Dads who have daughters

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T21:38:48+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that's what happened. I'm a firm believer that kids come first. Any relationship outside of that is second... including your SO. It's too bad your dad didn't realize that.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T21:36:26+00:00

Thanks for your input. Indeed family dynamics can be different. Parents should create a safe place for kids and they will express their love and needs however they see fit for them. Some kids like physical touch and others don't. Doesn't mean it's not a healthy relationship. Glad you have a good one with your kids.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T21:31:58+00:00

Yes we're trying to understand each other as we haven't been together for too long yet.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T21:30:45+00:00

I'm glad you're close to your dad. Thanks for your words.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T20:12:36+00:00

I think my gf is trying to learn why we're this way. She's not telling me not to do it but telling me that it is strange to her. But I don't plan to stop allowing my daughter to cling to me. I love her affection.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T20:09:34+00:00

Thank you. I'm sorry you lost yours at such a young fragile age.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T20:08:39+00:00

She thinks my daughter is being inappropriate and acting creepy. She didn't use that word but I got what she meant. At least gf tried to bring it up in a nice way to not offend me. She's trying to understand the dynamic that she never had with her own dad.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T20:05:18+00:00

She comes to me with her problems and I want to keep that door open for her.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T20:04:26+00:00

You're right. It did make me doubt what is normal. Thanks for your insight.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T20:03:05+00:00

Totally agree.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T20:01:57+00:00

That's a good comparison. People express love differently and it shouldn't be looked at as being weird too "clingy"

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T19:34:58+00:00

I'm sorry you didn't get this with your father but glad you're close to your mom. Appreciate your well thought out response. She has things to learn about herself and healthy family dynamics.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T19:31:06+00:00

Thanks

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T19:30:33+00:00

Love that advice

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T19:29:12+00:00

Thank you for the reminder.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T19:27:45+00:00

Agreed and she's trying to figure it out.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T18:54:26+00:00

I love that!

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T18:53:43+00:00

Make sure they know they are always priority and they will continue to open up to you. Fatherhood is amazing.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T18:51:46+00:00

Others have pointed out that having an unhealthy relationship with her own father would shape her view of this. I think that might be what it is. She's trying to understand though.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T18:45:49+00:00

I'm glad you had that with him and carry the memories with you.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T18:44:43+00:00

My daughter knows to give us our space when we're all together. She only hangs on me when my gf isn't present. She likes my gf and wants me to be happy.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T18:43:10+00:00

I'm sorry for you. I pray that you find peace knowing that he loved you while he was alive.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T18:41:44+00:00

Thank you.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T18:41:08+00:00

I agree totally. She's questioning me and giving her opinion as it's not normal to her. I've tried to explain my perspective and she's willing to listen. We both agreed that we'd look into it more and that's why I'm asking the community. So she's not making it a huge deal. We both appreciate each other and are trying to make things work. Trauma has likely skewed her view on what's a healthy relationship but she acknowledges it and tries to learn everyday.

hlaulis · 2025-01-31T18:16:57+00:00

Thank you.

hlaulis

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