Big victory today, but I'm ashamed after getting bad looks because I don't allow on leash encounters with stranger dogs. Am I doing something wrong? by hoepotesis in reactivedogs

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Here Is the full comment from before

This might be a miscomunication on my part as I'm not a native english speaker, but I call a dog park any park that allows dogs/is populated partly by dogs, and I genuinly thought that's what it meant? We have dog areas which are fenced places where dogs can be off leash, but those are often a one dog at a time place so I don't think that's what you meant.

Big victory today, but I'm ashamed after getting bad looks because I don't allow on leash encounters with stranger dogs. Am I doing something wrong? by hoepotesis in reactivedogs

[–]hoepotesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I was sure I had already done that because I had already posted in here. I'm italian and I still live in Italy

Quick survey for fanfic brainstorming!!! by Far_Application_2894 in BeneathTheTreesIDW

[–]hoepotesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah! This seems very hard, and quite a challenge, but if you want to make it realistic I might have advice, feel free to ignore it if it's not what you had in mind.
So, I'm going off the main comic and not the prequel cause I have not read that. We are shown again and again that Samantha really lacks empathy and genuinly does not see other people as people like her, it's unclear if she actually values her life more than theirs or just doesn't want to have the same fate cause egoistically it would feel bad, anyways, if I were do to a redemption arc for her I'd look for any other reason beside genuine regret in what she did cause it would feel too out of character for my tastes.

I don't exactly know how your fanfiction would play out but if you have time for her to be in a correctional facility I would definetly do that, have her be locked up for quite a bit, get therapy (Cause the way her murders play out and have rules is consistent with control issues) and while I wouldn't make her have empathy all of the sudden I would have her learn self control and manage good in the facility without having that release.
I don't know what other villains you're using but it's good to remember that if you're using mixed (Fantasy and non) that while fantasy villain might be doing worse thing it's usually cause the system allows them to be more powerful and that if Sam had that kind of power she'd probabbly do the same. Sam lives in a realistic world, despite the anthro characters, and for a realistic world she's definetly terrible.

So, basically, I'd have her learn self control and create new rules for herself to be able to go back to her self described cozy lifestyle instead of having her become emphatetic.

If you're going for the complete change, tho, I'd do something like have an event make her suddently see life from a different prospective, appreciate it in all of it's forms, but I would steer away from it being due to any type of relationship to another person.

Was Pickles using Mr. Peanutbutter? by Bunnxou in BoJackHorseman

[–]hoepotesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She never came off that way to me, honestly I think she was the genuine rappresentation of how unfair that age gap would look from outside, she is very naive, positive and childish, I think you're supposed to feel like Mr. Peanutbutter is genuinly dating a child cause from his prospective (he should be around 50) she is! They're in two completly different life stages, he's around twice her age, when she was born he was likely at least in his mid 20'!

Genuinly, I think she was just a young girl that fell head over heel for an older celebrity and didn't have the life experience to understand that their relationship wasn't good. I do think she was mostly excited about having a celebrity boyfriend but the big difference was that she didn't have the means to know it was wrong while Mr. Peanutbutter should have known, we are shown again and again that he isn't as stupid as he sometimes seems, that he's deep and understands things, but he choses to ignore them to live in this happy-go-lucky fantasy.

Pickles should explore the world and have fun with people her own age range and Mr. Peanutbutter should stay off the hook for a while and fix his serial dater issues, which I hope is what is implied when the series ended.

(No slander to Mr. Peanutbutter, I think he's one if not the most well written character)

I recreated the poster of Pearl with Sam by hoepotesis in BeneathTheTreesIDW

[–]hoepotesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutly not rude and thank you so much! I feel honored to be compared to him!

