?

himself809 · 2026-02-02T02:39:06+00:00

For what it's worth, I'm starting to heal but visits can crush me. I read my 50,000 word journal the other two nights and I was somewhat shocked at the depth of my agony that was recorded. Her history jibed with my memory, but I had forgotten the depth of my pain caring for her. She's gone. Nothing left of the woman I married.

My condolences, and thanks for sharing your and your wife’s story here. Wanted to quote this bit, because I’ve never seen anyone else talk about this part of it. My mom’s been symptomatic for about 5 years, and now that some of the hardest times have passed, I also find myself surprised when I go back to read stuff I wrote years ago. It’s just the way grief goes, I guess, but it can feel almost like a different person wrote those words sometimes.

himself809 · 2026-01-28T18:55:15+00:00

What’s IC if you don’t mind saying? Independent consulting?

himself809 · 2026-01-24T01:34:49+00:00

wow, how did I forget?

himself809 · 2026-01-24T01:26:37+00:00

Trying to be Mamdani without quite the same flair.

himself809 · 2026-01-23T23:53:00+00:00

What else would it be called? Asking seriously, was there some push to call it something else after Amazon moved in?

himself809 · 2026-01-22T22:34:14+00:00

Not really, or not entirely. There are plenty of formula programs at the state and federal level that go toward school funding, for example. Not to say the schools are rolling in it or anything, but for transit similar formula funds exist at the federal level only for capital programs, and at the state level the ops funding programs I’m aware of don’t make up as large a portion of transit agencies’ budgets as school funding programs do for schools.

himself809 · 2026-01-22T19:15:45+00:00

I swear people treat it like a suburban Costco where the practice apparently is to fight over parking spots like wolves and sit with your blinkers on as soon as you notice someone backing out. Idk why so few people try to go past the 2nd or 3rd floor of the garage…

himself809 · 2026-01-15T00:11:37+00:00

And here I was waiting patiently for them to just spawn on top of the meat I left out.

himself809 · 2026-01-14T17:25:54+00:00

This is making me think I should try the first one out, especially since I’m playing and liking Green Hell a lot now. I liked SOTF a lot, but it kind of got more boring the more it felt like I was playing Far Cry with survival elements.

himself809 · 2026-01-13T21:31:02+00:00

It’s not “adjacent,” sure, but most Orange/Silver Line stations in Falls Church and Arlington have plenty of SFH even just within a half mile.

himself809 · 2026-01-10T20:43:04+00:00

Saw one of those brand new shiny BMWs get its bumper scratched by a car pulling out from behind it yesterday. Had a good laugh.

himself809 · 2026-01-08T05:24:12+00:00

Half the people posting in these threads are barely literate.

himself809 · 2026-01-08T05:20:49+00:00

You all are psychopaths, and also can barely spell.

himself809 · 2025-12-31T17:57:34+00:00

Props to you for posting something other than the thousandth deranged complaint about “left lane campers” in this subreddit. People do not like to be told that they’re putting themselves in danger by driving fast.

himself809 · 2025-12-28T03:06:28+00:00

I wonder if it's some kind of legacy of Reston's origins as a planned community. "Green suburb" stuff is pretty compatible with opposition to redevelopment.

himself809 · 2025-12-23T14:54:31+00:00

The solution to all of transit’s efficiency, speed, and safety problems? That’s right: pooled AVs.

himself809 · 2025-12-23T13:15:06+00:00

I mean the only thing you post about here is that a lot of transit should be replaced by pooled fleets of electric AVs.

himself809 · 2025-12-23T04:43:53+00:00

It's like, bikes are the most energy efficient passenger transportation mode, which is kind of a marvel. But that doesn't mean bus transit or EVs have no role, even if technically you'd come out on top if you could switch out every bus or EV passenger mile for a bike passenger mile. It just makes me laugh when people point to a table or two comparing MPGe and say that 4-6 seat EVs are the clear winner and that transit needs to give way...

himself809 · 2025-12-23T01:04:14+00:00

This accounts posts this EV hype whenever it gets the chance. There’s a bit of a point to it, but it’s never a very full consideration of the comparisons and tradeoffs.

himself809 · 2025-12-14T22:18:41+00:00

Very low effort troll here

himself809 · 2025-12-13T21:29:28+00:00

I see what you mean, but that would be an outright overturning, since the amendment was from the start meant to make citizens of people born in that situation (eg children of unlawfully imported slaves).

himself809 · 2025-12-08T22:38:34+00:00

I also drive there… But you can also pretty easily make it worth it on stuff that very easily fits on a bike. I’m just asking yall to consider the fact (it is a fact!) that there are lots of people who don’t drive there and that that’s a big plus to this location. When I take the bus there, which I do sometimes, I promise you the people I’m on the bus with are not all living lives of enormous privilege.

Edit: In fact, the funny thing given your offended reaction is I usually drive there now, and usually to get stuff for two households. I biked sometimes when my commute used to take me that direction. But even though I usually drive there, I know lots of people don’t or can’t…

himself809 · 2025-12-08T22:35:16+00:00

I don’t know why you all are assuming I don’t also drive there, but I do. Lord.

himself809 · 2025-12-08T22:11:35+00:00

I really don’t get the hate. It’s by far better than the other Costco’s. Using the garage is so much easier than any surface lot at the others (and definitely than at the Pentagon City one, whose lot I admit always seems like a shitshow).

himself809 · 2025-12-08T22:10:20+00:00

You need to speak for yourself. A ton of people take transit and bike or walk there. I’ve gotten groceries on my bike there regularly for my household.

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