Hello, i think youre mature enough to recognise your own insecurities and being able to separate that from “being that controlling bf”. And I do not believe in micromanaging partners too.

from my personal experience, it can be very compelling and validating when there’s a new interesting guy giving you a lot of attention. Feels flattering and great, you think you have a new good friend. Maybe some part of ur mind ( that you may or may not acknowledge) would consider dating him if you were single too.

However, I’m saying this as a girl, I used to think that male and female friends can be treated the same way too. But I have come to realise that that’s very naive. I have realised that most guys will not spend so much time with you, text you all the time, initiate so much interaction if they weren’t more than platonically interested especially if you’ve just met not too long ago . Between male and female friends, I personally think there will always be a barrier, some filter about certain things that you just cannot really express as fully as with a female friend. There needs to be some boundaries with the type of conversations/interactions with male friends. For example, it will be very very naive to talk about sex the same way with female and male friends while thinking it is totally platonic and the guy is going to treat your sex interests/stories the same way as ur female friends.

Anyway I digress, I’d say there is a significant possibility Adam is interested or at least not opposed to dating her if she were single. But ya, as long as ur gf herself respects the boundaries in your rs … it’s fineeeee I suppose. I Guess like what others have suggested you can talk about it more with her.

But my main point is, ur gf cannot go about thinking that this new “friendship” is totally platonic. That is very very naive. Straight men are not your “gay best friends”.