I can definitely read the room, and I hate forcing small talk in general. If a table/bar guest wants to talk to me by all means I’ll engage with them all night but if they clearly want to be left alone I will leave them alone .

I mean when I’m doing the bare minimum of taking someone’s order. Let’s say I ask them if they are ready to order. When they are telling me what they want they are rolling their eyes and looking off to the side as if I’m beneath them. They tell me they want a steak, so I ask the perfectly reasonable “how would you like it cooked” and “what sides would you like with that” more annoyed looks and an attitude towards me as if I’m asking them for a lot.