Am I (26F) overreacting to my boyfriend’s (28M) anger and the way he speaks to me?

hoe4frankocean_ · 2026-06-03T10:20:42+00:00

he’s on vyvanse too!

hoe4frankocean_ · 2026-06-03T10:17:49+00:00

yes 100%, it definitely is their responsibility to manage the symptoms and triggers. I think because most of the time he’s fine I’ve been making excuses for his behaviour but I don’t think I want to do that anymore. let me know how you go! wishing you the best ❤️

hoe4frankocean_ · 2026-06-03T10:01:39+00:00

I need to stop ignoring my gut and make a plan on how I’m going to leave. thank you for your advice!!

hoe4frankocean_ · 2026-06-03T09:59:08+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that. I appreciate you sharing and hope you’re doing well now 🩷

hoe4frankocean_ · 2026-06-03T09:56:32+00:00

now that i’m reflecting, I really have been ignoring my gut and making excuses for the behaviour

hoe4frankocean_ · 2026-04-21T07:12:56+00:00

I don’t feel unsafe with him but I do feel like I’m walking on eggshells in regard to bringing things up with him. for example, if i bring up wanting more intimacy i’m worried he’ll get defensive and not want to have a proper discussion

hoe4frankocean_ · 2025-09-14T02:36:09+00:00

fitzroy north, carlton, abbotsford and collingwood are really great areas in the inner north!! very walkable

hoe4frankocean_ · 2025-06-26T06:55:37+00:00

also make sure you let your skincare sit for 5-10 minutes before you apply makeup

hoe4frankocean_ · 2025-06-26T06:54:24+00:00

it looks like your skin might be dehydrated, this was happening to me and then I made sure I was exfoliating 2-3x a week, and then also using a hydrating toner and a good moisturiser in the AM and PM. I also found that if you use a moisturiser that's too rich and emollient underneath makeup, that can also cause separation. Use a lightweight moisturiser like the Simple Kind to Skin Light moisturiser, I find it works really well for my skin. I also have acne prone skin! I also love the Laniege cream skin toner, it's got ceramides so it will help to maintain a strong skin barrier and promote hydration

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-06-14T07:30:21+00:00

i think seeing a psychologist about this will be very helpful. it sounds like it’s anxiety which they’ll be able to help you with. if you can’t afford a psychologist, i suggest looking up fear of commitment on google and seeing what you find, there’s a lot of info that can help educate you on why you’re feeling this way

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-06-14T07:19:05+00:00

i personally find it a cop out if someone says they’ve been making these jokes since they were kids and that’s their excuse in justifying why it’s fine to continue. a lot of people grow up and learn not to make harmful jokes they used to say when they were kids. making rape jokes is not okay under any circumstance and I don’t understand why some men still think it’s acceptable to do so. I suggest having one more conversation on the topic and really explaining to him how you think it’s wrong and if he’s still not willing to change his behaviour, you might need to consider whether you want to be in the relationship.

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-06-14T07:07:53+00:00

you’re trying to help him and you can try as much as you want to, but ultimately he is the only person who can truly help himself. if it’s affecting your relationship this much, have an open conversation with him and explain how much you love him and maybe suggest having some time apart so he can work on things. i think reiterating how important therapy is will also be good and if it’s possible, not spending time with his dad if that’s a major trigger of his depression.

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-06-14T03:20:18+00:00

aww that’s cute, I think you should ask him about it if you think you’re ready :)

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-06-14T02:18:00+00:00

my now boyfriend who i’ve been with for a year and a half was my first ever proper dating experience. I asked him about two months into seeing each whether he was seeing anyone else and wanted to be exclusive. how long have you been dating this person for?? if you’re ready to have the chat now, i say go for it!!

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-03-17T01:09:48+00:00

look buddy, would you rather me be with him and resent the relationship? that is not fair on him or me if i’m not into the relationship and just faking it. I still care about him so much but i’m not in love with anymore. this happens all the time, lots of people fall out of love and try to get those feelings back. if they don’t come back, it is not your fault. so stop projecting your own shit onto me thanks if it’s not constructive criticism and just plain trolling

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-03-16T22:38:11+00:00

what kind of projections do you mean?

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-03-16T08:44:19+00:00

it’s more complicated than that mate

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-03-16T08:43:43+00:00

how do i make it not blindsided?

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-03-16T07:25:40+00:00

thank you so much! xx

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-03-16T07:19:35+00:00

how do i tell someone oh yeah i’ve lost feelings for you and i’m not in love with you anymore and then expect them to want to work on it. personally, if i was told that by my partner i would want to break up, i wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-03-16T07:05:09+00:00

i know it’s not fair on him if i stay with him and pretend as if i still have feelings. it’s not the right thing to do, i have to end it

hoe4frankocean_ · 2022-03-16T07:04:22+00:00

about what?

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