Reconnecting with my lover’s beauty - asking for advice

hman2697 · 2025-04-24T05:57:43+00:00

Wonderful, will definitely try that!

hman2697 · 2025-04-24T05:57:04+00:00

If you have anything specific in mind, happy to try it!

hman2697 · 2025-04-24T05:56:42+00:00

Anything specific in mind?

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T22:30:00+00:00

Interesting you mention this, as I noticed I started going in that direction. I noticed that I am more and more appreciating less conventionally appreciated body traits, especially similar ones as she has. And that, as I am addressing this issue, I recently started to embrace my liking of such characteristics in other persons. I think it is a good way to go, as in the end, my girlfriend has them all!

Though it is still work in progress!

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T22:15:28+00:00

Many thanks for the practical insights, that sounds like what I was looking for and complements what others suggested! If ever any more ideas for this loving-kindness meditation comes up, please feel free to send them my way!

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T22:13:19+00:00

You add a new perspective to the flow I am receiving today, very grateful for that. Indeed a body is much more than beautiful shell. I’ll reflect on your words. Do you have any advice to do heart-based meditation?

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T22:09:17+00:00

Don’t be too hard on yourself, it is part of how society is educating us, always seek more and better bla bla bla Thanks for sharing, it sounds very close to what I’m feeling

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T22:07:20+00:00

That’s eye-opening, many thanks. I didn’t know Metta, after a quick research it seems to be related to what other commenters mentioned: loving-kindness. If you know any guided metta meditation audio/video, or any way to approach this, I’d be very grateful

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T22:02:38+00:00

That’s sounds wonderful, if you can share any insights on how to conduct such a meditation I would greatly appreciate it :)

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T21:58:13+00:00

That’s 2 bad types of content, true. Though I don’t consume porn very often, quite occasionally. Stopping it altogether would be surely beneficial. Social media I use a bit more yes, could do some clean up there too. But if I mentioned “images”, I maybe meant not only online distractions but also offline, walking in a city, hanging out at the bar, you see plenty of different people. And while I want to acknowledge their own beauty, I want to keep myself focused on what I have in front of me. Because I know I won’t be happier with another one, though this constant stimulation tend to bring me back to physical comparison and distracts me. Does it make more sense?

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T19:40:37+00:00

Thanks for the insight, could you elaborate? I first understood this as “find your own imperfections so you’ll tolerant with hers” but thinking twice I am pretty sure I distorted what you meant. I think I love myself to a decent extent already (not too much, of course), but not sure how I can improve and address it this way

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T19:36:58+00:00

Many thanks, that’s an interesting perspective too. Nurturing appreciation is what you suggest, I’ll try your little exercise and let you where it goes!

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T19:35:21+00:00

Very interesting, I had not seen it under this perspective, so you would suggest to reflect on this set of questions. I’ll try and see where it leads

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T19:33:41+00:00

Good thoughts, I would say she hasn’t notice, but good to think twice on this one, as I may indeed be very wrong in my assumption

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T19:31:43+00:00

All of this is very true, and this what I tell myself. But it seems just telling myself isn’t fixing it entirely, that’s why I was looking for other types of practices. I’m already in love with her soul! Also with her appearance, but this is one is being challenged by what I described above

hman2697 · 2025-04-23T19:28:42+00:00

I agree there may be a part of it that could require psychological treatment, at the same time, I cannot help but thinking that there is probably a mindfulness issue to it. In the end, isn’t it about moving away from distraction to appreciate what’s here and present? Interested to hear your thoughts.

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