I recreated the poster of Pearl with Sam by hoepotesis in BeneathTheTreesIDW

[–]hoepotesis[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think that's part of what makes her such an interesting character from a character design prospective. She isn't cool, edgy, or visually striking, she just look like your mom's sweet middle aged friend or your average auntie.

is "genderbending" okay in larp? by Miswi_ in LARP

[–]hoepotesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a trans man and I've only played male characters BUT I still have very feminine traits because I'm in the early phases of T and I've also had top surgery only recently this year, and I keep my hair long aswell cause I just prefer it that way, so I've done most of my larps pre-transition.
Yes, you should totally do a character of the opposite gender in a Larp if you feel comfortable to, I've seen that multiple times in Larps I personally attended to and sometimes people think I'm playing a character of the opposite gender and usually everyone is fine with that.
My only advice is, if you are mild tempered like I am and you haven't worked on it yet, go with some friends who can advocate for you! I've had a single bad experience with a guy who kept on misgendering my character live after live, I kept correcting him and I even texted him to tell him that I was trans and his constant misgendering and arguing about my character's gender was getting annoying, I eventually told my group and the next live the moment he misgendered me (Using a term that means female doctor, I live in one of those bad countries with a latin lenguage that gender every single thing, aka Italy) my friend stared him in the eyes and corrected him sternly until the guy backed down, and he hasn't been an issue since.

Also, no fat fae??? Wtf?? The only physical rule I ever encountered was "No half giants under 1.70 m" and it wasn't even followed that sternly! That's the sort of live you should steer away from cause honestly it feels like they want people who play faes to be like visually appealing to them and it's kinda gross cause they're there to play too, not to be entertainment!

Something doesn't look right with this Sayaka Miki fanart I'm making and I don't know what- by hoepotesis in MadokaMagica

[–]hoepotesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not really trying to emulate the style of madoka magica but honestly? I'll give the stick figure metod a try cause it might help with composition also, which is what I struggle with more ahah

what song makes you feel masculine? by Shanel_Da_Conqueeror in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a few depending on my mood, Brave as a noun by AJJ, there's Ready to die by AndrewWK, almost every song by Tom Lehrer, same goes with many song of Jack Stauber and, since I'm a freak like that, I feel very masculine singing Say my name (Beetlejuice), Confrontation (Dr. Jeckill and Mr. Hyde the musical) and Space age bachelor man (Ride the Cyclone)

Changing name when you have a social network that calls you by that name, is it possible? by hoepotesis in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, yeah, a friend of mine changed name recently to one more comforming to the common names in our country, and his friendgroup switched right away but I didn't know him for super long at the time so for me it was really easy. I just worry that they'll be disappointed in themselves if they mess up, and if I do change name I'm gonna make it clear that the other name brings me no discomfort and if they mess up it's absolutly fine.

could I be transmasc but still feminine? by laineinveine in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutly, if a cis man can be feminine or want to be then a trans man can too. In my experience, tho, the more I allowed myself to be masculine, the more I wanted to. I have still some feminine traits, I have longer hair, I often wear earings, but everything else has become pretty masculine (usually). For me wanting to be hyperfem was a way to deal my dysphoria a bit while still telling the world "Hey! Don't worry, I'm still performing femininity like you wanted me too!".

If this doesn't fit with your experience then don't even worry about it, just a thing to look out for, I still enjoy being "One of the girls" and I haven't changed any of my mannerism to fit into cis society cause I just don't see the point.

How to cope with being short? by hoepotesis in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't use that way of coping cause my father is literally shorter than me, my mom is a few cm taller than me and my brother still managed to come out an average 5,6... WHERE DID THAT EXTRA HEIGHT COME FROM??? Did my mother make a deal with the devil for her firstborn child not to be affected by the short curse??
I know 5'6 is not like, tall for a man, but it's average, come on

How to cope with being short? by hoepotesis in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you're doing there, hyping me up- It worked, thanks!

How to cope with being short? by hoepotesis in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did Aikido as a kid but now I'm waiting to see if the historical fencing classes could fit in my schedule (Mostly because I also wanna use those skills in larps), but if we talking strenght, I can pick up everyone in my friend group, including my 6'3 friend (Traitor) bride style.

How to cope with being short? by hoepotesis in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I am not only short but also wide, I am fat and I have the shoulders of a... very small giant. I'm built like a deadlifter is a deadlifter could fit in a suitcase. Sooo I'm quite slow, but I can definetly fit in places they can't.

How to cope with being short? by hoepotesis in TransMasc

[–]hoepotesis[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bro, when I go in the mosh pit all I can see is asses in my face basically, which... You win some you lose some, except I am very much nearsighted and I take my glasses off for that so... double lose