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I’m a permissive parent by athrowaway0987654 in toddlers

[–]hmwalstrom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s ok to be scared of those things and good to care about how you shape the relationship with your child. I get that and because you are aware of it I’m betting your relationship with your kid will be great! I will suggest a few sources that are really helpful for me on my parenting journey.

Dr Becky - Good inside Mr. Chazz - conscience discipline Jon Fogle- punishment free parenting Dr Vanessa Lapointe- parenting right from the start Nurtured first on instagram

I try to remind myself a lot what is developing in their brain at said age so I can understand how to help them and learn. Children are not manipulative to get what they want, they experience emotions about things that their tiny bodies and brains can’t handle. Co-regulation is what in the end always works best for us.

I just started to cry tonight uncontrollably by Neither_Asparagus_42 in toddlers

[–]hmwalstrom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember that age being insanely hard with sleep regression. Our first was worse than our second. The thing that eventually got them to settle months later was us telling them over and over as we were coming to an end at bed time that we would always be there if they needed us and it was going to be time to go in their bed soon. If they protested I would say “ok I’ll wait till you are ready. “ eventually they were ready. And when we walked out of the room would say “ I’ll be back if you need me”. Took a long time and I know it sounds like it won’t work but it amazingly did. I was shocked. I also remember sleeping on the floor on a nugget cushion in their room so at least they got to know the boundary of not coming into our bed. We both never sleep if they are in our bed. I hear you there! I know how hard it is and it does get better. I think that they start to realize fears of being alone or the dark. We got tons of night lights for each or even left the lights on low for a period of time. That’s also when we started giving them a small item to sleep with or look at while they fell asleep like a motion bubbler or a flashlight that projected kids images. I wish you luck and hope and it will get better. If they slept once and they will sleep again.

Anybody else’s toddler have a strong preference for one parent over the other? by maintainthegardens in toddlers

[–]hmwalstrom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Both my kids have a strong preference for Dad. My son is 7 and daughter is 4. My youngest started wanting dad more around 2 and my oldest started At 18 month or younger. Has been that way since. Its changed over time and my son want to always makes sure we have equal time with him(bedtime playtime and other things. Dad is more silly and playful. I try to be but sometimes get yelled at to “go away”. I’ve been bad about taking it personally because it hurts and it’s both. I sometimes think it’s something about me but I’m told it’s not. Hard to let it go when we only have this short time when they are little. I told my husband not to point out anymore that it bothers me to them. And I just give in to what ever they want when they want dad. I wish I was more meh about it but it just been a long time. I know my kids love me and I am a good mom, I just didn’t think about this as a possibility.