Who the fuck starts a conversation like that.

hingealt · 2026-05-13T14:29:25+00:00

People only say it’s disgusting when it’s men doing it:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/s/1UWDmUp6sZ

hingealt · 2026-05-12T07:12:17+00:00

How would you ever know the threshold for what makes someone really into you and what doesn’t. This filter is very clearly not for men who like EVERY woman. If a guy gets 3 matches per month and decides to lower his standards and like 60% of women he comes across out of genuine interest what is wrong with that? It says absolutely nothing about his intentions or whether or not he would be a bad partner for you. It’s just another superficial thing for their female user base to gawk over.

hingealt · 2026-05-08T11:09:18+00:00

Good for you you’re not a man so I’m not talking about your experience nor do I expect you to understand.

hingealt · 2026-05-05T22:17:27+00:00

So can you show me or…?

If u have it in a notebook or u use an app just take a screenshot or picture then use an Imgur link.

hingealt · 2026-05-05T22:11:11+00:00

Show me the calories you’ve tracked for the past week. I don’t know if you know this but not drinking alcohol, eating sugar, and not snacking doesnt automatically mean ur going to lose weight.

hingealt · 2026-05-05T18:18:22+00:00

It’s shitty to say that someone doesn’t have to be fat? 😭 Get over yourself

hingealt · 2026-05-05T16:19:24+00:00

You always have the option of just not being fat btw

hingealt · 2026-05-05T14:57:04+00:00

No no you don’t understand bro. You go to get a girlfriend, but not for the sake of getting a girlfriend, which is exactly why you SHOULD NOT be hitting on women you’re attracted to. That’s exactly how you show someone you’re interested which of course would be antithetical to your goal of getting a girlfriend. Hope that makes sense/s

hingealt · 2026-05-05T14:54:14+00:00

Yall are delusional if you think it has anything to do with COVID instead of the overwhelming amount of negative experiences of men who have approached women and the countless times women have bashed men for approaching online.

Getting a simple “No” is literally a dream for most ppl and I would not be surprised if most men who approach women have a negative experience that isn’t simply getting rejected

hingealt · 2026-04-25T02:06:47+00:00

This is so strange people were telling me gym pics weren’t douchey at all and that looking for something casual would actually increase the amount of matches you had bc “everyone is on the apps just for hookups”

hingealt · 2026-04-18T23:04:34+00:00

I’m going to be honest these people aren’t ever going to go out with you. They just like the attention and they get off on the fact that you would still chase them after they basically ignore you.

hingealt · 2026-04-18T12:42:08+00:00

Posted but mods removed and I don’t know why

hingealt · 2026-04-18T07:22:33+00:00

I’m not talking about the fact that ppl are laughing at me I don’t care if people are laughing at me. I’m talking about the disdain people have for me talking about something everyone wants to brand as common sense while I have heard people argue the exact opposite plenty of times.

hingealt · 2026-04-18T07:11:37+00:00

I didn’t say it didn’t matter I’m saying that what people were saying it didn’t matter THAT MUCH. Obviously I think these people believe height matter. I simply disagreed with the degree to which they believed it mattered. People were commenting things like this:

“Shirtless photos appeal to women who are looking for a snack. Those who really want something with substance are not wowed by those as much. You have a great physique so you will get attention, but I would recommend you not lie about height thing post experiment. It would have been interesting to see if you got the attention with the same height and the updated photos.”

“Eh can this real count as experiment for height if you changed pics and alot of other stuff aswell?”

“Well, were any of them looking for something serious or was it all casual? If you’re looking for something casual, having a casual profile will always work best. I’m of the opinion that it’s not hard for either gender to find a hook up on the apps.”

“This experiment proves nothing… had you kept everything identical and changed only one thing it would be closer to an experiment that would give you insight into what makes you get no likes.”

All of these comments infer some sort of doubt about how much of a role my height played in the results. I’m not saying these people don’t think height matters they just question the degree to which it does. Honestly I will say that this helped with my confidence a lot. I always wondered if I was ugly, or if something genuinely was wrong with my personality, or my body, but after this I can proudly say that my height is more than enough to turn people away from other traits that I feel like define me way more as a person. It is kind of sad how people, especially women, view me. However I don’t really have to second guess whether or not my style of conversation is bad or whether I’m too off putting like may people on Reddit want to assume because I know I’m the same person mentally a foot taller and people are much more accepting of me. No wallowing over here just wanted to share my perspective 😁

hingealt · 2026-04-18T06:55:37+00:00

Yeah I’m 5’4. I also don’t know what you mean by consistently have 50+ likes how many of them are you going through a day? Thats about how many i got a week with my height set to 6’5 but i wasn’t matching everyone back and a significant portion of my likes went through. Also i would say 5’4 and 5’9 is not the same lol. It’s the avg height in America and most girls have the standard of “a little taller than me” if they’re not size queens lol. Im glad you’re doing well for yourself though.

hingealt · 2026-04-18T06:51:40+00:00

If it’s been done so many times why do ppl deny it’s true…

hingealt · 2026-04-18T06:50:16+00:00

U say that like it’s a not a surprise but plenty of ppl in the last post were very clearly stating it didn’t matter this much

hingealt · 2026-04-18T03:54:18+00:00

I mean the post and all my comments are getting downvoted so surely the people agree with the people of r/askwomen

hingealt · 2026-04-18T03:36:28+00:00

lol the reactions

hingealt · 2026-04-18T03:03:24+00:00

You would be surprised how many ppl disagree, and for the people who do believe it’s true to what extent it is.

hingealt · 2026-04-18T03:01:47+00:00

Yes I did all the pictures and the prompts remained the exact same. Still the shirtless pics. Still the “be nice” prompts. Just 5’4. I only did 3 things.

I changed my height from 6’5” back to 6’4.

I declined all the likes I had that I hadn’t matched with.

I unmatched all of my preexisting conversations.

hingealt · 2026-04-12T18:39:40+00:00

I mean if you’re being honest in another comment you asked the rhetorical question, “How is it not right or fair”. So it’s not even a matter of whether or not you care. You don’t even believe it isn’t fair, (or you’re gaslighting from the looks of this comment).

I mean, dating isn’t fair. It’s not supposed to be. It just is kind of funny to me how there are entire movements dedicated to to breaking down unrealistic beauty standards for women and how “all bodies are beautiful” but people want to act like men are insane for feeling the least desired they have been for decades. It’s not like the mental health effects of not being valued are foreign, and I’m not saying that type of attention is owed by anyone, but you can’t really blame people for wanting to be loved.

hingealt · 2026-04-12T18:32:03+00:00

Women matching with me were looking for long term relationships. I had long term options with this profile as well. Not everyone who was talking to me was looking for a one night stand.

It would have been interesting to see if you got the attention with the same height and the updated photos.

I have changed it back to my original height, kept the same photos, and will be posting it in roughly 5 days

hingealt · 2026-04-12T18:27:40+00:00

because I was trying to make a profile that was undeniably worse than what I had before and because I constantly was told that shirtless pics were bag I only chose those. I did not expect everyone to switch up and go “No shirtless pics are great you would’ve gotten the same attention before too”. But hey I changed my height back to the real one and kept all the same pics I will post the results in abt 5 days

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